đłïžââ§ïžđłïžâđ TERFs, radfems, etc will be blocked on sight. My trans brothers, sisters, and siblings deserve the world.
đ«đ” If weâre not mutuals, do not ask me for money.
đ«âNO ASKS with questions about the Carnitasagaâąïž/Chipotle post. No exceptions; I will block you instantly.
đ«đ Iâm an adult. As such, I sometimes post or reblog adult-oriented things, and I donât currently tag them. No lifeguard on duty; swim at your own risk.
đ«đMy dash is my happy place on the internet. I use filters and the block button to keep it that way, instead of making it everyone elseâs problem by starting fights with strangers or screeching about DNI criteria. Youâre entitled to your own opinions! But I do unfollow people, including beloved mutuals, who frequently shit-talk the things I enjoy (unless itâs taggedâmore on that below).
đ·ïž Commonly-used tags, sideblog directory, and more under the cut:
#tobylr - Pics of my dog.
#json whatsnewlo - Asks.
#json dequeuelo - Queued posts, 24 hours a day.
#json deJSON - Posts about programming/work.
#json deventlo - Vent posts.
#tumblr recipe exchange - Send an ask with a recipe, get one of mine in return.
#muted - My greatest hits (derogatory).
#taylor swift - (Mostly moved to sideblog @taylorssourdoughstarter).
#jet lag the game - (Mostly moved to sideblog @thanks4kickinit).
#writing - (Moved to sideblog, ask me.)
To keep my notifications tab usable and my site experience pleasant, I mute all of my posts/reblogs if/when they get more than 200 notes. I'm sorry, but this does mean I didn't see your brilliant reblog.
đ·ïžđ I filter the tag #json dontlooko . Youâre welcome to use it for anything you donât want me to see (shit-talking me, being misogynistic about Taylor Swift fans, planning my surprise birthday party, etc). Or donât! Thatâs fine, too! Just don't be surprised if I unfollow you.
I also filter a number of other tags and content strings, both to minimize inbox spam and to keep things off my dash that I'd rather not see without unfollowing the beloved mutuals who reblog them. Unfortunately, this does sometimes mean asks from well-meaning people containing those strings of text are blocked from my view, and I have no way of working around that limitation. If you sent me something nice, I'm not intentionally ignoring you! I promise! Sometimes I just can't see it because I've filtered the name of the blorbo in your URL. (And sometimes I can see your ask, and want to reply, but it just takes me a bit.)
Okay! If you actually read all of this, send me an ask or DM with your favorite heart emoji and Iâll give you a limited-edition Shiny Toby.
random fact about me! I became a perfumer because someone forgot my birthday when I was eight years old.
my parents had friends who were professional perfumers and they stopped by the house on my birthday and gave me a little DIY kit that I could make my own scents with. it wasn't until many years later that I realized they were probably coming over for unrelated reasons and went "wait, shit, we gotta give the kid something! uhhhhh what do we have in the car??" but by then it was too late and I'd caught the fragrancing bug. I still have the first bottle I ever made â€ïž
that's so cool???? they completely altered the course of your life and it was probably an accident. did you ever waver in your certainty about pursuing this as a career or were you really just locked in from the age of eight onwards? and what was the scent for that first bottle?
I will admit, I'm very very intimidated about assigning you one from my own collection since you're someone who actually Knows This Stuff. But I think this one's really interesting and you might appreciate it:
To me, it smells like one of those things you know you shouldn't be smelling because it's probably toxic, but you kinda can't stop yourself from doing it at least a little bit because it scratches an itch in your brain. Like a print shop, or an art classroom with a bunch of paints out, or if you could huff Sharpies without it hurting you. It smells like an artist or artisan is making something and you're in their way but you're too distracted to notice. But it's also got some really nice grapefruit and vetiver in the drydown, too. I can never seem to bring myself to buy the full size because I think it would be tricky to actually wear, but I've got a little 3ml sample spritzer that I keep coming back to
itâs so special to me that so much of fan culture is textual analysis for the love of the game. like thank god there are people in my phone who are also thinking about this thing i love so much that they are writing transformative fiction as character studies and setting clips of the show to music with theme-relevant lyrics and writing long text posts analyzing every line of dialogue like!! yay!!!
