(Theoretically) Writing

just a girl now :3 (she/her), 26. minors dni.

[incorrect-dnd-classes]

Ranger: I'm not a catgirl or whatever but sometimes I DO have to meow just to break the silence y'know?

[guiltygearofficial]

GUILTY GEAR STRIVE...2!

[daeranilen]

"Should parents read their daughter's texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"

Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, “Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?”

I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.

I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”

Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.

Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.

It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.

It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.

[daeranilen]

Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:

Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.

Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.

Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.

Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”

TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:

You do not respect their rights as an individual.

You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.

You probably haven’t been listening to them.

Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.

[daeranilen]

Part of me is really excited to see that the original post got 200 notes because holy crap 200 notes, and part of me is really saddened that something so negative has resonated with so many people.

[autumngracy]

“200 notes”

[SpongeBob Narrator voice] Ten Years Later

[partypuppy-nastja]

Fun fact: I saw this post today right after a Tumblr ad for spyware-for-parents which should not be any more legal than spyware-for-partners or spyware-for-stalkers or such

[kingslayerstew]

[thatlittleegyptologist]

Since some of you don't seem to understand how this 'new notes' thing works, I'll break it down:

I'm the OP. I'm making this post. If you like, comment, reblog (without comment) on this post, then I'm the one who will see all those notes in my activity page.

However...

If you reblog (with comment), I will get a notification that you did that, but any likes/comments/reblogs (without comment) you get on that reblog will only be shown to you. As OP I won't see them.

If someone adds a reblog (with comment) to your reblog...as OP I won't see that. I won't see any of those notes in my activity page.

Basically, if someone with a large following makes a comment, then they will get all the notes and OP will see nothing. If OP has said something silly because they're, y'know, 21 and it happens, and then someone reblogs it onto the dash of someone with a large following who then dunks on them for fun? OP doesn't see it, doesn't get notes for it, but they're gonna get the harrassment for it in their inbox.

If I, someone with a 5 digit follower count, reblog something to correct misinformation on Ancient Egypt, then OP will never see it unless it was on the original post, but I will continue to get notes on that post even though it's not my post. If I reblog fanart, or just art in general, with a comment like 'Oh this is so lovely!' then OP will not see any of the notes from people reblogging it from me. They'll only see my reblog. So it's possible for an art post by someone else to have 200 notes for them, but 9000 for someone who reblogs it with a comment, and the OP artist will have no idea it's been seen by that many people.

It's killing blow to the community we've built here, by someone higher up who doesn't understand that being able to see all the comments and reblogs is what makes this site the place I keep coming back to.

That's what sucks.

I encourage people to go to tumblr's support page, select contact support, and then in the dropdown menu select 'Feedback' and leave polite and constructive feedback (for those of you who enjoy 'emails worded politely but are a strong 'are you an idiot?', try that way of wording it). They're more likely to listen to you if you're not an asshole about it. I've already gone and done this, and I hope others will too.

[creatingblackcharacters]

While we're on the topic of white women having more power than women of color: one of my coworkers reminds me (not on purpose, of course) every day how that dynamic is too real. Because she's cool people, we fundamentally agree on everything workwise (I don't want to know her any more than that) and capitalism being bs stuff. But what's too funny is that I could NEVER vocalize these things the way she does and get away with it.

Like she's higher ranked than me and is very vocal about not doing shit outside her payroll and how the place is run poorly. And it's like... they promoted you 🤣 like her tone be deadass and while I love it I envy that she can just, not even think about the consequences of her words. Everyone just dismisses it as her being a pessimist. I feel like I'd get called into the office or something 😭

[the-nerdy-autist]

...Do you seriously think a white women would never get punished for something like that? Especially one lower on the food chain?

A few years ago my white women autistic ass got fired from a job specializing in helping people with disabilities because my boss kept using ableist language to refer to his own autistic daughter (who he had put in ABA.)

I made several anonymous complaints they were traced back to me the only openly autistic person and I was fired.

I wish everyone was as safe as your friend.

[creatingblackcharacters]

1) That is not something I said.

2) Less likely to be punished than me, as a woman of color in the same field, yes. You're still safer than me due to racism and white privilege.

[pukicho]

I need to see how this reblog thing works, can some of u reblog and talk within those separate reblogs?

