Joseph Bottle

male, he/him, commentator, prospective author, singer, proud Filipino, proud demisexual biromantic

[quietasides]

Mark: Whether I’m gay or not has no reflection –

Owen: No, it does. Just listen –

Julia: I don’t think that you have ownership of horror of this crime.

Owen: Can I just say, I find this, I find this astonishing.

Julia: I’m not Jewish and I’m not gay, I’m not French, but I still am equally horrified by these crimes.

Owen: This was a – I’m being yelled at, which is incredible.

Julia: Stop talking so [we hadn’t do].

Mark: That’s the headline: ‘Isil wages war on gays in west’. Now you share that view, that basically this was deliberately targeted on one part of the community rather than the freedom to enjoy yourself no matter what your sexual orientation is.

Owen: What are you talking about?!?

Mark: I’m talking about the coverage in the newspapers.

Owen: It’s not some abstract, kind of, he just picked a random club out of nowhere. He picked a club because it was full of people he regarded as deviants. That’s why he attacked the club.

Julia: It’s a hate crime, this is an act of terrorism, it was an attack on gay people, absolutely, it was horrific. However, my mind guesses this man probably would be as horrified by me as a gobby woman as he would – genuinely, genuinely – this is the thing. We don’t know right now. We can speculate, but we don’t know how much of this is motivated by just his homophobia.

Owen: We heard from his own father about his revulsion – why are we trying to deflect? Why are you both pick-

Mark: We are not trying to deflect. We are trying to reflect what is being said by the authorities here and –

Owen: Can I ask, what argument are you trying to pick here?

Mark: I’m now going to quote from what The Telegraph is saying…’his father said…[he] may have targeted the gay community after becoming angry when he saw two men–’

Owen: ‘May have’? He did! Why are you saying this?

Julia: ‘After seeing two men kissing in Miami some months ago’ – he may have been angered by many other things since then!

Owen: I’m sorry. I just find this the most astonishing thing I’ve ever been involved with on television. If he’d walked into a synagogue, and massacred dozens of Jewish people, you wouldn’t be saying what you’re saying now.

Owen: This bizarre attempt to deflect from this –

Mark: We are trying to draw parallels in terrorist attacks on people who are being attacked whether they are enjoying rock music in Paris, whether they are gay people in Florida enjoying a night out.

Julia: I completely accept it, as [Mark] does, that it was a homophobic attack, but for me the issue is there are going to be homophobic people, there’ll be people who hate black people, or who hate gay people, or hate Jewish people. There are going to be people, who are lunatics, who are fanatics –

Owen: Who are “lunatics”! Stop using these words, Julia!

Julia: Is it possible for me to finish one sentence?

Owen: If you stop using words like “lunatic” to talk about homophobic terrorist attacks!

Julia: Well thank you. Whoever these people are, and whatever their motivations are, the key thing is we’re always going to have mad and bad people in the world.

Owen: Mad and bad people. Okay.

Julia: And the key issue is, that they can’t do too much or any harm. When you have free access to assault weapons in a country like America, then they’re able to put their hatred of other people –

Owen: Yes! Obviously!

Julia: – into effect, and do damage. That’s the issue for me.

(discussion between Mark and Julia on gun control and the U.S. …Julia: It is absolutely absurd, if America were not going to do something about gun control after Sandy Hook in 2012, if you’re going to watch six- and seven-year-olds being massacred and you don’t think you need to act, they are never going to act.)

Mark: There’s something else here in The Telegraph coverage, which I think we need to bring up, Owen, in relation to your point. And that is, I think that we’ve got at least a call from a spokesman for Stonewall saying that people would be feeling vulnerable, and basically indicating –

Owen: Oh, you’re going to have an LGBT voice talking about it. Interesting.

Mark: Sorry?

Owen: Nothing, carry on. Go on.

Julia: Owen, seriously.

Owen: I’ve had enough of this. I’m going home. Sorry. No way.

