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I find it very offensive that the more unwell you are, the more things you have to do to maintain your health. Things like following special diets, going to medical appointments, making big and important decisions about what treatments to use. At the same time, the more unwell you are the less energy you have to do all of these extra things. It seems grossly unfair.

fibro-memes

zombiezinmydreams

Still genuinely baffles me every time I remember that the average person isn’t in some form of pain all the time.

Like..not even a tiny bit???

It’s actually crazy to me every time I remember that most people actually don’t experience pain outside of injuries.

bucet-with-face

Someone should invent joints that don’t hurt

cross-my-heart-o2

”yeah it all aligns with your normal, so it’s nothing to worry about.” yeah, i’m not worried. however, i have had to stop doing the things that i love and give up opportunity after opportunity to my health. i have missed milestones and failed at things i should have succeeded at. i have attempted to do things and have caused myself to be worsened indefinitely by doing them. i am becoming increasingly unwell and i have just about nothing that works (and the things that do work i’m not allowed to use for the sole purpose of trying to keep me from “becoming reliant” on them). my cognitive ability has declined and so has my quality of life. i am reaching dead end after dead end even after meeting with a few doctors who actually listen to me. they can’t do anything. they won’t do anything. i have been in pain my whole life. i am very frustrated and i am very tired.

miinobobeano

Having a chronic illness means that no matter how badly you need or want a break, you can’t ever seem to catch one. It stays with you everywhere you go, and demands endless accommodations. It's so debilitating and exhausting and so many of us would do anything just for a minute, hour, or day of pain-free rest/peace.

fibro-memes

lifeafterpsychiatry

If you hold disabled and mentally ill people to even higher standards than abled people and would judge a mentally ill or otherwise disabled person harder for drinking/doing drugs/not exercising/eating "unhealthy"/smoking/etc than you would most people that's ableism in action and no I don't care whether you claim to genuinely worry about them. Disability comes with less capacity to do things and a bigger than average need to just find a way to cope with life and should NOT result in even harsher judgments for not always making the "healthiest" choices

thetimeisnowsomehow

When I was young I always thought that if i worked hard enough I would have time for the things I actually liked in life. Like art and music and anime and cosplay and conventions and stuff like that. What I did not think, was that my body would fail to be able to do those things when I got older. My case is extreme, I have chronic pain. But I feel like I missed the part of my life that is actually life.

Like, there has never ever been enough rest or time or money in general but now it feels like even when I do have moments of relief, I just want to sit in them. Breathe a moment. I don't want to take on more. I haven't recovered from what my body had to do to survive. I have low capacity for more. And to make it worse, the world And society seems to push more more more relentlessly. I don't want to be in a rush all the time! What good is money at the cost of health!?!

zylahbee

assuming someones health based on their age in a world where babies can be born with disabilities and illnesses, and elderly who can run marathons and live past 100 makes zero sense.

health will never automatically be a certain level based on age.

i-mpower

It silences and dismisses

There’s a difference between hope and denial. Between encouragement and erasure. Between choosing joy and being forced to pretend pain doesn’t exist.

Toxic positivity lives in that difference.

It sounds good on the surface: “Just stay positive.” “Everything happens for a reason.” “Don’t speak negativity into your life.” “Others have it worse.”

But underneath those phrases is something far more harmful than helpful. It’s the quiet dismissal of real human experience.

Toxic positivity doesn’t heal pain, it rushes it. It doesn’t support people, it edits them.

When someone is grieving, struggling, angry, or overwhelmed, they don’t need to be corrected. They need to be witnessed. But toxic positivity teaches us to bypass discomfort instead of sitting with it. It pressures people to perform wellness instead of actually being well.

And that performance comes at a cost.

Healthy positivity doesn’t deny pain, it makes room for it. It says, “This is hard, and I’m still here.” It allows grief and gratitude to coexist. It understands that joy is not the absence of struggle, but the ability to remain present within it.

We don’t need more pressure to be positive. We need more permission to be human.So instead of telling people to “look on the bright side,” try saying:

“I hear you.”

“That makes sense.”

“You don’t have to go through this alone.”

Because sometimes the most powerful form of positivity isn’t a silver lining.

It’s presence.

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It silences and dismisses

the-angry-acrobat

chronic pain is kind of like your body screaming “I’m in pain” and you’re like “okay what’s wrong” and your body’s like “oh that part is actually a secret”