Um... I don’t know who needs to hear this right now. But I thought I’d put it out there anyway.
It’s okay to miss someone you love. It’s okay to be sad they’re gone. Losing someone Sucks! And it Hurts! it’s supposed to. what isn’t healthy is not letting yourself be sad. it’s okay to be sad! it’s okay to grieve! It’s okay to say this blows! because it does! It hurts and I know it hurts! it’s sad and I know it’s sad! you have to let it be sad! you don’t have to pretend your happy! that you’re okay! it’s okay to not be okay! we don’t tell people with open wounds to pretend to be okay! and that’s what losing someone you love is! it’s an open wound. you have to acknowledge it, treat it, and let it heal. and it’s not a paper cut. it’s a grizzly jagged wound that will make a gnarled scar! and scars don’t go away. just like missing someone losing someone doesn’t go away. it gets better but you have to let it... it’s going to hurt. that’s natural and that’s okay, tend to your wounds! don’t let them fester by trying to ignore them! it won’t just go away... you have to work through it... and you will have bad days... but you’ll also have good ones. and it isn’t betraying them to be happy despite them being gone. remember them, tell stories about them, love them. in those little ways you keep their memory alive and you keep part of them with you. like scars the wound doesn’t go away. it heals but there is always something to remember it by. and sometimes scars hurt... and sometimes they don’t. let that loss heal it’s become a scar and some days it’ll hurt... but it won’t be everyday. and that’s enough... if you let it be. and that’s part of being healthy learning to live with and heal from loss.
And there are things you can do... like talk to someone. take up a new hobby, little things to help you get through the hard days.
And Guys this for you too. I hate that culture made it not okay to have emotions and feelings if you’re a guy, especially for my generation we where on the tail end of that toxic masculinity bullshit train our parents where riding on. not knowing how to deal with you emotions, not learning how. that’s real weakness. because all someone has to do is push your buttons and suddenly you’re dancing to their tune. and that’s not right. we girls like to talk about our problems … and I’m not saying we shouldn’t but other people have problems too and a lot of them don’t get to talk about them. or are expected not to talk about them. letting them talk about their problems doesn’t diminish our own.
BUT don’t you dare come here and try to use your problems to belittle someone else’s. that’s not how this works. we all have problems and all of them are equally important. if you want to be an ignorant ass... this is not the blog and I am not the one. you won’t get a response. I have to much respect for myself to give you one.
it don’t matter what you are. you are all welcome in this house of love and equality. because that’s what my god and my Jesus taught me. I will not judge you based on a label. i will not judge you based on who you love. I will not judge you based on anything more than if you condone hurting people, or if you condone denying them basic human rights. If you are going to judge someone on my page? Begone this vlog is not for you.
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