Why do people pretend to be someone they’re not?
Do you remember being asked "What do you want to be when you grow up?" Usually, we'd answer this with what our parent's profession is, some even says to be a mommy/daddy, and then one of the favorites, a teacher. The answer actually doesn't matter - the issue is that we, during our formative years, look upon those people who we saw as our beacon, and we tend to want to be those people.
As we grow, we become aware of things we like: culture, fashion, religion, inspiring people - the list is endless. And many would succumb into this life, of trying to be like what they think they want to be because they tend to lean on others just so they can have a semblance of their own. From idolizing actors, following trends, believing a religious faction. This encompasses more than imitating some other person (Barcenas, 2014).
Many people tend to be dissatisfied with themselves no matter what they achieve. The human species is known to always aim for more. Therefore, their own discontentment leads to insecurity. They fear their counterpart to see the faults they see on themselves so they start telling lies, creating a better image in order not to disgrace themselves. Basically, they create the image they think the other want to see (Berg, 2016).
By not being your "authentic self", you are controlling your life and the people around you. And when facade cracks, you will see the anger and desperation behind the pretense. It's an unhealthy form of self-preservation! People who pretend to be who they're not are looking for validation from society and others (Roses, 2016).
Is it possible to be ourselves? Definitely of course! A person must realize he is his own person. Truly, one does not need any of the things a person thinks he needs just to validate himself.
And how can one achieve that? By accepting, honestly saying to yourself, you do not need any of those. If you want to do something, just do it for yourself, and not because someone is like that (Barcenas, 2014).
Be yourself and please stop imitating others (Nair, 2014).
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