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World Peace!!! (According to Who???) By Larry Cohn Random Thoughts on World Peace..... People say that world peace means we all get along. But what each of you mean by that is "you do what I want.". A peaceful world means, "Everybody wanting what I want. and going along with what I want." And the only problem with that is: there are more than one of you, and you have endless desires that are born within you. World Peace means one mindset big enough to make the decisions about what everybody else wants and the rest of the world conforming to that. There is a big mix out there, and there's lots of different things going on, and there is not one way that was intended to be the right way. Just like there's not one color or one vegetable or one fingerprint. There is not one that is to be the right one over all the others. It's the variety of life that fosters the creativity of it. So many people say "I don't want this" or "I don't like this." And I would say to them, then don't participate in those activities. But don't ask them to be eliminated and don't condemn those that participate with them. Read The Rest Here

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“Lessons From a Rap God” by Jim Shelvy

There are lesson's everywhere if you just look for them. Why is Jim Shelvy sharing so many painful life experiences right now? The answer is simple, if you don't let go they will consume you. Here is a snippit from his latest blog, Lessons from a Rap God:

"Maybe you have never heard of the Rap God, but it’s Eminem. In the movie 8 Mile, which was “based loosely on his life”, Eminem was filled with fear and self doubt. As a result, he could never quite get the words out when it mattered. And it really mattered to him because the movie was about the rap battles in Detroit. When would there ever be a more important time to be able to get your words out than if you’re in a battle of words!

What happened when he failed? He was made fun of, bullied and challenged yet he remained undeterred.

He was undeterred because he believed in what he was doing. He believed in himself. Not only did he believe in himself, but he \did so when no one else did or could.

At the end of the movie, he was in the grand finale and he did something that no one had ever done, at least in the movie. He let it all go, but not in the way that you think. That is the subject and the lesson of this blog and how I will take control of my life once again.

What happened in the final battle...he took away the ammunition for his rival. He trashed himself. Not because he didn't see any value in himself, but because he took away his opponent’s weapon.

Look, Everyone has haters.

Some have more than others. I have a laundry list of haters. FULL DISCLOSURE!!! Some hate me because of my success and some hate me because I deserve it!

I've got an extreme personality (I know, I know, you don’t think so but I do), and I have always believed that “everything is going to work out” in the end. In my previous life, I used that belief system as the foundation for my decisions. Unfortunately... Read the rest HERE

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Money Thoughts by Larry Cohn

One of the things I have known my entire life is that I have an innate capability for making money.

And that's probably the reason I've gone broke more than once or twice. I've never had much fear about wherever I am financially because I've always looked at it like a snapshot in time. Wherever I am is just wherever I am. I totally get it that this philosophy may not be for you but this is my blog and this is my philosophy so read on if you are interested. If not, go do something else. Your time is your most valuable asset.

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"The Day Lauren Left" by Jim Shelvy I will never forget the feeling of fear as I drove home. I knew something was wrong and I knew she was gone...they were all gone. Lauren and I had been going through struggles, a lot of struggles. Not just recently, for years. We had separated once before and reconciled. Over the last few months she had continuously told me that she “couldn’t live this way any more” and that something had to change. As she left work that day (we worked together), she reminded me again. It would be the last thing she ever said to me while we were “a couple” and it's etched into my soul. When something traumatic happens, you reflect over and over and over again on what happened, your actions, their actions, the moment you knew something was wrong and a million other “blips” of memories...and I’m no different.   Here’s what I remember… I tried to call her like I normally do on the way home from work. No answer. I waited a bit and I tried again. No answer. Again, again and again I tried...with no answer. I began to panic. Something felt wrong. I called Andrew (my 10 year old who ALWAYS ANSWERS ME) and no answer. Nicholas, my 16 year old...no answer. I went to Life360 to check for locations...ALL of their locations had been deactivated. At that moment, I became aware that my life would be forever changed. I just didn’t know how...

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“The Day I Decided to Take My Own Life…(A story of the day I decided to end it all)”... by Larry Cohn I was falling apart. It seemed almost surreal because I had lived 'the good life’ for so many years. I had a beautiful home in The Hollywood Hills. I had a driver, a personal assistant, a second home in the Arizona Foothills and more. I was the person that people respected. The person people wanted to be. But not now. All the pieces of my life were falling down around me. I lost my home. My bank account was drained. I lost my self worth and my pride… All I had left was a few hundred dollars in my wallet and a car that was about to be repossessed. I prayed for answers. I asked God, The Universe or whatever higher power would listen to me to put me...

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“The Day Rosie Died”...by Jim Shelvy

It was a day like any other day. I was at the house and I got a phone call from the HVAC repair man that was working outside. He said, 'you need to come and get your dogs, something is wrong.' I slowly got up and headed to the door. When I stepped outside, my pace quickened immediately.

Something was really wrong…

Connor and Rosie were frothing at the mouth, collapsing to the ground, struggling to get up. Without really thinking, I picked up Connor and put him in the back of the car, Rosie was next and off I went.

It was all subconscious, second nature. I drove as fast as I could and...

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“White Light Can be Your Best Weapon (or Shield)”...A Short Story by Larry Cohn I've used this method for years and it has served me well. Many of you might say I've been lucky or fortunate but I think I have developed a practiced skill that has produced real results. It's called “White Light Protective Visualization'' ( or at least that's what I call it). I first started studying the effects of color on vibration when I was introduced to the Rife Microscope. Royal Rife had designed a microscope in the early 1900's that he claimed could heal viruses and cancer through the use of sound waves and color therapies. Rife was eventually blackballed by the scientific community but many still claim that he was defrauded  and outcast because his theories and practices could not be monetized the way traditional medicine has monetized most illnesses in Western Cultures. But this blog is not about Royal Rife. In my limited knowledge of Color Power I know that different colors produce different vibrations. For example, if you...