Julia: Owen, genuinely, we’re trying to have a civilized conversation.

Owen: I know you’re having it, I don’t want it!

Julia: I know you’re upset, you’re very upset –

Owen: Yeah, I am, I’m very upset. I’m very upset.

Julia: Everyone’s upset and angry about this, but storming off a TV set –

Owen Jones, Mark Longhurst, and Julia Hartley-Brewer discuss the Pulse nightclub shootings, 12 June 2016

[fandomsandfeminism]

Man, fuck those news casters. What the hell.

[jose-bote]

Those newscasters can burn

[asmrosa-deactivated20170831]

what really pisses me off is that cishets are making this about them like “im scared to go out anywhere any more :(” shut the fuck up sara you dont have to fear for your life for being gay or trans why do cis straight people have to make everything about them

[fohk]

[thighschool]

is this a real picture omfg???

[fake]

The picture is real because you can see it with your Eyes

[brutereason]

Re: “the Jews aren’t a race”: y'all can’t have it both ways. You can’t racialize Jewish people for *millennia* and then turn around and act like we’re just like you as soon as you get uncomfortable.

I identify as white because I benefit from white privilege and that’s the most important thing, but I never forget that my whiteness is conditional, that my family and I were never white until the day we set foot in the United States (and even then only because we entered it during the right decade). Y'all didn’t have a problem with Jews being a separate race when you were busy keeping us out of schools and workplaces using quotas, sooo. My parents’ classmates back in Russia didn’t have a problem with it when they were hurling racial slurs, either.

You don’t get to racialize our physical features, our personalities, every aspect of us and then get upset that we see ourselves as different. I’m quite aware exactly which parts of my body are supposedly ugly by mainstream white standards because y'all didn’t let me escape elementary school without knowing it. I know what I’m supposed to shave, pluck, straighten, hide. I know which parts of my personality are too Jewish. I know what “confirms the stereotypes.”

The reason (other) white people want to see Jews as white is because they want us to help them prop up white supremacy and because they don’t want to have to think about what they fucking did. It’s sad how many Jews fall for that, but plenty of us don’t.

[scalar]

[ani-and-his-angel-deactivated20]

This one actually made me laugh out loud

[timeinthefire]

[divorceddadrock]

Your fav is problematic: America

Lol JK it’s not even my fav it sucks.

[jose-bote]

Anyone who has America as their fave really should reconsider.

[ancienthyrule]

post: shows the lgbt flags with the phrase “stop killing us”

aces: um??? what about us!!!! we wanna get killed too!!! we EXIST!!!!!!! not murdering us is ACE ERASURE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[lesbiankingjulien]

Mara Wilson comes out

[amazing-lulu]

The apology : “@MaraWritesStuff if this is your way of coming out then i apologise and if not i stand by what i said”

Whoever that person is, what they did was wrong. Even with the apology it’s wrong. Mara Wilson was forced to come out to prove she could be allowed to speak about a homophobic terrorist attack that she was upset about, and she was legitimate to talk about it and to be upset about it even if she had been straight.

You see the thing with “allies” is that a lot of closeted people will call themselves ally rather than come out. Being agressive to allies of the LGBTQIA community, what’s the point really? Being gay is not like being a POC, or being visibly disabled, it’s something you can conceal and many people will take the decision to do so for their own safety or simply because they want to come out on their own term.

Also this behavior comes from assuming any LGBTQIA ally has to be just a straight person, and never a closeted queer person, and I can’t believe I have to say that because it’s obvious but *this is heteronormativity*. Assuming someone has to be straight before even thinking they might be queer is a shining example of heteronormativity.

And as someone who has yet to come out and who would like to come out on their own term, and who would say to LGBTQIA communities that I’m just an ally outside of this blog, I’m incredibly upset about that story. I’m afraid I might be forced to come out just to give legitimacy to my feelings and that’s just not right. I would like to decide when I will be strong enough to come out.

