Never going to be perfect.
I’ve been doing this a long time, I’ve had good subs and bad subs. The one thing I’ve never based that on is their body. I hear and see this a lot:
“Well, if I’m going to have a Sub I’m gonna make sure she looks amazing, better looking than my last one” “well, if I’m going to be used by a Dom he might as well be a 9, I’m not giving this up to a 5”.
“I’m not good looking so I’ll just settle for anyone because I have to have this”. “Yes, he treats me like shit, no I don’t like it really, but I’m not worth more to anyone”
We all live in an age of porn, Tumblr and FetLife. I think it has skewed our expectations. I share pictures of extremely attractive sexy men and women with body types I’ll never attain. They all have perfect purchased boobs and a huge ten inch cock. The pics look terrific, their clothes are impeccable, etc. That’s not real life.
Here’s the real. I’m 5'8, 250 lbs, on a good day I have a very very average maybe six inches ready to go. Here’s the amazing thing, that more times than not has been perfect for the Sub I’m with. The reason for that is connection. I think I’m damn good at what I do, I put A TON of effort into what I do as a Daddy and/or a Dom. I mean a ton. I work up rules, I talk daily, discuss everything about their lives, not just BDSM stuff. These are real relationships with real struggles. I love it and I’m good at it.
I also don’t expect or even think about whether the sub that I connect with is a 5 or a 9. It’s not my thing. If I find you attractive because of our connection I’m going to think you’re the sexiest size 8, 10, 14, 18 or 20 I’ve ever laid eyes on and I’ll treat you that way.
Real people for the most part aren’t the porn models we see in these pictures, real beauty is wrinkles, curves, rolls, scars, stretch marks, uneven tans, legs that probably could’ve been shaved a day or two earlier, showing up to meet me after a bad day in sweats and a hoodie with flip flops on. Real men have bellies, hairy chests or smooth one’s, muscles that could use definition, egos that can be as fragile as yours, and sometimes need to be the Dom while wearing gym shorts or in my case scrubs they wore to work.
I get frustrated at women and men who believe they either don’t deserve to be happy because they don’t look good, or can only be happy if they are with someone that they feel is so much better looking that it’s an honor to be considered theirs, no matter how poorly they are treated.
Real relationships in this world take work, are messy, not always perfect, and above all have real “average” people who happen to be way more “above average” than they give themselves credit for.
Own yourself , be proud of you. Rock that size two, rock that size 18, show your daddy your 32a’s or your 44EEE’s. He will love it because you’re his. Tell him you love his belly, love his 14inch bicep, or his six inch cock, etc.
Worship each other if you’re happy with each other, because searching for better, searching for perfection has ruined many good relationships.
izzy806
germansingergirl
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