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This piece is an excellent example of how costume designers are frequently required to create duplicates of their costumes. The number of copies needed for a costume can vary depending on how often the piece appears in the production, if additional costumes are needed for stunt doubles, or if the outfit has to undergo any changes, such as getting wet. It is also safe to have a spare costume around in the event that something were to happen to it. This ensures that production won’t halt if a costume needs to be cleaned or mended. One famous example of a costume being heavily duplicated is Scarlett O’Hara’s paisley gown, which required up to seventeen versions in varying states of disrepair. This green sweater set with polka-dot collar and cuffs was designed by Edith Head for Alfred Hitchcock’s 1958 film 𝑽𝒆𝒓𝒕𝒊𝒈𝒐, in which it was worn by Kim Novak as Judy Barton. The costume likely went back into the Paramount studio’s stock and eventually was purchased through an online auction by film costume collector Larry McQueen of The Collection of Motion Picture Costume Design. He noted of the piece: 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝒄𝒐𝒔𝒕𝒖𝒎𝒆 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒔𝒖𝒓𝒑𝒓𝒊𝒔𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒍𝒚 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒑𝒍𝒆𝒕𝒆, 𝒘𝒉𝒊𝒄𝒉 𝒊𝒔 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒖𝒔𝒖𝒂𝒍 𝒄𝒂𝒔𝒆 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒑𝒊𝒆𝒄𝒆𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒄𝒐𝒔𝒕𝒖𝒎𝒆 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒃𝒆𝒆𝒏 𝒔𝒆𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒆𝒅. 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝒄𝒐𝒔𝒕𝒖𝒎𝒆 𝒄𝒂𝒎𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒕𝒘𝒐 𝒔𝒘𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒔 (𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒄𝒖𝒇𝒇𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒄𝒖𝒇𝒇𝒔), 𝒔𝒌𝒊𝒓𝒕, 𝒃𝒆𝒍𝒕, 𝒂 𝒑𝒐𝒍𝒌𝒂-𝒅𝒐𝒕 𝒔𝒄𝒂𝒓𝒇 (𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒕𝒊𝒆𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒆𝒍𝒕), 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒂 𝒑𝒂𝒊𝒓 𝒐𝒇 𝒃𝒍𝒂𝒄𝒌 𝒑𝒖𝒎𝒑𝒔. 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒘𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒄𝒖𝒇𝒇𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒅 𝒂 𝒍𝒂𝒃𝒆𝒍 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒅 “𝑵𝒐𝒗𝒂𝒌,” 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒄𝒖𝒇𝒇𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒅 𝒂 𝒔𝒎𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒃𝒊𝒂𝒔 𝒍𝒂𝒃𝒆𝒍 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒅 “𝑪𝒊𝒏𝒅𝒚.” McQueen did a bit more digging to determine who “Cindy” might be. He considered productions that would have been produced by Paramount that were set in the 50s. Eventually, he discovered that the piece was worn by Cindy Williams as Shirley Feeney in 𝑳𝒂𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒏𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝑺𝒉𝒊𝒓𝒍𝒆𝒚. The sweater is seen in the 1976 episode 𝑭𝒓𝒐𝒎 𝑺𝒖𝒅𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝑺𝒕𝒂𝒓𝒅𝒐𝒎. The cuffs were removed for usage.

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Central Park's Belvedere Castle and 5th Avenue, New York City, Photo © Bruce Davidson, 1992

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christian dior by john galliano, look 2, evening dress of golden armor with embroidered gold “chain mail”, haute couture autumn/winter 2006

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this fetish stuff is getting out of hand what the fuck is word play

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Jacks from a set of playing cards included in the Japanese cassette pressing of Mark Mothersbaugh's Muzik for Insomniaks (1985).

Scanned many moons ago, in December 2011.

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star wars fans really just make anything up

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I’m not Glup Shitto-ing you. He has a sexstache and everything.

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star wars heritage post

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Happy Pride to Biggs Darklighter

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The fun thing about finnish is that the way you ask for things in a polite way has been in-baked into the suffixes you use, so you don't have to use many words when few do trick. Like asking someone "could you give me [-]" is "voisitko antaa" in written and some variation of "voisiksä antaa" in spoken dialects*, but instead of asking "could you", the polite polite way to ask is "haluaisitko", not as can you, but would you want to. The tone distinction is so clear that asking someone "could you [do thing]" instead of "would you want to [do thing]" is less of a polite request and more of instruction - someone's gotta do it, and the task is being assigned to you.

On the other hand, dropping out the conditional out of the question turns the tone into a passive-aggressive threat. If someone tells you "stop that" as an imperative, "lopeta", that's a command. Asking in conditional, could you stop that, "voisitko lopettaa" is a polite request. "Haluaisitko lopettaa", would you like to stop that, is so polite that depending on the tone it might be sarcastic politeness that indicates hostility.

