Juliet-Simms-Discussions

Neutral blog regarding musician Juliet Simms.

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CONGRATS 🎉❤🎉❤

Thank you so much 😂

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I used to follow a person on Instagram that constantly shits on Juliet and it seems like that’s the only thing they waste their time on but what’s interesting to me is this conspiracy theory that they came up with that Sumerian aka Ash Avildsen and Juliet are working together to ruin Andy and bvb, and their main reason was because of paradise city being pushed back LMAO.

... that is the biggest reach of the fucking year wtf??? The only one ‘on the inside’ that was trying to ruin Andy and BVB was Ashley. 

ALSO, JULIET IS IN PARADISE CITY SO THAT MAKES NO SENSE?!?!?

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I love conspiracy theories and theories in general but if you are going to do one - make sure it makes sense. Since being with Sumerian Records, BVB are starting to get their sound back and reputation. I personally think if anyone was trying to ruin BVB it would have been Ashley since they’ve definitely got their stride back since he left. 💙

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How is everything? :)

Been very eventful - deliveredy little munchkin on Friday after my waters breaking on Tuesday and came home yesterday from the hospital. So he’s here in time for Christmas so I’ll definitely be having my Christmas dinner this year 😂

Thank you for asking 💙

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Hey guys

So I have a new blog called @just-something-to-read where I will be posting about issues that are going on in the world and stuff like that. It would mean a lot if you guys checked it out. It’s only got one post at the moment but I hope you enjoy it. 💙

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You're almost in the homestretch, Mama! Hang in there ❤❤❤❤

5 more weeks to go, must admit had a massive anxiety attack last night regarding labour (tip for all other mums to be - don’t watch birthing videos) and the heartburn has been horrific but only 5 weeks to go now. 💙

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oof. ok the "pan is bi/transphobic" thing is complicated (and also wrong to be clear) but i'll try. there is a subset of transphobic bi people that say they won't date trans people because they're still categorizing trans people as being a "different" gender from their cis counterparts. so a lot of people who had that shoved down their throats thought "but i'll date trans people, so i guess i can't be bi" and used that as their primary reason for identifying as pan. but that's still 1/2

saying that trans people are different genders from cis people which isn't true (unless they're nonbinary). so that's the transphobia part. and the biphobia is people's pan identity being rooted in the belief that bisexuals can't be attracted to trans people. it's all rooted in misinformation and weird justifications for transphobia that then loop back around against the rest of the bi and pan communities.

Reply: I have definitely encountered transphobic bisexual people and gay/lesbian people. That is a huge issue in the community. I just think it’s a reach to try and call pan people trans/biphobic just because they identify as pan. Trans women are 100% real women and trans real men are 100% men. That is the truth, and that is my view as well. 

To me, pan is a term I feel best fits my identity. And that is largely because I feel it is inclusive of people who are nonbinary, agender, gender-neutral, or genderqueer. I don’t base my attraction to someone on their gender, sexuality, presentation, or body parts. I don’t separate out trans people as somehow different than cis people, nor do I feel like I was forced into using the term pan. Some may feel that way, but I haven’t encountered that. 

Anyone who is seriously trying to argue about pan being a problematic term is being stupid. If someone is being transphobic by all means call them out. But to assume that someone who identifies as pan is transphobic or biophobic is wrong. It is a matter of choice as to what someone wants to use as their identifier (bi/pan). Some people use bisexual because it is a more well-known term and most people automatically know what that means. Some may not know what pan means or that it is a term. 

There are much more important things to focus on instead of arguing back and forth with each other as to what the ‘proper’ terms are. The reality is that there are countless terms under the LGBTQ+ umbrella and at the end of the day it comes down to what a person feels best represents them. I know people get into massive debates about stuff like this, but if you ask me that energy should be used rooting out transphobia, misogyny, racism, and internalized homophobia in the community and society at large. 

