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pierre bezukhov is fucking unhinged. i can not imagine being anatole in that moment because literally imagine someone lecturing you about this girl you like and he's all "you can NOT fuck around with that girl anymore. im literally going to kill you. no im not. you just gotta stay away from her, okay? in fact, you should fuck your sister, that would be a better thing to do. you're a little bitch. no you're not. now leave the country"
was about to make a post like “pierre bezukhov was only 27? he should have been at the club” until i remembered that he very much was at the club
Vampirism as a metaphor for migraines:
>The sun hurts us
>the headache and/or medicine makes you sleep all day and then be wide awake all night
>You want to draw the blood of anyone you encounter who makes even the slightest sound
>Chronic migraines are genetic, so it’s literally a blood curse.
I think I’m on to something here.
Ow.
"when i was your age, i was working three jobs to help support my family" and "when i was in college i was sleeping on a mattress on the floor and living off of soup"
YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE HAD TO DO THAT. NO ONE SHOULD HAVE TO DO THAT. I DON'T KNOW HOW TO EXPLAIN TO YOU THAT THIS ISN'T A CHARACTER-BUILDING LESSON, IT'S JUST BAD
a vampire stroking ur hair as they're fangs deep in ur neck. u agree
One of the funniest things about enemies-to-lovers ships is how they’re almost always obsessed with each other. Like if a character actively chooses to interact with another character over and over again instead of simply ignoring them? Throw darts at it all you want, but you still printed out a picture of them to hang on your wall
"Throw darts at it all you want, but you still printed out a picture of them to hang on your wall." - This is a raw line.
I see a lot of posts saying "teach boys about consent".
While that is true, a lot of parents will do that and fail to see how their own actions are the problem.
If you've spanked him, he's less likely to understand consent.
If you've forced him to sit on Santa's lap, he's less likely to understand consent.
If you've forced him to give hugs and kisses to family members, he's less likely to understand consent.
If you've grabbed him in order to force him to sit still, he's less likely to understand consent.
If you've labeled him as "too sensitive" for not wanting to be touched, he's less likely to understand consent.
If you've assumed he's okay with something because he technically allowed it even though he felt pressured, he's less likely to understand consent.
If you're only going to criticize his actions but not your own, it won't work.
I am a firm believer that it's not just what he experiences in his life, but what he witnesses too. Okay so you don't do any of those to him but you do those things to his sisters? His cousins? His mom? He is learning consent is for him hut not for women.
One of my sisters has young children, both of whom are some flavor of neurodivergent. She is too, and as a result she often lost patience quickly with some of their quirks. The biggest offender is that her kids are extremely wary around anyone they deem to be a stranger, making social connection very difficult for all participants.
When I first met her daughter, she was 3 or 4, and was extremely reluctant to come and meet me. My sister began to shame and push and pull her towards me and I stopped her. I said "don't force her, don't teach her that she has to let men she doesn't know touch her, she doesn't need to hug me"
My sister froze in place, processed it for a moment, and let her daughter go. She went back to hiding behind mom. We continued our conversation and her son slowly approached me, hugged me, and climbed up onto the chair I was in to sit beside me and partially in my lap. After a few minutes, her daughter joined him. She didn't hug me, but she came over to touch and talk to me.
My sister was speechless. Her kids DON'T do that. I've heard many complaints from many family members about how antisocial they are. All I did was stick up for their right to offer or withdraw consent- and really just her daughter's, as her son had met me pre-covid and had already gotten over the hurdle at 2 years old, but her daughter was born during covid and thus it made her severe distrust of strangers even worse.
Now her kids are in elementary school and making friends easily and I regularly get stories from her about how she witnesses them connect with other socially withdrawn kids and stand up for both themselves and their quieter friends. She took my advice to heart and started allowing them to voice whether they consented to something and now her little boy will approach a crying kid on the playground and say something like "do you want to play, or do you want me to just sit with you, or do you want to be alone?" and then actually listen to what the other kid tells him.
My niece has an incredibly traumatized boy in her class who escaped war with his family, and he doesn't talk to anyone. But he visibly relaxes when my niece goes to sit next to him when he's too scared and curled up in the classroom's Quiet Corner. She reads to him and shows him her toys and holds his hand on field trips and yells at anyone who is mean to him. I'm told she's the only person who can approach or touch him without causing a meltdown besides his family, and it started because the first time she sat with him she asked if it was okay if she did so and she waited several minutes for him to nod before she sat down.
