Khonarh @khonarh - Tumblr Blog

vc-allthetime

if you’re on tumblr and over the age of 24 it means the mental illness won

lgbt-tiktoks

whatsallthisnow

lauryn-order

What's with the men hating on Tumblr?

I understand that women were opressed and still are but most men are alright.

Okay now that I'm thinking about it, only my current boyfriend and a few friends are good men lol.

They don't deserve the hate though. I don't wanna put them under the same umbrella.

I have been sexually assaulted 5 times, used and statutorily assaulted by a pedophile, narrowly got away from another attempted assault, and I’ve been emotionally abused. I was 14 the first time it happened. All of them were males.

I’ve been on almost every dating app and social media site since I was 15. (Yes, I know I was too young and I sincerely apologize for past me. It was a trauma response.) In the past 10 years, 1,000’s upon 1000’s of men have sent me creepy, inappropriate, disrespectful, disgusting messages and 100’s, if not 1000’s, of dick pics. Too many of them came from this very site.

This site is filled with gross, disrespectful, creepy, abusive, toxic, predatory and/or dangerous men. That’s just a fact.

Statistically speaking, men are more likely to assault and abuse women and women have every reason to hate on and be afraid of men. Almost every woman I know has been in some way assaulted or abused by a man, and every woman I’ve ever met has been harassed or creeped on by men.

I don’t hate all men and I adore many of them on here. However, the men I respect understand that when people say “I hate men” we’re not talking about the good guys AND they agree with us.

It’s not my job to explain to you why “Not All Men” is a toxic and damaging argument for women, but I strongly encourage you to do some research of your own.

When someone posts about hating men, they’re not talking about your boyfriend and your good friends. I’m glad you’ve seemingly had relatively good experiences with men overall, or at least not overwhelmingly negative ones, so you can’t understand the “man hating.”

I haven’t. I’m LUCKY to have SURVIVED men.

ADHD is debilitating

All I wanted to do today was clean the house. Thats it. I started writing a to do list and couldn't even finish that. I figured if I was going to clean, I might as well organize as I go so I can maintain the cleanness.

So I started looking around and seeing what I would like to organize/would make things look better. So I need bins. But I need to make sure the bins fit where I want them to. So I need a tape measure. Cant find a tape measure. Search EVERYWHERE. Start going through stuff in the garage. Finally find the charger for my drill that I was looking for earlier this week. Go plug in the charger so I can use it later to hang stuff. Plug it in the kitchen and the kitchens a MESS.

I start loading the dishwasher and have to wash the baking sheets by hand cause they dont fit. The spot where I put the sponge is soaking wet and not good for the wood counter. I oil the counters to prevent water damage. I go online and see if dollar general has sink organizers in stock. They dont, but I should check target because they also have bins I need. shit. wheres the tape measure?

Okay. Take a deep breath. Sit down and just start doing your to do list, youre getting carried away. To do list just has a header of "Saturday focus: empty the sink. Okay well thats a start, lets go do that. I load the dishwasher and run it, but I sit back down and theres dishes in the living room so I put those in the sink. Wonderful, the sink is full again.

I wash my hands and theres no paper towels. Paper towels have been sitting on the floor near the air vent. I should put them away. Under the sink is full of plant stuff. Pantry closet is filled but theres room on the bottom if I just put away the bag of Tupperware i never unpacked from the move. I should organize the Tupperware cabinet cause its a MESS. And then I can move the plant stuff to the pantry and put the towels under the sink. OR I could get an outdoor storage bench for the patio and do all my repotting/plant stuff outside! Then I wouldn't have to worry about making a mess! Oh wouldn't it be great if I had an outdoor garden on the patio? Cue me researching how to move my aero garden plants outside. But is it too cold? Start doing research on when the last frost is and when is the optimal time to move plants outside. I create an excel spreadsheet with time frames and everything. Realize that all of this is going to cost a lot of money and I'm already in considerable credit card debt and X out of all my open tabs. All thats left on my screen is the to do list, and i cant even cross the one thing off because the sink is still full.

#adhd #adult adhd #actually adhd

dabwax-deactivated20250410

can you talk about being intersex and cis? how do you know if you're cis or trans when you're intersex? i promise this isn't meant to be rude i'm just a little confused as to how gender works when you're intersex. thank you so much. <3

I’m cis because I’m afab and still identify as a woman. If I was afab and identified any other way, I’d be trans. I’m intersex because my body itself has a mixed bag of secondary sex characteristics and hormones.

The label “intersex” itself isn’t a gender identity as much as it’s a way for people with mixed or ambiguous sex characteristics to define that experience. There are cis men and women who are intersex, trans people of every kind as well. I’m sure there are intersex people who just identify as intersex entirely but most intersex people I’ve met still identify as male, female, or nonbinary. Because your body doesn’t determine your gender identity.

Also, the opposite of intersex is perisex. You can be cis or trans, while being intersex or perisex. If you’re not intersex, you are perisex.

dabwax-deactivated20250410

Y’all can reblog this actually

Nobody knows anything about intersex ppl so like. Learn things and educate others so people like me can feel less isolated and alienated by other queer ppl lol

piercednipples

This loneliness without end is getting to me Even awful porn now makes me cry just because I see two people connect

disgustinggf

"u attract what u fear" AAAAAAAAH financial stability and rough sex

paolando

We need to talk more about this.

ahallister

A number of experts (such as Dr. Russell Barkley) have advocated changing the name of ADHD,as it does a very poor job of describing a handful of symptoms, and entirely ignores the root cause. As I recall, his preference was Executive Function Deficit Disorder, which does a much better job of describing what is happening, and has the benefit of being ‘I have a condition which causes difficulty in performing these types of tasks’ rather than ‘I don’t pay attention and can’t sit still’, which more closely tracks to ‘disability’.

kipplekipple

Which more closely tracks with abled perception of disability*

today literally could not have gotten any worse than it did and i am fucking alone and hurt and scared and embarrassed and anxious and feel a tremendous amount of guilt.

none of its my fault and yet somehow its also all my fault.