All this talk about Jimin’s masculinity is more than annoying—it makes me angry. When will people stop pigeonholing others? Why are people judged based on their appearance? Over the years, Jimin has proven more than clearly that he’s no wimp just because he has softer facial features. Hell, if you watch old episodes of RUN BTS or ITS, for example, he’s an absolute sports whiz.
What annoys me even more is this narrow-minded way of thinking—the idea that just because someone is in a queer relationship, one person has to take on the “male” role and the other the “female” role. We don't live in the Middle Ages anymore; even in straight relationships, this gender role model has long since become outdated.
As a man, Jimin appeals to me much more than some muscle-bound bodybuilder with macho attitudes.
Sorry for the long rant, but this topic has been on my mind for quite a while.
I definitely agree with you on a lot of this
I think thats why I've been so vocal about these things when it comes to jimin
he's a myriad of things, and I've said this so many times, that people will tell you who they are if you just listen (you being in general, not you specifically)
one thing jimin has continuously done, is show his assertiveness and how firm he is about things. and thats neither because he's a man or because of these other societal pretenses, it's because thats who jimin is as a person
but we still relate firm=masculine
and if we break it down, even when it comes to women being firm, they're seen as b!tch or difficult to deal with, but how someone is vocal about their wants and needs is not tied to being a man/woman
its just that society has placed these notions as being gender specific.
my point in bringing up jimin being strong and capable of taking care of himself, isn't based on him his gender, it's because often times, he's seen as defenseless or as a damsel in distress, as if he needs additional protecting aside from the things that HYBE has done to sabotage him.
there is a HUGE misconception about being vocal for him vs the reality
I use the cake fiasco as the perfect example because people were jumping me for stating that we didn't know the full picture, or that he probably didn't want to share that, because that is how jimin is at times. it went from logic to automatically victimizing him.
but people took that as me defending HYB and what not, when it wasn't the case at all lol, and then low and behold we found out about how he got the 2 cakes. and not a single peep was made about that when people found out. but me, I've been loud about it lol.
another example was the billboard sabotage; how they changed their rules to embarrass him and causing him to free fall after his historic win in the #1 hot 100. they literally removed digital and physicals that same week so that he could become the first artist to free fall from the top 10
and people were knocking on b/h's door, getting mad at them, when I was telling people that we should be knocking on billboards door to ask them what the hell they were doing, because that was clearly sabotage
and HYBE will always get their hits from me considering they have stopped jimin from his 5 mv's, they've worked with ex S/M employees who in my opinion were sabotaging him and spreading these terrible articles about him. considering M/H/J and her involvement in during the time MUSE, Hope on the street, and RPWP came out. there's been signs of mismanagement and sabotage
I think its when it gets to the point where people loose logic and critical thinking, and common sense, that I'm just like "guys come on, please let's take a step back" that it seems I get more pushback from people. *shrugs* how dare we be open to realistic possibilities
but back to what you were saying about masculinity
there was a person on twt a while ago that posted something about jimin going to a Dior show when it was the women's collection, and they were asking if Jimin would attend bcs it wasn't the "mens collection" and it really made me angry - there were other reasons, ofc - but it was the notion that jimin couldn't exists in other space because he was a man
and they were saying that considering they were a jikook focused acc
its, again, that ignorant take, of allegedly supporting queer people/queer relationships while also questioning his ability to exists in spaces that go far beyond the social constructs. him existing in spaces that are for women should not even be questioned. period.
because clothes do not define masculinity vs. femininity, clothes are a form of expression. I mean, men used to wear heels back in the day, they wore wigs, put make up on, etc.. Theres a history of people wearing clothes that do not automatically associate clothing based on gender.
and it's something we constantly have to break down - who jimin is, whether he's queer or not, this mentality that because he is a man, that he needs to only be manly/masculine to exert his dominance.
godddd don't even get me started about this person who said that jimin's queer identity was ruined because of the shit that went down with Daeun. I can't stress enough how MAD that made me, as if his queer identity had anything to do with that. the outrage was so weird, bcs instead of people being mad that she violated his privacy, people were mad that the queer illusion was in jeopardy,
I can't find that clip rn, but insert the clip of that fan meeting, where someone said "masculine" and he thumbs it down and while saying boooo to masculinity
when I see jimin, I see someone strong, who's sure of himself, who goes after what he wants, who is vocal (especially when he told bang that his version of DNA sucked and thus changing the trajectory of how successful DNA has been since then. or when body to body was up for discussion, he fought for what he wanted/believed in) I see someone who has continuously pushed the envelope and has tried to break free from the chains that the world has bound him to. jimin is entirely unique and amazing in his own right because he exists, because he is not complacent, because he has the confidence in himself and his talent.
him knowing taekwondo or being able to protect himself does not equate to being masculine, its an example of someone who is strong and capable, and thats something that should be celebrated.
idk, as someone who is non-binary, I always go back to that photoshoot that he did, thats not to say he himself is and enby, and I will always remain firm on that, until that if he explicitly state thats how he associates, then I'm not going to put him in this box and say "jimin's non-binary"
quite the opposite, I think its courageous that he openly showed support for non-binary people, I think it speaks volumes that he put that at the forefront. And it speaks on his character and his beliefs.
how jimin identifies its up to him, and honestly, this is all based on our perspective of him and we relate to him, it doesn't automatically define him. he's allowed to be who he wants to be, without judgement
and whats been soo 'what the helly' has been his recent hair and how people continuously tried to make it "masculine" as if there needs to be some clarification that he's still masculine. can't he just be cunty?
he's so cunty and fabulous and just so beautiful, but there have been people who need to push him away from this "femininity"
but theres some people who keep telling him to cut his hair, I personally hope his stylist never finds her scissors, but if he wanted to cut it, then thats what he wants, you know. he's gonna look otherworldly with short hair, mid length hair, long hair, different hair color, oooofff he can do no wrong.
ESPECIALLY when that highlighter hits his cheeks, I loose all sense of logic.
although, and this is me being cheeky, I haven't been wrong about jimin, not even once, and it's not because I have some mystical power or accelerated views of the world, its mainly because I listen, I observe, and I take what he says because jimin doesn't lie, yes he's private, but its his authenticity that always shines through, but he's also the most complex person at the same time. like I said he's a myriad of things, a kaleidoscope of little curiosities.
but I do hope we continue to progress from these archaic views of him and the how queer relationships work. because tbh, I'm tiiiiired
existing in shipping spaces while being OT7 and being a hardcore jimin bias is tiring ngl
about that twt post I shared where that person was talking about jimin being masculine/feminine and what not, I think people automatically think that we all agree on EVERYTHING
that word by word is how we all think, I shouldn't have to clarify because I feel like thats commons sense, that not one person agrees on exactly everything. we're allowed to disagree on somethings while also agreeing on other things
that was mostly towards the people who have been here in my space for a long time and knew what I mean
but thats not what you said or anything, I'm just venting for a bit lolol
sorry for the long post, I'm notoriously known for writing a lot, and even more notoriously known bcs people don't read all my posts, they pick and choose and get mad over the bits they read.
so if you've made it all the way to the bottom, not only am I grateful, but I'm genuinely happy you read this whole thing.
thank you for the discourse. it' been a while since I've written a long form post, and I needed something to get my mind off the other personal stuff going on, so this was nice. thank you. I hope you have a lovely day!
