What young women believe about their sexuality -
“If we want young people to engage safely, ethically and enjoyable, its time to have open honest discussions about what happens after yes”
Young girls dont feel entitled to enjoy sex
Young people aren’t engaging in more intercourse than they were 20 years ago
However, they are engaging in other acts, when we label these as ‘not sex’ it still opens the door to risky behaviour and disrespect. especially oral sex which is considered to be less intimate than intercourse
girls often taken part in one sided oral sex to get men to leave or so something wouldn’t happen
Girls expressed a sense of shame around their genitals, a combination of disgust and sacredness
A girls opinion about their genitals is directly linked to how they enjoy sex
About 3/4 of college women remove all pubic hair, on occasion and half all the time
in the increase in female shaving in the 1920s lead to the popularity of the flapper dress
Labia plasty is the quickest growing cosmetic surgery among teenage girls
It rose 80% between 2014 and 2015 with 5% of these been under 18 year olds
The most popular ‘style’ where the outer labia are fused like a clam shell is called the barbie
Intimate justice - sex has political as well as personal implications
Raises similar issues about inequality about economic disparity, violence, physical and mental health
Mcclauren found that young women were more likely to use their partners satisfaction to measure their satisfaction
Pain in their sexual encounter 30 per cent of the time
Use words like depressing, degrading, humiliating
Because of all this, if a woman goes into an encounter: not wanting it to hurt, wanting to feel close to your partner and wanting him to orgasm, she would be satisfied if all those criteria were met
Absence of pain is a low bar for your own social experience
Girls in same sex relationships orgasm at the same rate as men
Dutch girls are spoken to by their doctors, teachers and parents candidly about sex. They also found that Dutch girls have higher positive responses to sex and few negative ones compared to American college girls
America parents talk about risk and danger whereas Dutch parents spoke about responsibility and joy.