But asking someone "do you want to stop that", "haluatko lopettaa tuon" is a matter of "do you want to stop doing that voluntarily, or do you want me to stop you." By physical force, if necessary.

* the different form varies depending on what first and second person pronouns are used in the specific dialect. This is a whole another rabbit hole so for shortcut I'm doing the examples in the southern finnish dialect that I have grown up speaking

dduane

Now this is interesting to me... because the Finnish-edition title for So You Want To Be A Wizard is Haluatko velhoksi?...

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sandersstudies

I feel like in the rush of “throw out etiquette who cares what fork you use or who gets introduced first” we actually lost a lot of social scripts that the younger generations are floundering without.

sandersstudies

A lot of tough situations where we now feel like we “don’t know what to do or say” had social scripts just a couple of generations ago and they might have been canned phrases or robotic actions but they could still be meant sincerely and unfortunately we haven’t replaced them with any more sincere or easier new script.

beemovieerotica

a lot of people are giving examples in the notes of things they just find annoying like not using headphones in public, but OP is talking about actual literal scripts of things to say in awkward situations

if you have a date or two with someone and you don't see a relationship developing? most millennials / gen Zers just end up ghosting. but a social script that might have been taught and rehearsed in the past could be:

"I really appreciated getting dinner with you the other night and I enjoyed your company, but I'm afraid I didn't feel a spark. I wish you the best, and hope you find that special someone!"

like it sounds kind of trite but it was at least something to say and it can still be meant with kind sincerity. it also communicates in 2 sentences that you don't want to see them romantically again, but there aren't any hard feelings about that. that's it!!! that's all it takes!!!

misfit-toy-haven

Another example is that at parties a lot of people talk about how awkward it is to mingle or talk to people they dont know. But at old timey parties that was traditionally the HOST'S job, and there was a specific scripted way of doing it that eased the process! The host would bring you in, introduce you and maybe even a little bit about you like what you did for a living, and then guide you to a group you could talk to. They didn't just let you in the door and then ditch you to fend for yourself in a sea of strangers. That would be unthinkable and no one would be surprised if a get-together like that wound up being awkward.

demonprincex

I still do the party-host thing and yall can, too! (Thanks Mad Men for teaching me a lot of outmoded social scripts... no really tho)

Remember things about your friends! Ask people about their weekends, hobbies, holidays, studies, and jobs! Listen for the concerns people have and what they are working on! Draw connections between one person and another to get the ball rolling. "Oh, Maura, you just got your first cat! You should talk to Felix, he used to work at a rescue. Felix, please tell Maura all the new-cat-guardian pointers."

"Bill, Sheila, Xan, this is my friend Kale. Kale is really into Star Trek, Bill you and them should talk about it!"

Orrr whatever! After you make the introduction and draw the connection you just float on into the next interaction with someone else at the function. Just listen, care about your friends, get our of your own head, and think of how you can bring other people together and you will feel 100% less awkward.

3liza

hi i am so excited about this post because i have posted this exact thing MANY times on here, often in the specific context of how formal etiquette is so useful for autistic people especially, but also for everyone. even if you come off a little bit formal, which you will sometimes, having Old School Manners (or just knowing what they are) for various common scenarios is like having a magic ticket that will just sail you through all kinds of social iinteractions, gatekeeping, social weirdness, and as is pointed out in the above posts about introducing people to each other, can make you into a really valuable and helpful person for an entire gathering or group of people.

i also want to point out that knowing what the polite thing to do in all situations makes you a lot more effective at being rude and obnoxious when the situation calls for it, which is also a valuable and necessary adult skill

dailymanners

#things to write#but also#things to do#I could certainly benefit from a manual...

If you're looking for a manual on these sorts of things; social etiquette, social scripts, how to handle difficult and/or awkward social situations, etc. then I highly recommend picking up any book by Miss Manners. Her books really are the gold standard for learning the types of skills this post is talking about. I should also mention that Miss Manners is witty and hilarious so her books are also fun to read.

The best book by Miss Manners to get started with would be Miss Manner's Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior. This one is probably the best starting point because it gives the best overview of all the basics.

If you're the type who likes to listen to podcasts, I recommend checking out "Were You Raised By Wolves?" and/or "Awesome Etiquette". Both are also great tools for learning the type of social skills this post is talking about. I'm personally a fan of "Were You Raised By Wolves?" because not only are they pretty funny and informative, they also bother to try to teach the underlying social intelligence behind various manners and social etiquette so that you can have the skills to solve social dilemmas on your own. However, "Awesome Etiquette" is also pretty fun and informative.

dailymanners

#long post#I feel like 'i dont do small talk nobody cares about the weather' had a negative impact on social interaction#I mean yeah sometimes small talk about nothing gets awkward. but often it leads to the most interesting conversations#just asking 'what kind of music do you listen to at the gym' or 'have you read any books lately' could be such a lovely subject#I'm sometimes socially awkward despite being a huge extrovert. that's why etiquette is such a great thing#if you don't know how to act around people just stick to the etiquette rules. if they have a problem with it they're not for me anyways

Sorry @darlingdear but I couldn't let this stay in the tags.