But they still avoid the family members that forced them to interact even when they were uncomfortable. I still hear those complaints, hundreds of miles away, and the jealousy that I've only met the kids a few times but they talk incessantly about me. If I call one of my family members and the kids are over, I can hear them in the background trying to talk to me if they figure out it's me on the other line.
Anyway. Long story short I didn't have to advocate for my nephew the way I did my niece, but advocating for my niece in front of the both of them dramatically changed the way both of them were taught to manage social interaction. Consent isn't just about teaching the boy. It's also making sure he sees that consent being practiced with everyone.
look i know i am preaching to the choir as the saying goes but these 'water is wet' studies as i have seen them called is to prove a point not everyone believes.
like i have met people who think being suicidal is an inherent part of being trans and don't know how the numbers decrease from gender-affirming care HELL even didn't know the numbers dropped so much just from getting basic affirming care.
rarely is research done for a pointless reason, not everyone is gonna know this stuff even those who are involved in the LGBTQ+ community and spend time working with LGBTQ+ youth ( i don't work with youth per se but the volunteer work i do with pride has me in spaces with them).
like yes i know the joke here but i think this type of response isn't the best to research being done on our side.
Studies like this are being cited in court cases against gender-affirming care bans as we speak. Remember, the argument behind those laws is that gender-affirming care is harmful to children in the long term, both physically and psychologically, and that this justifies interfering in private citizens' healthcare decisions. We need as many studies as we can get showing the opposite if we want those laws to be struck down permanently.
NEVER laugh at something that formalized and catalogues a generally accepted fact in your community, because it could be a rock solid protection in the future.
As a researcher who's occasionally involved in doing this kind of research (not for queer stuff, for disability stuff, though there's obviously overlap)
Don't laugh is, unfortunately, unrealistic. Sometimes it's laugh to keep from screaming. Don't cry is also unrealistic (laughing isn't always enough). People in group chats with me (and sometimes one on one DMs) can attest to my Very Regular frustrations.
But 'Aim the frustration, derision, etc... at the fact that the literature & current practices are fucked enough that we need those studies'? That I will get behind all day.
i mean this so seriously if you have any sort of creative project you can and should be a little obsessed with it. you should reread your own writing and look at your own art and brag about your ocs its literally good for your health
This recently came across my timeline on Twitter ala @coelasquid and it’s too good not to include.
Kelly Turnbull is so fucking wise
“Intense NPC energy” is the best possible description for this phenomenon. They’re right. The characters all have NPC energy in these movies.
calling my lover "mine" but not in the way that my toothbrush or notebook are mine, mine in the way my neighborhood is mine, and also everybody else's, "mine" like mine to tend to, mine to care for, mine to love. "mine" not like possession but devotion.
Not "belongs to me"; "belongs with me."
Children in Rafah are preparing to welcome the holy month of Ramadan, after 145 days of genocide in the Gaza Strip.
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My cats have this meow that means "please come with me to fix this" after which they'll lead me to the problem in question, usually a empty (or 'empty') food bowl or a closed door they want open. They look at the 'problem', they look back at me, clear message.
What fascinates me is how this illustrates what they percieve as being in the realm of my 'power.' I control the food, I control the door, sure, but my cats love to sit on the balcony in the sun, and it has happened plenty of times that on a rainy day they come get me, go to the balcony and show me... the rain. "Please fix this" they say. "Please get rid of the wet"
"Silly kitty," I say, "I can't control the rain." I then walk into the shower and turn on the rain.
Handprint
After getting over the initial shock and heartbreak of this tweet and this reply, it hit me that (and I don't know if this is a cultural thing here in the middle east or an Islamic one)
A child has to be named even if they're stillborn.
For a child to not be named, that means there's no one left to name them. They were killed along with their entire family.
I hoped I was wrong, but I checked the list of victims of Israeli attacks and found this:
Israel has ended 47 Palestinian bloodlines over the course of this genocide (or perhaps more), so you might think that this little detail isn't that important, but I don't think we should get used to cruelty of this proportion, no matter how consistently Israel commits it.
a week long ceasfire is not enough. the occupation needs to end. a ceasfire will not free palestine. this is about liberation as well as ending a genocide
No hostages will be released before Friday, according to the Israel National Security Council. The start of an agreed temporary truce in fig
Israel has basically broken the "ceasfire" immediately I'm being so serious when I say STOP FIGHTING FOR A CEASFIRE AND START FIGHTING FOR A FREE PALESTINE YOU CANNOT "CEASFIRE THIS AWAY"
