Um... I donât know who needs to hear this right now. But I thought Iâd put it out there anyway.
Itâs okay to miss someone you love. Itâs okay to be sad theyâre gone. Losing someone Sucks! And it Hurts! itâs supposed to. what isnât healthy is not letting yourself be sad. itâs okay to be sad! itâs okay to grieve! Itâs okay to say this blows! because it does! It hurts and I know it hurts! itâs sad and I know itâs sad! you have to let it be sad! you donât have to pretend your happy! that youâre okay! itâs okay to not be okay! we donât tell people with open wounds to pretend to be okay! and thatâs what losing someone you love is! itâs an open wound. you have to acknowledge it, treat it, and let it heal. and itâs not a paper cut. itâs a grizzly jagged wound that will make a gnarled scar! and scars donât go away. just like missing someone losing someone doesnât go away. it gets better but you have to let it... itâs going to hurt. thatâs natural and thatâs okay, tend to your wounds! donât let them fester by trying to ignore them! it wonât just go away... you have to work through it... and you will have bad days... but youâll also have good ones. and it isnât betraying them to be happy despite them being gone. remember them, tell stories about them, love them. in those little ways you keep their memory alive and you keep part of them with you. like scars the wound doesnât go away. it heals but there is always something to remember it by. and sometimes scars hurt... and sometimes they donât. let that loss heal itâs become a scar and some days itâll hurt... but it wonât be everyday. and thatâs enough... if you let it be. and thatâs part of being healthy learning to live with and heal from loss.
And there are things you can do... like talk to someone. take up a new hobby, little things to help you get through the hard days.
And Guys this for you too. I hate that culture made it not okay to have emotions and feelings if youâre a guy, especially for my generation we where on the tail end of that toxic masculinity bullshit train our parents where riding on. not knowing how to deal with you emotions, not learning how. thatâs real weakness. because all someone has to do is push your buttons and suddenly youâre dancing to their tune. and thatâs not right. we girls like to talk about our problems ⌠and Iâm not saying we shouldnât but other people have problems too and a lot of them donât get to talk about them. or are expected not to talk about them. letting them talk about their problems doesnât diminish our own.Â
BUT donât you dare come here and try to use your problems to belittle someone elseâs. thatâs not how this works. we all have problems and all of them are equally important. if you want to be an ignorant ass... this is not the blog and I am not the one. you wonât get a response. I have to much respect for myself to give you one.
it donât matter what you are. you are all welcome in this house of love and equality. because thatâs what my god and my Jesus taught me. I will not judge you based on a label. i will not judge you based on who you love. I will not judge you based on anything more than if you condone hurting people, or if you condone denying them basic human rights. If you are going to judge someone on my page? Begone this vlog is not for you.
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