Jules

A space for honest thoughts about trust, relationships, emotional healing, human behaviour, and the quiet things people often feel but struggle to say out loud. Written from personal experience and reflection. And sharing other quotes i may find. NO DMS PLEASE.

[julesboo16]

[julesboo16]

There isn’t one ,NOT ONE MOTHERFUCKER walking this earth gonna convince me I’m a bad person. 😂

I love people. I give people chances. I’m good to people until they give me a reason not to be. I don’t wake up looking for problems, and I damn sure don’t go around treating people like shit for no reason.

But understand something about me…

I match energy.

You’re good to me? I’ll love the hell out of you.

You respect me? You’ll get that same respect back.

You show me love? I’ll give you ten times more.

BUT…

If you fuck me over, disrespect me, lie to me, play with me, or keep pushing me after I’ve already told you to stop?

I’m not the same woman anymore.

I’m good to a certain extent.

But once you press that LAST BUTTON…

I become the devil’s daughter. 👿😂

And the funniest part?

You’ll swear I’m the problem because you finally met the version of me YOU created.

Don’t fuck with me and then act surprised when I stop being nice. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m not mean. I’m responsive. 💋

[julesboo16]

THE THINGS BEHIND THE SCREEN

There was a night when I lay beside him and felt so lonely I could barely breathe.

Not because he was gone.

Because he was right there.

Two feet away.

And completely unreachable.

His screen was glowing. His face was lit up in the darkness. I watched that light move across the ceiling for 45 minutes while he disappeared into a world on the other side of the glass.

A world of fantasy.

A world of endless stimulation.

A world where strangers on a screen could hold his attention more easily than the woman lying beside him.

He didn't know I was awake.

And in that moment, something inside me cracked.

Because I realised it wasn't just about what he was looking at.

It was about what he was CHOOSING.

He was choosing a screen over connection.

Fantasy over intimacy.

Instant pleasure over the real woman beside him.

And the hardest truth?

It wasn't because those women were better than me.

It was because the screen was easier.

There is no vulnerability behind a screen.

No emotional connection required.

No effort.

No responsibility for the woman sitting beside you wondering why she doesn't feel wanted anymore.

You can chase stimulation without having to show up emotionally for the person you love.

And when that becomes a pattern, something happens.

The real person beside you starts feeling invisible.

She starts wondering why she isn't enough.

She starts questioning her body, her sexuality, her attractiveness, her worth.

When really, the problem was never that she wasn't enough.

He was becoming more invested in an artificial version of pleasure than the real intimacy waiting beside him.

And that's what people don't understand.

It's not always the screen itself that breaks a relationship.

It's what happens when someone repeatedly chooses what is behind the screen over what is right in front of them.

Because eventually, you stop feeling like a partner.

You start feeling like the person sleeping beside someone who has already emotionally checked out or uses you as an end to thier screen time.

And a man who consistently chooses the easy, instant pleasure of a screen over the vulnerability, intimacy and connection of the real woman beside him...

may still be lying next to you.

But a part of him has already left.

And you can feel it.

[somewordsarebiggerthanothers]

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[keytomind]

🖤👆🏼 my biggest struggle…

[julesboo16]

This is probably one of my biggest struggles — understanding that having boundaries doesn’t make you controlling, difficult, unfair or “too much.” Your boundaries are there to protect you. They are the things you put in place because something hurts you, makes you uncomfortable or crosses a line you need respected. The right person won’t make you feel guilty for having them. They might not always agree with every boundary, but they will care enough to understand why it matters to you. You shouldn’t have to abandon your boundaries just to prove that you’re easy to love.

[julesboo16]

Why do some women start enjoying the attention of other men?

And no, I’m not necessarily talking about cheating.

Sometimes it’s simply enjoying the conversation. The compliments. The attention. The feeling of being noticed. The feeling that someone is genuinely interested in you.

And I’m not saying that makes it right.

I’m saying there is often a reason behind it.

Because sometimes the man at home isn’t the man she fell in love with anymore.

The man she fell in love with was romantic. Soft. Affectionate. Present. He made her feel beautiful. He wanted to hear about her day. He looked at her like she was something special.

Then somewhere along the way, that man disappeared.

Now he spends more time looking at screens, consuming fantasies, scrolling, watching other women, chasing stimulation that has nothing to do with the woman lying beside him.

And slowly, she starts wondering…

“Do you even still desire me?”

“Do you even notice me?”

“When was the last time you made me feel wanted?”

So when another man gives her the attention she has been missing, it can feel good.

Not necessarily because she wants him.

But because she misses the feeling of being seen, wanted, appreciated and desired.

Again — that's an explanation, not an excuse.

You are still responsible for the boundaries you choose to have in your relationship.

But if you don't want your woman looking elsewhere for attention, don't simply blame her when she starts enjoying it.

Look at what is happening inside your relationship.

Because you cannot stop showing affection, stop being romantic, stop making her feel desired, replace intimacy with screen fantasies, and then be shocked when somebody else notices the woman you've stopped noticing.

If you want to keep your woman, act like you're afraid to lose her.

