🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈 TERFs, radfems, etc will be blocked on sight. My trans brothers, sisters, and siblings deserve the world.
🚫💵 If we’re not mutuals, do not ask me for money.
🚫🛟 I’m an adult. As such, I sometimes post or reblog adult-oriented things, and I don’t currently tag them. No lifeguard on duty; swim at your own risk.
🚫🙈My dash is my happy place on the internet. I use filters and the block button to keep it that way, instead of making it everyone else’s problem by starting fights with strangers or screeching about DNI criteria. You’re entitled to your own opinions! But I do unfollow people, including beloved mutuals, who frequently shit-talk the things I enjoy (unless it’s tagged—more on that below).
🏷️ Commonly-used tags, sideblog directory, and more under the cut:
#tobylr - Pics of my dog.
#json whatsnewlo - Asks.
#json dequeuelo - Queued posts, 24 hours a day.
#json deJSON - Posts about programming/work.
#json deventlo - Vent posts.
#tumblr recipe exchange - Send an ask with a recipe, get one of mine in return.
#muted - My greatest hits (derogatory).
#taylor swift - (Mostly moved to sideblog @taylorssourdoughstarter).
#jet lag the game - (Mostly moved to sideblog @thanks4kickinit).
#writing - (Moved to sideblog, ask me.)
To keep my notifications tab usable and my site experience pleasant, I mute all of my posts/reblogs if/when they get more than 200 notes. I'm sorry, but this does mean I didn't see your brilliant reblog.
🏷️🙈 I filter the tag #json dontlooko . You’re welcome to use it for anything you don’t want me to see (shit-talking me, being misogynistic about Taylor Swift fans, planning my surprise birthday party, etc). Or don’t! That’s fine, too! Just don't be surprised if I unfollow you.
I also filter a number of other tags and content strings, both to minimize inbox spam and to keep things off my dash that I'd rather not see without unfollowing the beloved mutuals who reblog them. Unfortunately, this does sometimes mean asks from well-meaning people containing those strings of text are blocked from my view, and I have no way of working around that limitation. If you sent me something nice, I'm not intentionally ignoring you! I promise! Sometimes I just can't see it because I've filtered the name of the blorbo in your URL. (And sometimes I can see your ask, and want to reply, but it just takes me a bit.)
Okay! If you actually read all of this, send me an ask or DM with your favorite heart emoji and I’ll give you a limited-edition Shiny Toby.
“I don’t care if men benefit from feminism, they shouldn’t have to benefit from feminism to support it” okay, but they do, though. everyone benefits from feminism. you don’t live in a hypothetical, you live in the real world where feminism has real material benefits for the men in your life. so are you gonna take that in stride and move forward, or are you gonna keep pitching a fit that feminism not being Girls Only™️ means it’s tainted.
drives me nuts when ppl act like its somehow feminist to be a huge asshole to people because 'men are allowed to behave that way,' or whatever. ok. well i dont think men should be treating people like that either. and if they talk to me like you are talking to me, i will judge and avoid them as well.
look at me. look me in my eyes. there are brave souls out here contemplating the eroticism of greasing a bike chain. we can't be gawking at every kink this side of light spanking or we'll be here all day
back in my undergrad I heard my 19 year old roommates tittering about sexy halloween costumes and ribbed condoms. one of them thought I was some kind of pervert bc I knew what furries were. they didn't even know what knotting was
Bioessentialism will have people saying stuff like "all amabs are dangerous and violent, and all afabs are incapable of harm and pure" and gender essentialism will have people saying "all trans feminine people and trans women are incapable of harm and pure, and all trans masculine people and trans men are dangerous and violent"
And I keep seeing them used as reactions to each other. You get away from one and fall into the other.
"hey, before you interact, tell me what category of humans you think are inherently evil and disgusting and that we should exterminate to live all peacefully and safely? :)" <- this is how it sounds.
I am not joking when I say the death of nuance is the death of us.
#(cups hands) and also its racist as all fuck#bioessentialism is inextricable from racism#'there is an inherently violent and dangerous type of human' dovetails real neatly into 'black and brown people are dangerous savages'#to which trans poc are especially vulnerable
tags by @Fratboycipher that were too good to leave hidden
I've known a number of non binary people in my life and I think single biggest conclusion I can draw from that is that non binary people are not the same. Like if Men fit in box A and women fit in box B, people really, really want nonbinary people to fit in a theoretical box C, and it just doesn't work like that. They are outside the boxes. They defy any simple categorization because they are not a third way of being, but every other possible way of being.
Being supportive of binary people is relatively simple, they have decided to sort themselves into one of the boxes that we have lots of experience interacting with. Being supportive of nonbinary people can be comparatively tricky, because you have to resist the urge to create box C and drop them all there. That's how we end up with various prejudices like "woman lite". Humans really, really like to categorize things. It helps us think. Unfortunately, sometimes it helps us think wrong.
If you have a non binary person in your life, I think it is important to take the extra effort to learn about them specifically.
as much as everyone loves "the power of love won't save us, we need the power of incredible violence" i'm sorry to rain on your parade but we've actually tried that about ten million times as a species, and you'll be shocked to hear the power of incredible violence, without the power of love behind it, is just brutality. the power of incredible violence has been ruling (various parts of, and then the entire) world for the past 5,000 years. ours is not that damn special.
like yes use that gun you found but WHY are you using it? on who are you using it? what would make you stop using it? is your goal to live in a world where every problem is solved by violence, or is your goal to do the violence necessary to live in a world where that necessity is unthinkable?
one thing i noticed about american sitcoms is that they make it seem like YOU HAVE TO attend these high school reunions and relive your trauma again and again
