Okay, so I feel like this response is a necessary add-on to the original post because I have also seen this sort of sentiment pop up more recently, and it needs to stop. I'm glad that you're able to recognize the joy transfeminine people find in expressing and exploring their gender, however, transitioning for the vast majority of us is NOT some novelty fun time where we get go pick whatever aspects of gender we like and do away with those we don't. I didn't decide one day that I would transition because it'd be cute and fun, I transitioned because if I didn't, I would have DIED. I did it on top of knowing that being trans and especially transfem directly puts me at risk of being harmed and/or killed. I didn't "pick and choose what I want," like I was shopping for a new outfit at the mall, this was always who I was, it's just that this is the first time I have actually gotten to BE me. It's ridiculous to act like transfems are freely able to present and act however they want when the stark reality of it is that we face societal pressure to conform to traditional feminine standards even more than afab individuals because we carry the added risk of being lynched if we don't look close enough to some redneck's idea of what a woman is supposed to look like. This flippant attitude is how we get cis women saying that they "identify" as trans women because, in their eyes, transfeminity is just a novelty. A quirky way to explore their own gender, when the real lived experience of transfems is struggling to have your femininity and your existence accepted in a society that sees your noncomformity as perverted and evil. Literally just see as for who we are for five seconds, I beg y'all.