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As a bisexual, this infuriates me. Pansexual is not within itself transphobic/biphobic exactly the same as bisexual within itself is not transphobic or nonbinaryphobic. I identify as bisexual but in all fairness I don’t really care what you identify as however, personally I could not date an individual who is in the middle of transitioning and I have spoken to many transgender/nonbinary individuals regarding this and they have said that isn’t transphobic that is a preference. However, if my partner decided to transition whilst we are together then no I wouldn’t leave them or anything like that because they will still be the same person that I love however, I don’t think I could engage in sexual intercourse whilst they are transitioning. But I have never been in this situation so personally it may change if I was in that position.

People need to learn the difference between actual individuals who are against you and those who preferencely don’t find you sexually attractive. For example, my experience with biphobia is that once an ex found out I was bisexual - they asked if we could have a threesome with this other girl that they really fancied and when I said no they said well what good are you then? To me that is biphobia - but someone telling me they don’t want to date me because I’m bisexual - I just find that as a preference not a phobia. Maybe this is just me I don’t know but to call an entire category phobic of whatever is just going to destroy the very reason why stonewall and pride happened/happens. 💙

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Trump is a literal fucking parasite that is destroying the US. He has destroyed the constitution, he has destroyed any progress made for the racial divide, he has destroyed any progress made for the blue vs red divide but most importantly - he has destroyed the very meaning of democracy in the US. And I hope when he’s booted out, every sensible lawyer/individual will take him to court for every law and amendment that he has broken in the last 4 years.

He is NOT a President!

He does NOT have the average American’s best interests at heart!

He is a psychopathic con-artist who needs locking away!

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Happy Halloween! ❤❤

Thank you, I love Halloween but sadly can’t celebrate it this year due to covid and plus I have like zero energy from being pregnant.

I hope people are enjoying their safe Halloween. 💙

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How's mama and baby doing? ❤

We are doing alright thank you ☺️ only 9 weeks left and he’ll be here so very excited and nervous at the same time. We’ve learnt that he’s head down which is good but he’s measuring long in the legs. Just a scary thought that I’m going to be giving birth during a pandemic. ❤️

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Okay - so obviously this isn’t massively problematic compared to other things going on right now but this is something that needs addressing.

Your eyes are very fragile and sensitive which means that we have to be careful what we use/put in/around our eyes. To me this tweet is promoting that our cosmetic value (so how we look) is more important than our physical health. And yes looking/feeling good is important for mental health but please don’t damage your physical health to achieve positive mental health.

I get the majority of adults will understand this but for her younger followers please don’t put yourself at risk just to look quirky. Learn about proper contact care and the dangers of not wearing them correctly etc. Also please always buy from a credible source. ❤️

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Just a question:

So I just watched a tiktok video in regards to neopronouns. I have never heard of neorponouns before so I’ve done a quick google search and I’m very confused.....

From what I have read neopronouns are being used to sort of get rid of she/he/they which i don’t understand.... The neopronouns are apparently being used because the gender neutral term ‘they’ could refer to a man or a woman as well as a gender neutral person or enbie and the other vast genders within the LGBTQA+ community. But from what I have always thought and researched (and being genderfluid myself) is that the gender pronoun they is used for those who do not identify with a set gender and them obviously she/he is used for those who do whether that be cis or transgender individuals.

Obviously I will respect anyone’s pronouns and I understand gender/sexuality is more of a personal understand than a societal understanding, but I just want to understand where these terms have come from and when to use them correctly. Especially since the terms Ze/Zir and Hir/Hirs are German definitions of he/she. I’ve only seen one persons video on it and there doesn’t seem to be a lot on it in regards to individual peoples experiences with these pronouns.

But like I said if that’s how you wish to identify then obviously that’s what I’ll call you. I just want to understand where they have come from and if they are actually valid because unfortunately before I have been caught out in the past by false understanding - especially in regards to ‘MAPS’ without doing any prior research beforehand as to what MAPS actually were and you could imagine my horror when I found out. So I just don’t want to let myself down again and the community down.

Again, I’m not coming from hate - I literally just want to understand. ❤️

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Hi, how are you?