Please do not ever force people to come out.

Do not ever question allies’ right to express their feelings on the subject because you don’t know -you can’t know- which one of them are closeted.

Also people are not speaking over you when they are expressing their feeling on their own page. They are speaking over the community when: - they derail the conversation inside the community to speak about their feelings or about how they are totally not homophobic, or -when allies’ opinions are overall more popular and more shared than queer people, in which case, 1. It’s not their fault so don’t accuse them to speak over the community 2. Just shut up, don’t retweet it and for every angry message you’d like to post *retweet the opinion of a queer person instead*. -when they are speaking over the community by expressing what members of the community should feel or do to be acceptable to them, or disregarding/appropriating the community’s culture, which is absolutely not the case here.

Look I get that allyship has to be uncomfortable because of all the internalized homophobia, transphobia, racism and misogyny, because it takes time, humility and hard work to not be prejudiced, and because it also takes the ability to sometimes shut up to highlight the opinion of members of the community instead. But don’t express hate and agressivity toward people who are trying to help, who are being sincere and who are expressing their sadness and compassion, because those feelings are precious and shouldn’t be looked upon, because empathy is beautiful and because we can’t burn all the bridges people are building between our social groups when they are sincere and trying their best.

We are stronger together, as human beings, with our feelings and with people trying to help so please don’t build more borders than there already is, it’s not helping.

[americanyeti1]

Happy Pride Month 🌈

[pizzaback-deactivated20201011]

I hate how the stereotype is that dolphins are good and sharks are evil, when dolphins are so smart that they have the capacity for evil but sharks are simple fish who can only be true neutral, so even if a minority of dolphins are evil there are still more evil dolphins than sharks

[rageclit-deactivated20181208]

quality marine philosophy discourse

[sixtyforty]

this is the most depressing thing i have ever seen it is literally stressing me out LET HER SPLASH

[danielle-mertina]

I now know firsthand that going to a car dealership is…an experience.

I went going exactly what car I wanted and I imagine that if you don’t know that much it’ll be easier for a dealership to screw you over when you get there by feeding you misinformation about a car, manipulating you into buying a more expensive model, and etc.

I had already done all my research online so I knew what I wanted. Down to the color. (Green is my favorite color!)

So boyfriend and I went (I followed Tumblr’s advice about bringing a man lol). And I test drove the car and loved it just like I knew I would. And THEN the real dealership experience began.

The bottomline is that I knew my credit score and so I knew what kind of interest rate (APR) I should expect. I also knew the manufacturer price of the car (MSRP) and I knew how much they were selling for on average in my area ($3k less than MSRP).

So I knew what I was going to pay and I had already decided on that in my head.

So dealer #1 (a white guy–this is relevant to mention lol) brings back the first set of numbers. He cushions it with making small talk and flattering me on starting my PhD in August. He also chats up boyfriend.

The numbers were bad. I could tell looking at it. Although they didn’t say the APR, I knew that my monthly rate shouldn’t be that high based on the number of months I’d be paying it. Also they only gave me $2k off MSRP.

I noted that the sticker price was too high because I can go to another dealer and get it cheaper and they knocked off another $1k.

And then I asked him what the APR was. He was very evasive and kept telling me to look at the monthly payments because that’s what “really matters.” No, what really matters is what I’m paying for the car overall which is the sticker price + state fees (unavoidable) + interest rate.

Dealer #1 finally told me the APR and it was 3x the rate I knew I was eligible for. I told him that’s not gonna work. He turned aggressive and said that I’m a first time buyer and I can’t expect better and that I’m being unrealistic to expect a lower rate and etc etc.

So I said that my bank quoted me a rate half that much and I’ll just go through them and buy later (at a different dealer). Because I want the car but there’s 2 other places I can go to get it in my area.

Then all of a sudden dealer #1 could get me a better APR. His next offer was 2x what I wanted to pay. I said nah that good enough.