[pukicho]

Yeah the moment a second person reblogs my post from someone else, I am no longer able to see their comments nor is it tallied to my original post, thus making it completely separate from mine. Fucking bullshit. Legitimately terrible for everyone.

And of course this reblog under my own post now has its own SEPERATE notes, reblogs and replies.

[sometiktoksarevalid]

[television-static-143]

you’re laughing. they r preparing him into mochi and your laughing.

[murraysiskind-deactivated202406]

THE FENG SHUI OF THIS WEBSITE IS FUCKED

[lizardsmp3]

i'm gonna keep it real with u guys i don't think we're ever becoming the new pdf like this

[pukicho]

Hello, we’re big computer company. We are truly grateful for your support! Our latest update will add a giant shit in the middle of your screen. You cannot remove it.

[tumblr]

Reblogs in a chain now get their own notes

The reblog chain is one of the things that makes Tumblr unlike anywhere else. All the notes on reblogs are attributed to the original post, no matter which branch people actually liked or reblogged. We want to keep encouraging conversations, and give contributors the recognition they deserve. 

Soon, you'll be able to like, reblog, or reply to any part of a reblog chain, and that note will go to that reblog's author. Each reblog will have its own counts, instead of one aggregated number from every version of the post. And yes, you’ll be able to like multiple posts in one chain.

If a reblog doesn't add anything, the love flows up to the last person in the chain who did. Your post doesn't lose notes just because people spread it quietly.

Past notes will stay on the original post — we're only changing what happens from here on out. Retroactively re-attributing all of them would be... a lot.

This is just the beginning. More changes are coming as we keep building this out – stay tuned!

[cryptotheism]

Not only will this ruin a core element of Tumblr, it will make it very difficult to tell where and when a post is getting traction. People are on this website because it isn't Twitter. Making it more like Twitter will turn people away.

[cryptotheism]

The last thing this website needs is a culture of catty twitter-style quote-retweets. This will actively encourage more toxic users to interact with your posts because their traffic will be more difficult to track.

[txttletale]

this actively sabotages the core benefit of tumblr over other platforms, the ability to have nuanced longform conversations. this change will make the website drastically worse

[magi-magi-tamamoland-chan]

the amount of goodwill you could earn with your userbase by saying "okay nvm" right now is astronomical

[dukeofash]

If you want to send feedback for this absolutely shit update send it through here https://www.tumblr.com/support. Keep complaining.

[lowpolyanimals]

Hamsters from Hamster Hunter

[ohnoitstbskyen]

Video games kinda suck at designing female heroes

In 2002, the photographer Howard Schatz published a photo collection called "Athlete" featuring pictures of, well, various top athletes from every sport and genre. These are some of the women he photographed, and the thing I want you to do in your head is compare the variety of humans that you're seeing here to the variety of humans you see in the cast list of your favourite video games.

These women are all in peak human condition for their fields - if you wanted to design a character who is tough and strong, these are the kinds of bodies you should look to for reference on what that looks like. You tell me how many video games or comics or movies or anime create their characters with even this limited variety in shape and size.

Of course, realism is not the end-all and be-all, fantasy characters don't need to be realistic, but if you are given the chance to make a character look like literally anything and justify it by "magic," and the only thing you do is reproduce the same 3 or 4 generically hot women over and over again, you are doing character design very poorly, in my opinion.

[neptunianhindrance]

the hq photo of both men and women

[shockimage]

[descole-dead]

Tintin remembers what comes after 15.

[drtanner]

FUCKING HELL IT’S BACK FROM LAST YEAR

[descole-dead]

This literally gets reblogged every 15th of the month. It’s almost two years old. It’s beautiful.

[descole-dead]

listen up ya’ll this post is 6 years old now and you’re still reblogging it. every month. once a month, my notifications blow up for this one video, but only until the 16th. then the notes on this vid completely stop. it’s so eerily spot on and impressive how you just all collectively know what to do. if I’m not online, people irl still remind me that it’s the 15th. thank you for six surreal years of me wondering if I completely fucking lost it. here’s to the 15th

[cynicalclassicist]

Reblogging it on the 16th!

[smolfoxbab]

can’t believe this iconic moment hasnt shown up on my dash yet in light of today

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