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@itislikeaweasel
i love this destiel news i have zero investment in supernatural but you dont have big fandoms like this anymore. literally everyone on social media knows what youre talking about when you talk about it. this is the first time in so long ive seen the entire internet collectively lose its gourd over something that wasnt horrific tragedy and existentially horrific news. feels really good.
I think it’s very weird that when one country is criticized y’all tend to be like “oh well my country we would never —” uhh YES in your country too, that’s how states work? Y’all talking about people living in China or the US not knowing their history because the bad parts aren’t taught well in school: sure!!! But I know many people from Belgium who know next-to-nothing about the genocide in the Congo, from the Netherlands who say all their colonies were only trading posts, from Thailand who say that the indigenous people in their country have been and are treated fine only they don’t make an effort to be Thai, from Portugal who will tell you about what an amazingly positive force they were in their... territories, from Czechia who will tell you their country holds no responsibility for treatment of the Roma—but also it was and is justified; all were taught these things in school.
My point isn’t “other countries do this too so it doesn’t matter!!” No! My point is that every single state commits and covers up atrocities in some way. There is no ethical state.
American liberals especially seem to have a tendancy to think that there is a Good and Perfect state and we must only find it and imitate it and then our problems will be fixed. But trust me: it doesn’t exist, (and it’s certainly not in Europe??). We must create our own systems, and have the courage to change those, too, when we see their flaws.
A sticker for everyone on November 5th
explain this to someone before november 5
I've been joking about this but will there ever be something more emblematic of out-of-touch tone-deaf cishet showrunners' desperate pursuit of appealing to their LGBT fans than the supernatural showrunners finally doing a gay love confession after gaybaiting their fans for 15 years only for it to be unrequited and having them immediately kill the character that confessed and send him to turbo mega hell for being gay
2020 is a year
Me: so anyway, everyone shipped an angel with this monster hunter-
Child: grandma what does this have to do with the 2020 election
Me:
Maria: Oh, there were times when we would look at each other… oh Mother, I could hardly breath.
#mm. their chemistry in this movie is stupidly scorchingly electric#when they dance the landler and maria breathes “…..I can’t remember what comes next” like SAME MARIA#I WAS ALSO DISTRACTED BY HOW GEORG WAS LOOKING AT YOU LIKE HE WANTED TO EAT YOU#I WAS MOSTLY IMPRESSED BY YOUR ABILITY TO REMAIN UPRIGHT#he’s so frustrated by her entire existence and isn’t that the dream? to frustrate and arouse a very hot wealthy man who hates nazis?#sound of music (x)
“Particularly prone to serious procrastination problems are children who grew up with unusually high expectations placed on them…or else they exhibited exceptional talents early on, and thereafter “average” performances were met with concern and suspicion from parents and teachers.”
Holy SHIT
WELL THEN
Yep.
They actually tested me for a learning disability in high school because I was consistently failing math.
They discovered that I actually scored in the 80th percentile in that sort of learning.
Problem was, in every other subject, I was in the 99.8th percentile.
I had never learned how to study because I never needed to—and then, when something proved to be even the slightest bit challenging, my brain went
“LOL nope this is impossible abort”
Meanwhile, this entire time I’m scraping by in subjects like English. The assignments I did turn in, I’d score top marks—but I’d avoid turning in projects I didn’t think were “good” enough.
Essentially, my brain had two settings: “100%” or “0%”.
This sort of Baby Genius shit makes kids and adolescents neurotic and self-destructive.
We learned about this in Child Development. And we learned to reward hard work and not good job. Like don’t say to a child, “oh you are so smart.” Say “Oh did worked so hard.” Be proud of the child, not the achievement.
Be proud of the child, not the achievement.
Decades of research have been done on this by Dr. Carol Dweck. When the emphasis is placed on effort (a factor people can control) rather than talent (an innate skill), it’s a lot easier to see mistakes as a learning opportunity rather than something you just won’t ever be good at. And kids who were encouraged by effort were also more willing to take on more challenging work and considered it a lot more fun, while the kids who were praised for their intelligence were reluctant to put themselves in a situation where they might lose that identifier as a “smart kid” by making mistakes, so they preferred to do work they were confident they could master. Also, the kids praised for effort wanted to compare their results to kids who got higher scores, to see where they made their mistakes, while those praised for intelligence wanted to compare their results to kids who scored lower, to reassure themselves.
Not only does this set up “smart” students for a lot of trouble when they enter college and start being regularly challenged, the effects last long beyond that. It can be very hard for the “you’re so smart!” kids to unlearn as they become adults and struggle with even common adult things, and are afraid to ask for help because of that lesson they learned from misguided praise that they are supposed to be smart and supposed to know the answers.
…Honestly +1 here. It’s very well researched and documented and yeah. Making the emphasis on “You succeed and we are proud of you b/c you are SMART as an intrinsic quality!” makes failure/setbacks/difficulty -TERRIFYING- b/c if you’re “smart” it doesn’t happen and if you fail that means you’re not smart and that’s what everyone’s drilled into you as your main point of worth.
And the rates of anxiety disorders among “gifted student” kids are kinda horrifying.
This is why “you’re so smart” means absolutely nothing to me any more. It’s used as punishment as often as it’s used as praise.
me: god I suck at math I need help
adults: don’t say that!! you’re smart!!!!!
me: no, I– just let me be stupid please I am begging you it is so frustrating having everyone think I’m a genius because I memorized a few equations please please please understand that I have terrible work habits and I need you guys to acknowledge that and help me–
adults: uh ok ur smart tho lol bye
I, this explains so much. Like. When I got to eighth grade, I just, stopped turning things in if they weren’t done or if I didn’t think I did good enough
“stop saying youre gay, youre dating a boy”
Hozier be like: life is about DIRT, life is about RELIGIOUS OVERTONES, life is about BOG BODIES, and above all, life is about getting RAILED so hard your soul exits your body
me watching the video for dinner & diatribes and seeing hozier looking like some filthy aristocratic vampire on fire
Listening to the new Hozier album on repeat like:
endless a song of ice and fire: [7/∞] » [insp.]