Not by controlling her.

Not by monitoring her.

Not by telling her what she can and can't do.

But by continuing to give her reasons to choose you.

Love her.

Notice her.

Touch her.

Compliment her.

Date her.

Desire her.

Be soft with her.

Make her feel safe.

Make her feel beautiful.

And remind her — through your actions, not just your words — that after all these years, you still choose her.

Because a woman who feels deeply loved at home has far less reason to go looking for that feeling somewhere else.

Yes i said it!

[julesboo16]

“Her libido has changed.”

“She’s not as sexy as she used to be.”

“She’s not as adventurous anymore.”

Well… what the fuck did you expect??

You spend your time getting turned on by women on a screen who will never know you exist, while the woman who actually loves you, sleeps beside you and wants to feel desired by you is right there.

And then you have the nerve to wonder why she doesn't feel sexy anymore.

You can't repeatedly pour your sexual attention, excitement and validation into fantasy and expect the woman beside you to remain unaffected.

She notices. She feels it. And eventually, she stops trying.

Because when a woman constantly feels like she's competing with a screen, a fantasy or an endless supply of women you can look at whenever you want, something inside her changes.

Her confidence changes.

Her desire changes.

Her vulnerability changes.

Her trust changes.

Her willingness to put herself out there changes.

And eventually, she stops asking herself, “How can I make him want me?”

She starts asking, “Why the fuck am I trying so hard to be wanted by someone who clearly prefers looking elsewhere?”

Then suddenly you're complaining that she's not adventurous.

That she doesn't initiate.

That she doesn't dress up.

That she doesn't seem interested.

That she's “changed.”

Of course she's changed.

You taught her that being physically beside you doesn't mean being the woman you desire.

You made her feel replaceable.

You made her feel like real life couldn't compete with fantasy.

You can't spend months or years feeding your desire everywhere else and then expect her to switch it back on for you because you've suddenly noticed she's stopped chasing your attention.

You don't get to starve a woman of feeling desired and then complain when she loses her appetite for you.

Sometimes her libido didn't disappear.

You just killed the desire to give it to you.

[julesboo16]

There’s a series of moments before the end of a relationship where you already know it’s over.

You feel the change, the disconnection, the disrespect increasing, and your instincts are climbing up the walls trying to get your attention.

But yet, you still stay…

Not because you don’t see the truth, but because deep down you don’t feel ready to face it.

We sometimes stay in the wrong relationship for far longer than we should because leaving requires grieving, grieving requires acceptance, and acceptance requires admitting that everything we tried to build with this person has seemingly failed.

So instead we hold onto their potential, to the memories, to the brief moments when we felt seen by them if only for a second, or to the version of them who shows up just often enough to confuse us and make us rethink everything all over again.

We stay because we want to believe that we didn’t get things wrong with this person.

We stay because walking away feels like giving up on everything when we’ve invested so much time and energy with this person.

But we also stay because our self-worth has slowly been worn down to the point where pain now feels normal.

You might be sitting there feeling kind of foolish for staying as long as you did, but staying isn’t something that you need to feel foolish about; it means you loved deeply even when that love was unappreciated, wasn't reciprocated, taken for granted, and mishandled.

True strength isn’t in leaving the moment things get hard; real strength is in finally saying enough is enough, because I know that I deserve better than this.

It’s not that you didn’t see the truth earlier, it’s that you finally reached a point where you valued yourself enough to act on it.

And that is not something that you should feel foolish at all about, because that’s the very first sign that you’re starting to remember what you're worth again, and that you're starting to respect that worth.

~ Mark Smith

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© The Super Powered Mind

[julesboo16]

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[infinitelyhisgirl]

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[julesboo16]

We spend so much time worrying about tomorrow that we forget the greatest gift we have is today.

The person you chose to spend your life with deserves to feel loved, valued, and chosen—not just on anniversaries or special occasions, but every single day.

Hold their hand a little longer. Kiss them before they leave. Tell them you love them, even when life gets busy. Say sorry when you're wrong. Laugh together. Make time for each other. Never let them question whether they're important to you.

Because life doesn't come with warnings.

One day, there will be a last hug.

A last kiss.

A last "I love you."

A last ordinary moment that neither of you realised would be the last.

Love fiercely while you still can.

One day, one of you will wake up without the other. And when that day comes, the things you'll treasure most won't be the money you made or the arguments you won—they'll be the memories. The quiet moments. The laughter. The affection. The way you made each other feel safe, seen, and deeply loved.

So don't wait.

Choose them today.

Choose them tomorrow.

Choose them every single day.

Because when all that's left are memories, you'll never regret loving someone too much—but you may regret not showing them just how much they meant to you.

[infinitelyhisgirl]

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[infinitelyhisgirl]

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[julesboo16]

Love isn't just about staying. It's about showing up in the ways your partner needs most. If you know you can't give someone the love, respect, consistency, or emotional safety they deserve, holding on only delays their chance to find it elsewhere. Sometimes the kindest thing you can do isn't asking them to settle—it's stepping aside so they can be truly loved.

💔💔

[julesboo16]