Maybe everything isn't hopeless bullshit...

I’m Jen. I used to be married and poly; now I’m married (to someone I met through poly) and monogamous. Madly in love with my husband and cats. I talk about relationship stuff a lot. Feel free to say hi and ask questions.

[jeneepooh]

People You Would Like to Know Better

Tagged by @shortladyleggers Thank you! :)

Last Song You Listened To: Bring on the Dancing Horses

Favorite Color: Black, followed by green (kelly green, specifically)

Currently Watching: Margo has Money Problems. Fun fact, one of my researchers who is having funding issues was inspired by that show to create an Only Fans for his marmots!

Current Obsession: my homemade kimchi

Currently Reading: Tell Me What You Did (audiobook) and The Prince of Tides (paperback)

Currently Working On: The US government just dropped a policy that we've been waiting for since last Fall, so figuring out how to implement and comply with that will be a big focus going forward. Along with preparations for our triennial accreditation site visit.

Currently Wearing: Black top with black and green pants that I have no word for the style and spent far too long trying to find a match for online. They have a drawstring, are a linen fabric, and hit mid-calf. Anyone know the word?

Last Internet Search: lol see above!

Favorite Flower: I love peonies and dahlias and tulips

Tagging: @closetocanada, @lost-in-the-drawers, @justanothermiddleagedchick, @pensamientosydescargos, @moodmassacre and anyone else who wants to play

7/29/2026

[jeneepooh]

Tagged by @ropeandcoffee to post my ten favorite films in gifs. I'll be honest that these aren't all necessarily favorites per se - some are just movies that left an impact or which I could watch any time.

I tag anyone who wants to play!

(answers below)

Say Anything

Reality Bites

Speed

Hope Floats

K-Pop Demon Hunters

Mulan

Barbie

Samsara

Caddyshack

Raiders of the Lost Ark

[jeneepooh]

@justanothermiddleagedchick tagged me on the following - thank you my friend!

Sneak attack!! tag your favourite blogs/mutuals and ask them to share one nice thing (big or small) they’re looking forward to in the coming week(s) ✨️☺️

Small: I'm looking forward to wearing my new H&M tops that I got on clearance this past weekend. I got 4 new tops for something ridiculous like $35 total. I love a sale!

Big: I'm looking forward to getting used to the new normal of Catdad commuting to Culver City for his new job 4 days a week, resulting in me having a LOT of alone time during the day, but then us having some solid time together F-Su. Oh, and him getting his first paycheck...which is supposed to be this Wednesday but we'll see since he only started last week.

I tag @emmmiiiiiii @ellie-scribbles @kernyen-xo @punchdrunkbisexual @pensamientosydescargos and anyone else who would like to share some good things on their horizon. :)

[jeneepooh]

Sharing this video on both blogs because I’m so blown away at my ex-husband’s kindness to get my baby Oy included (2:39)

He said his friend edited the video. (Side note: he has friends!!!)

[jeneepooh]

I took the German or Autistic diagnostic and scored Neither. I am apparently the control group. https://german.millermanschool.com/

A rigorous diagnostic. 15 questions. One uncomfortable truth.

[jeneepooh]

Here's my periodic reminder that although this is my "main" blog (and the blog that you are more likely to see liking your posts), I actually use another blog to share all those important thoughts and feels I have. It's been this way for a few years because of my ex-husband's ex-girlfriend making this a not safe place for me. She's been out of the picture for some time, so maybe some day I'll revert to this blog for wordy posts.

In the meantime, if you're NOT my ex-husband's ex-girlfriend and want to follow my other blog, please say something in the notes or send me a message and I'll send you the name of that blog.

[itsbadno]

Ozzy

[jeneepooh]

Adding my boys Cyril, Rocket, Kuro, and Major Lilywhite

[jeneepooh]

@shortladyleggers tagged me for 4 pics that aren’t selfies. Thank you! I love these things 🩷

This is all from my recent Baltimore trip:

1. Cream of crab soup - omg, life changing!

2. The intro slide for the 1/2 day pre-conference workshop I co-taught

3. The Peabody Library

4. Motivation in the last slide of the keynote

I tag @unitedindividualists @justanothermiddleagedchick @myselfoverme @notaparagraph @pensamientosydescargos and anyone else who wants to play

[jeneepooh]

I 🩷 Art by Cleopatra!

[jeneepooh]

@frenchbulldogmama tagged me for SDS - my first one! So it was only appropriate that the pic include my coffee delivery vessel ☕️

Tagging @ropeandcoffee @redsimple @emmmiiiiiii @ellie-scribbles @pensamientosydescargos @notaparagraph

#sds

[itstimetogo]

what is your holy trinity of fruits

[some1s-sista]

Watermelon, strawberries, blueberries

[hiscalifornia]

Watermelon pineapple clementines

[notaparagraph]

pineapple, bananas, grapes, honorary mention to kiwi and nectarines

[hitchcockismyhomeboy]

Peaches, cherries, pineapple.

[hopefulmisanthrope]

Nectarines, mangoes, sweet cherries

[jeneepooh]

Cherries, apricots, and pineapple

[jeneepooh]

@frenchbulldogmama tagged me for 6 non-selfies. 😊

Tagging @urfvgrl @secondlifep @kernyen-xo @itsbadno @emmmiiiiiii @ellie-scribbles and anyone else who wants to play

9/20/2025

ATTENTION

If you see this you are OBLIGATED to reblog w/ the song currently stuck in your head :)

[librastank]

#Diamondsandpearls #prince

[edwardabbeyhoffman]

I Could Never Take the Place of Your Man — Prince.

[frenchbulldogmama]

Total Eclipse of the Heart - Bonnie Tyler

What? There’s a Downey commercial on tv right now bastardizing the song and it’s implanted. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[jeneepooh]

I have had Golden from KPop Demon Hunters stuck in my head for a couple weeks now.

[jeneepooh]

Thanks for the tag @justanothermiddleagedchick :)

Pull up your playlist, put it on shuffle and then list the five first songs for people to vote on:

Choose your favorite...

Danny's Song - Loggins & Messina

Hercules - Tokyo Police Club

Woman in Love - Barbra Streisand

The Middle - Jimmy Eat World

New Thing - Enuff Z'Nuff

Voting ended onAug 14, 2025

Tagging @emmmiiiiiii, @frenchbulldogmama, @hthrrloooo, @myselfoverme, @notaparagraph, @ropeandcoffee, @redsimple, @secondlifep, @trackabandoned

[causticgrip]

Today is International Cat Day.

You know what to do.

[jeneepooh]

My boys -

[jeneepooh]

I was tagged by @frenchbulldogmama to use six photos I already have to describe myself.

7/28/2025

Tagging @emmmiiiiiii @hthrrloooo @itsbadno @myselfoverme @notaparagraph @punchdrunkbisexual @secondlifep

[jeneepooh]

Happy holidays everyone. For new followers, a note that I don’t really post to this account because of reasons involving my ex-husband. If you’d like to follow my other account, please message me. Thanks!

[jeneepooh]

Well, it's been a few years and a few holidays, but the message remains the same. And I'll take any excuse to reshare pictures of my sweet angel kitty Oy (RIP).