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“I failed… There I Said It!” by Jim Shelvy

I failed in my marriage. I failed in a business. I failed a lot…I will fail again and probably pretty often!

Wow! I FAILED.

Those are probably the greatest, but the hardest words you will ever say to yourself about yourself. They are even harder to say out loud when others "may hear" them. When you know for sure that they "will hear" it becomes monumentally harder. 

If you want to skip the back story, move down to"The Lesson"

That brings me to the situation that my business partner and I faced on June 1. 

A little more history leading up to the first of June and the monumental, life changing situation we faced. I refused to fail. I had watched my marriage collapse over a year prior. During the last twelve months, I watched the business we had built fall victim to covid and the crippling restrictions imposed on small businesses and I was determined to not have another fail in my life. 

Less than a month earlier I completed the #75Hard challenge with "zero failures" and believe me when I say, most people fail at least once, but I...

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What I learned from #75Hard! A story of realization by Jim Shelvy

Here's what I learned. I'm much weaker than I thought. But, I'm much stronger than I realized. I thought this thing would be a piece of cake but it wasn't. A wise person once said, "If it were easy, everybody would do it." But that wasn't the most important thing I learned. The most important thing changed the way I look at life altogether.

I guess I should first explain what #75Hard is shouldn't I. On the surface, it looks like a fitness challenge but it is far from a fitness challenge, it's exactly what it's creator

Andy Frisella

says it is...A Mental Toughness Challenge.

Here's the rules. For the 75 day duration, before you go to bed for the night, do the following:

Do two 45 minute (minimum) workouts a day, at least 3 hours apart. One has to be outside no matter what the conditions and what the elements hold for you. Seems easy enough.

Drink a gallon of water a day. Check!

Take a progress picture every day. No problem!

Create and follow your diet, no recomendations, no rules. Got it! Oh yeah, no alcohol, no cheat meals, no exceptions. Still got it!

Read 10 pages of a personal development book each day. No audible, no books on tape etc. Real books, really read. O-K!

Oh yeah, there are no excuses, no exceptions, no do-overs. You misss one thing, one day, one time, you start over at day one. Full rules are

HERE

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So what did I learn about myself really?

Here's what I learned. The challenge was hard, but I seem to thrive on making it...

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“I love where I am in my life!” A short story by Larry Cohn

Try being happy about wherever you are, even if it doesn’t make sense to be happy. Years ago when I was homeless, I made a decision that my being homeless was going to be great. I didn’t know how that greatness would reveal itself, nor was it my 'job' to figure it out. But it was my job to let it reveal itself to me. There is a big difference between the two.

The former has an emphasis on effort and the latter has...

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Day Interrupted (A story about the moments that make up a lifetime) by Jim Shelvy Have you ever been asked how your day is going and you respond,’same ol’ same ol’ or it’s just another day?’

I couldn't respond that way that day~~~~Not on November 12th, 2019 That day shaped the course of the next day and set the trend for the following days to come. The next several days roped together like a winding road, revealing to me that when something appears to be negative you can turn it from uphill to downhill. I did just that. I moved the situation downhill and now speed and momentum are building for me and I feel like I’ve become unstoppable. This was the day the "Mastering the Spin" was born! A couple of weeks ago I received a call from my son. He was dealing with an issue at school that required attention. He was on a field trip and he told me there was an issue and that either me or his mom (we both worked at NexCore) needed to pick him up.

  First, I was busy and had deadlines and tasks that were pressing. Backed up and pressed hard, the last thing I needed at that moment was to take THAT phone call! Nonetheless, the call came.

  Of course I stopped what I was doing and headed directly to pick up my son, feeling frustrated that he had caused a stoppage in my day.

After I picked Nicholas up, his mom, Lauren, called to check in and inquire about the "situation"- Overwhelmed and feeling the pressure of the time quickly passing, I told Lauren that I would pick her up at NexCore and we could discuss it while we got Nicholas lunch.

  While at lunch, a moment of profound reflection hit me. It hit me so hard I almost lost my breath. It was the middle of the day- the middle of a work day, school day and a day of never-ending deadlines. But at that moment, THE moment, it was just The Three Musketeers (The nickname that Lauren, Nicholas and I gave ourselves before my younger son Andrew was born).   For me, the world froze-

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"If you don't enjoy the journey, the destination brings no reward." by Larry Cohn

I always thought that the real joy would come when I had the ‘thing”, the car in the driveway, the house of my dreams, money in the bank account, etc. I had dreams and goals and aspirations in life. I looked forward with eager anticipation to when I would be able to have some of those things that I had dreamed about.

And, yes, those things do bring joy.

But what I realized was that soon after I had what I wanted, I wanted more or I wanted better. Then life took an unexpected turn for me. And good thing it did because it woke me up to a new definition of happiness to something more sustaining and long term.

The turn that life gave me was homelessness.

Never in my life did I ever think I would become homeless. But good thing I did because it was a very cleansing and clarifying time for me.

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"A quote that changed my life forever." by Larry Cohn...

Years back I read a book and in that book I will always remember one line that has changed my life forever.

Here it is: “A statistic is nothing more than the sum of a previous thought consciousness. Change the thought consciousness and the statistic changes.” Dr. Virginia Bloodworth

The book was written in the 1950's by Dr. Virginia Bloodworth but I do not remember its name, nor does it particularly matter. I have embraced this quote during some of my darkest times, when hope seemed fleeting and people around me were telling me that my chances were slim. There have been so many times when statistically I was told that I would not make it. I have...

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