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just remember if you think you suck, nobody sucks like you suck and that doesn't suck ·18 · Ravenclaw ·

[inklins]

people making little content noises in their throat when you hug or cuddle with them is the best thing ever because that noise is the human equivalent of purring

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[kanadikirikcass-deactivated2018]

[communistkenobi-archive]

“my battery is low and it’s getting dark” is so hauntingly human, so crushingly lonely. I can’t articulate the deep, profound ache that sentence evokes. It’s acceptance and defeat and terror and sadness all at once, all from one tiny machine we asked to explore the stars for us.

[sodhya-deactivated20181218]

A man who knows how to be soft and gentle is so attractive to me. A man desperately ignoring emotions and trying to preserve his hyper masculinity is such a turn off to me.

[nyctaeus]

[geekdawson]

one of the more valuable things I’ve learned in life as a survivor of a mentally unstable parent is that it is likely that no one has thought through it as much as you have. 

no, your friend probably has not noticed they cut you off four times in this conversation. 

no, your brother didn’t realize his music was that loud while you were studying. 

no, your bff or S.O. doesn’t remember that you’re on a tight deadline right now.

no, no one else is paying attention to the four power dynamics at play in your friend group right now.  

a habit of abused kids, especially kids with unstable parents, is the tendency to notice every little detail. We magnify small nuances into major things, largely because small nuances quickly became breaking points for parents. Managing moods, reading the room, perceiving danger in the order of words, the shift of body weight….it’s all a natural outgrowth of trying to manage unstable parents from a young age. 

Here’s the thing: most people don’t do that. I’m not saying everyone else is oblivious, I’m saying the over analysis of minor nuances is a habit of abuse. 

I have a rule: I do not respond to subtext. This includes guilt tripping, silent treatments, passive aggressive behavior, etc. I see it. I notice it. I even sometimes have to analyze it and take a deep breath and CHOOSE not to respond. Because whether it’s really there or just me over-reading things that actually don’t mean anything, the habit of lending credence to the part of me that sees danger in the wrong shift of body weight…that’s toxic for me. And dangerous to my relationships. 

The best thing I ever did for myself and my relationships was insist upon frank communication and a categorical denial of subtext. For some people this is a moral stance. For survivors of mentally unstable parents this is a requirement of recovery. 

[lysikan]

If it wasn’t stated outright - it wasn’t said.

[theselfcarelifestyle]

This is really one of the most important reads

[mugenmcfugen]

this is fucking good advice

[preludeinz]

holy shit

[fabulouscrabulous-deactivated20]

Just flip ‘em!

[gwydtheunusual]

Please do this for them if you find one… They are so completely harmless and just want to get back to cleaning the sea floor.  I love them so much :)

[misandristabbacchio-remade-deac]

they’re literally just ocean roombas please be nice to them

[julaibib]

may people with pure intentions find people with pure intentions

[yuricema-deactivated20230814]

moving on without the apology you deserve is hard but don’t let the apology be the defining factor in your healing.. some people aren’t going to change but that’s on them, focus on you and getting better.

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[05fordexplorer-deactivated20211]

BE PREPARED FOR REJECTION WHEN YOU REFUSE TO BE MANIPULATED

[kiwi]

“you’re so polite!” thank you i have anxiety

[spnyuri]

tbh life’s too short to be embarrassed by little things ??? wear that outfit ur mom said was ugly & laugh ur natural too loud laugh & talk to intimidating people u find interesting !!! join cringy clubs & read books everyone hates & wear too much eyeliner !!! if shit doesn’t work out who cares !!! people who are worth being around will stick by u anyway !!!

[accras]

“This video of this adorable little girl encouraging her Dad while he tries to do her hair, is just what we needed to brighten up our day.” [X]

[startrekrenegades]

[Dad: How’m I doing on your hair? Child: Good! Dad: Let’s see, do I need more grease? Child: Yes. You need more grease on there. Dad: More grease? And then what? Child: And then you gonna need to brush it, and then you put a band on there. Dad: A band on it? Child: Yeah! Dad: Aww.. Child: You’re getting it through! You’re almost done! You’re doing a good job! Dad: Aww, thank you, sweetheart, so much! Daddy’s trying, doing the best I can. Thank you so much. Child: You’re welcome! Dad: I’m almost done! Child: You been doing great! Dad: Aw baby, thank you so much, you’re so encouraging to Dad. Thank you. Child: You’re welcome. Dad: I really appreciate you so much. You’re so awesome. Daddy getting your ponytails ready for school.]

[gardnerhill]

Interrupting all the political ugliness to make you melt with cute.

[sangrexderramada]

Me as a father

[black-to-the-bones-deactivated2]

this is so pure

[valerie1972]

Kids that age are parrots of tone and phrasing. So the whole bit with “You’re getting it through! You’re almost done! You’re doing a good job!” means that there is at least one adult, if not more, in her life that regularly talks to her that way.

Everything about this video makes me happy.

[ripe]

fuzzyfawnwildlife on ig

[redsatinsheets]

men really be in their mid 20’s & 30’s projecting their unresolved issues on women lmao go to a fucking therapist bitch