Then they brought out dealer #2, who was a Black guy. He didn’t sit down and instantly start talking about the price. He said a bunch of small talk and said some stuff about being Black lol. Tryna be chummy chummy and connect with us on a racial level.

Then he tried to push the same numbers as dealer #1. I said I know I’m young and I don’t have a math background but you’re charging me way too much for this car and I’m not going to buy it at that price. Period. I said: get the APR down and I’ll buy the car. He kept telling me it wasn’t possible and I said okay…I won’t buy it.

But then he was like wait…lemme run the numbers. And ta da! He came back with the right APR. Also zero down. And payments lower than my target.

This whole process took 5 hours.

Moral of the story:

- know as much as you can before going to a dealership so you can focus on the numbers - know your credit score so you know what your APR should be - get approved through an independent bank for a loan so you have leverage to negotiate with a better rate from the dealer - don’t focus on monthly payments. Times that by the amount of months so you know what you’re REALLY paying - threaten to walk because stuff magically happens at dealerships when you do lol

[theroseandthebeast]

YES. and I will also swear by The Toast’s How to Buy a Car Without Interacting With a Human

[eastafriqueen]

[noirmujeres-deactivated20170113]

Didn’t even know…..

[dynastylnoire]

Jesus…..Rip

[hooliganadventures]

All beautiful people, and yet we heard nothing about it

[fraesh]

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2016/jun/08/un-commission-eritrea-international-criminal-court-hague

This article further elaborates on the situation in Eritrea

[wvrthy]

Heartbreaking, RIP… And not one report broadcasted

[slaviaplath-deactivated20170201]

I’m violently opposed to the idea of the shooter being a “secret gay” the very idea infuriates me

[slaviaplath-deactivated20170201]

If he was indeed on grinder and went to the club it’s because he was scoping the place out, he was plotting, he had a fucking plan

[laundryandtaxes]

Especially when there have already been several cases of men getting grindrs and then assaulting the men they find, because it’s easy to get someone alone in their home under the guise of a date, it seems pretty awful to assume this isn’t just another case of that.

[sleepiegurl-blog]

The person that let me use their paypal acct stole all of the money from me, shut down the account, and left.

[sleepiegurl-blog]

DO NOT SEND DONATIONS TO [email protected]

I’ll explain in another post

[sleepiegurl-blog]

Jonathan and Micah and I have been friends for years and we recently got back in touch and he started helping us out. He had a business paypal, a card and had an address we could get checks sent to us. He let us use his account. He’s been planning on going back to florida bc of family issues but he told us he wouldn’t touch the paypal, wouldn’t mess with anything. Swore up and down (which was weird cause we trusted him it was whatever) This morning he took me to Walmart to get some lice shampoo. When we got back he dropped me off and said he was gonna go for a drive and he’d be back in an hour and a half. That was at 8am. At 2pm he still hadn’t come back so Micah and I decided to try to run errands on our own. We got a cab, got to Walmart and tried the ATM and our card was declined. I called paypal and they told me that the account was shut down, the pin was changed, the card was reported stolen and all of the info had been changed. He took out all of the money we had. I called my parents, my grandparents, and my uncle and asked for help to pay for the cab and no one helped. I had to go around the parking lot and ask people for help.

This was my new start. This was all I had. Now I have nothing. I have nothing AGAIN. I’m fucking devastated.

My new paypal email is [email protected]. I don’t expect anyone to help, you’ve all helped so much already.

To everyone that donated, I am so sorry. I am so so sorry. I promise this was and is not some sort of scam or lie. I hope I haven’t lost anyone’s trust or friendship bc of this.

I don’t know what to do now. I paid for another night in this hotel room so I have a place to stay tonight, thankfully.

Tomorrow I don’t know what’s going to happen.

[tvwatercooler]

Stephen Colbert reacts to #GiveCaptainAmericaABoyfriend