As Trick or Treat is unlikely to happen where I am cos of covid, I thought I'd make grandkids a Halloween advent calender, as I can't cut straight etc and have no artistic skills, it'll be interesting how it turns out! 🤦🏻I'm an idiot 😹

Hi I’m good thank you, and yourself?

And it’s unlikely trick or treat will occur in any country where Halloween is celebrated. But I think this is a great idea and even if it doesn’t turn out as expected I’m sure the grandkids will love it. When people say oh Halloween/Christmas is cancelled, I like to say it isn’t - it’s just given us an opportunity to find different ways to celebrate and I do love this idea. Good luck to you and I hope they turn out well for you. ❤️

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Coercion rape is a thing? Now I feel disgusting because all my spouse does is beg until I finally tell him to treat me like Walmart. Get your shit and get out. I have no drive whatsoever, never have, and it disgusts me. I hate being touched so much that just holding hands makes me wanna crawl out of my skin. He knows but I don't think he understands as much as he claims because if I say no until he gives up it always ends with a fight. I love him and want kids so I put up with it.

DO NOT PUT UP WITH IT. Coercion rape is very real and unfortunately is not talked about often enough, hence why we feel like it’s a normal practice, especially when married/in relationships. If you do want to stay with him maybe go see a therapist or discuss it in a safe environment and hopefully he will understand. But as soon as you say no or show any sign of not wanting to continue/start he should stop because then your consent has been manipulated and influenced which means that true consent has not been given. I hope you find the strength to either leave or discuss it in a safe environment with him because you deserve so much more than that. ❤️

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“There’s screenshots and images and nothing more”. What does this person want? A picture of AP abusing his victims? Like that’s going to happen! I’m just really pissed off. When multiple women come forward, and ex band mates talk about how toxic you were, no amount of “there’s not enough” or “anything can be faked” (which I saw someone recently say) is going to help your case of innocence.

I blocked her in the end, this is a safe place for victims and I’m not letting them destroy that. But yeah basically they wanted photographic evidence of the assault. My actual rape - I had no marks left on me except rope marks around my wrists which could be deemed as self harm since I self harmed at the time. My coercion rape - again no marks, nothing at all because he’d beg and beg and beg until I gave in. And majority of rape survivors follow the advice off “don’t struggle and you won’t get hurt/killed” so again not many marks, especially severe enough to be fully give evidence that it was sexual assault. And like we saw in the William Control case, a lot can use BDSM as an excuse. Now I’m into BDSM and it’s about safety and security - the photos those girls had and what they went through is not BDSM and not even they got a guilty conviction.

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Not every sexual assault will leave marks, so getting any form of evidence is hard. The fact that this person genuinely believes that Ashley is innocent when so many have spoken against him is worrying, and if Pearl hadn’t put her story online - maybe nobody else would have come forward and maybe even ex friends/band mates wouldn’t have said anything. We have seen time and time again, especially in the US that sexual assault/rape is not taken seriously and this is why! Blaming the victim because they didn’t have an escape plan, saying that the victim is probably lying or that there’s more to the story. The fact that we live in 2020 where everyone has equality - clearly not. The fact that rape/sexual assault victims have to go through interrogation just to be believed but the attacker gets a soft response of oh innocent until proven guilty or obviously there’s more to the story. It’s ideologies like these that stop victims from coming forward, so if this is genuinely your viewpoint maybe re-evaluate because the blame should never be placed on the victim. EVER!

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Please do not leave trans and non-binary/genderqueer people out of the abortion discussion. Access to safe abortions is an LGBTQ issue as much as it is a cis-gender woman issue. 

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When your own ex-band mates and their spouses/ex spouses make statements against you that link to the allegations being true - it’s not just a few girls trying to get famous. Actual girls who have met you and hanged out with the band have made statements against you. I cannot wait for the court case and for you to have the guilty verdict brought down on you. And then you will be left with nothing! You are not untouchable Mr.Purdy and I hope this will be your undoing once and for all. ❤️