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@jaycarterphotos had me feeling like I'm in a Miss Universe pageant. What makes you smile? "Compliments. Memories. Small kisses" When did you consider yourself an 'adult'?⁠⁠⁠⁠ "Ha. I still don't" When will you be good enough for you? "'I'd never be good enough for me, always wanna be better."

Have a blessed week all

Happy New Year. The only thing that has changed is the date. Same goals. Same me. Have a great year all.

FB memory. Apparently I published a note 5 yrs ago today.

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How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

1. Recognize that you have choices. Usually people-pleasers feel as if they don’t have a choice, and they have to say yes when someone asks for their help. But you DO have a choice – and it’s Ok to say no.

2. Decide on your priorities. If you already have commitments or you have set priorities then it’s easy to say no as you’ve a genuine “excuse”. Do what matters most to you, and please remember - it’s your life!

3. Stall for time – don’t give an answer right away. Say you need a bit of time before you make up your mind. That allows you time and space to think about the consequences. For other things will likely suffer if you take on far too much.

4. Don’t be afraid to add conditions to your yeses. For example, say that you’ll only say yes if someone else says yes as well – or only take on a new task for a set period of time.

5. Are you being manipulated? There are plenty who will use you to ensure their plans succeed, so watch out for those compliments and empty flattery.

6. Be firm when you say no. The first time you say no it feels uncomfortable and hard. But once you’ve done that a few times it starts to feel much easier. Also, if you sound confident then others take you seriously.

7. Don’t defend you decision. You have a right to say no – and to NOT defend yourself. It’s your life after all - you don’t have to explain “why” … or come up with excuses … or be pushed and pressurised. And don’t apologise to others - saying no is not a crime!

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1st thing I saw when I signed in.. This is me, has been me for like forever... Gotta consider these tips

Had to repost. This brought a tear to my eye while laughing 😂😂😂😂

Royal Hotel..... Shot by @goldthumb_marix

A lil sum sum to start my day right

Was running through my BBM updates and got this idea. Words were different so I did my own twist #truestory #privateletterstoyou #youaintreadyyyy #idlyhashtaggin #sueme

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