Further context: Durham city council (Reform UK) cut funding and support for Pride. The Durham Miner's Association and other trade unions raised enough money for Durham Pride 2026 to go ahead - a direct call back to when Lesbian and Gays Support the Miners (LGSM) raised money for mining communities when Margaret Thatcher seized union funding during the miner strikes of 1984-85.
At the 1985 Labour party meet, the motion to support LGBT rights as a party was passed due to a block vote from mining unions.
Stephen Guy, the chair of the Durham Minersâ Association, said that when it became apparent Durham Pride was under threat, he took it upon himself to âencourage the trade union movement to step up and do the right thing, and stand shoulder to shoulder with the LGBT+ community [âŠ] They not only raised funds for us, but came to our communities, uplifted our spirits when they were down, and showed their solidarity.â
given the current climate this pride especially i feel i must mention that i love my trans friends, i stand with trans people in the fight against transphobic legislation and those who would enforce it, and this blog is not a good place for you to be if you do not vibe with that
Once when I was in undergrad, someone described something as âproblematicâ in class and our professor was like, âThatâs cool, but âproblematicâ doesnât really mean anything. It means that the thing youâre describing has a problem, and in and of itself thatâs not bad. Art, especially, should always have problems, or else itâs not interesting and not art, either. It sounds like youâre trying to say that this is bad, but you donât want to say âbad.â Is that right?â
So from then on whenever one of us called something problematic, he would make us talk it out until we could name the âbadâ thing we were hinting at. In this particular class, 7/10 it was some type of oppression, and the remainder was like, âIâm uncomfortable because this is very new/confusing/pushing boundaries that made me feel safe.â
Once we stopped calling things âproblematicâ and stopping at that, class got way more interesting and... we all had to say, like, âthatâs racistâ or âthatâs misogynisticâ or âew capitalism grossâ out loud, which a lot of us had never done in a classroom before. Or we had to be like, âUhhh... Iâm not sure whatâs so bad?â and confront our own beliefs and that was maybe even more useful.
Anyway. Whenever I see the word problematic, I canât help but think of this professor being like, âGood starting point, now letâs get specific.â I think when we have to commit to saying âthatâs ___â it requires a lot more careful thought about the truth and impact and complexities of whatever weâre claiming. Sometimes there really is some bullshit afoot, and also sometimes itâs art, and it should be full of problems, because thatâs what art is.
This kind of response to things I say about sex work, which isn't always phrased like this but almost always focuses on me being male or a man or my pronouns, shows a fundamental misunderstanding of why mansplaining is bad.
I am a sex worker. I have been for a decade. The majority of people I know are sex workers and I'm embedded in sex worker community. I started before 18 and have done it in brothels, cars, my own home, clients' homes, saunas, and hotels.
It's absolutely reasonable to criticize men who speak on issues they don't experience like an authority, especially when they speak over women to do it. It is not reasonable to raise someone's gender (or in this case, pronouns) as a reason their thoughts aren't worth hearing when the issue is one they do face.
Empress Elisabeth of Austria in Courtly Gala Dress with Diamond Stars, (1865), (detail), by Franz Xaver Winterhalter (German, 1805â1873), oil on canvas, 255 Ă 133 cm, Kunsthistorisches Museum, Vienna
I was saving this ask until I thought of something neat to share with you in response. aviation nerds tend to also be space nerds, right? even if you're not, I think you're enough of a general "humans doing cool stuff" enthusiast that you'll enjoy this anyway. are you familiar with col. chris hadfield, the (now retired) canadian test pilot, astronaut, and commander of the ISS? well, he also holds the lesser-known distinction of being the first musician to record a song in space. in fact, during his free time aboard the ISS, he wrote and recorded a whole album called Space Sessions: Songs From A Tin Can, and honestly? it goes pretty hard:
whatever recording device he used gave his vocals this faraway quality that I think suits the setting and concept of the album perfectly. I love it