I say this as someone who is neurodivergent had grew up very socially awkward, but recently I find the "screw small talk, I wanna get to know the REAL you" attitude to be pretentious as well as a demonstration of a lack of boundaries.

But also, I think a lot of people who have this attitude don't actually really know what does qualify as small talk. The definition of small talk is any topic that's of no real consequence and includes topics like food, pets, sports, music, whatever show you're currently streaming, whatever book you're currently reading, and yes, the weather. A lot of people who have this "I hate small talk / I don't do small talk" attitude probably think it's only reciting a bunch of secret scripts about the weather, and don't realize how much they engage in small talk whenever they talk about their pets or their favorite foods or the really cool show they're watching right now.

Small talk is just about boundaries and getting to know someone *before* you move into more serious and personal topics. The older I get the more I learn you really can't just trust anyone with more serious and personal subjects. Small talk first is important to gauge if they're someone safe and trustworthy first before moving into more serious and personal subjects. If you really genuinely refuse to get to know someone before immediately discussing serious and personal subjects you may have an issue with boundaries and should consider working on that.

littlehouseontheaerie

Oh my god, so much the last point. All of them, but especially the last.

Small talk is a way of sounding out a person’s attitudes. It’s about finding out if they’re a rabid asshole or someone you want to spend more time with.

I had a professor who got angry at a group of (mostly women), from five countries, all of whom met yesterday, for talking about daytime TV. He basically insulted us and called us shallow.

Dude, we were figuring each other out with a safe topic! We were the best of friends three weeks later. We could broach harder topics because we understood each other’s boundaries better. If you immediately demand people bare their souls, you’re not likely to get them to be honest.

roxanedrawing

also it's always polite / a good idea to balance the conversation out between yourself and the other person. By which I mean, if they've asked you several questions, turn it around: "and what about you?" / "what has your experience been in [topic]?" I used to be too awkward to do it but noticed conversations would bleed to death. Then I overcompensated and only asked the other person question upon question. This was also Not Ideal because guys would end up thinking I was super interested in them and get confused when I shut off my interest / social battery later on. So, balance: I try to talk about 50% of the time and share something that is either useful or relatable to the other or important to me. And by being interested and asking real questions you can get to know someone better and they will also know you a little, which can be really lovely.

dailymanners

Due to me seeing this post again, I decided to start re-reading Miss Manners Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior, and all I can say is, this is a book Tumblr is really sleeping on.

It's not just the fact that this book is perfect for those of us who are neurodivergent, who can really benefit from having a book which kindly and patiently bothers to explain social rules and norms that people just expect you to know without ever telling you themselves.

It's also the fact that, despite this book being nearly 45 years old, Miss Manners makes it clear in the preface and opening chapters that she is explicitly against classism, sexism, and homophobia. She also makes it explicitly clear in the preface that her personal belief in the importance of good manners and etiquette has nothing to do with a desire to return to "the good old days", because those days were not actually good for women, LGBTQ+ people, poor people, and people of color.

What really made me re-fall in love with Miss Manners though was right in the opening chapter she addresses using sexualized threats and insults to debase and degrade others (you know, like "get fcked", or "suck my genitals", or "yeah well that's not what your mom / sister / other female family member had to say last night") because if sex is something that's supposed to be good and pleasurable, why are we using it as a threat to debase and degrade others? Honestly I love her so much for calling out the inherent sex-negativity of using sexualized threats and insults like that, and nearly 45 years ago at that!

Miss Manners has never been a stuffy old fashioned fuddy-duddy. She has always been a deeply compassionate woman far ahead of her time, whose sole mission is to make the world a kinder and more considerate place.

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dick ashworth, member of pflag (parents and friends of lesbians and gays) marching in new york city, june 7, 1974.

rederiswrites

Just watched Adam Conover (of Adam Ruins Everything) make such a solid point that I think we should spread far and wide. Yes, having AI write your emails is lazy, sure, but people love being lazy. We need to really emphasize that sending AI emails (or using AI responses on social media, or publishing AI flyers, or or or) is rude.

It's rude. You're making someone take their time to read something you couldn't bother to write. You're telling them they were so unimportant you couldn't be bothered to actually take the time to say something yourself. And frankly, you're lying about it while you're at it.

It's rude.