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You can't choose your father but you can choose your daddyđ
~Amen~
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Aftercare Primer
(Extracted from Supspace How-To)
âSo, why do I go on and on about the aftercare? The work of putting endorphins into the subjectâs body is finished, right? Well, yes, but you have also succeeded in putting very, very large amounts of adrenalin into their system, and adrenalin is tricky stuff. Even at Level Four, aftercare is important now because of they way adrenalin burns off â it burns off very quickly â compared to endorphins, which burn off very slowly. At Level Five or Level Six, there is enough adrenalin in the body that it will take 10 to 20 minutes for it to burn off (even up to half an hour!), and during this time, the bottom very likely will experience a number of adrenalin âcrashesâ (similar in a way to coffee jags), and some of these can be very intense â and even quite frightening! They will need to be kept warm and be held and comforted AT LEAST throughout this period of adrenalin burn-off. My feeling is that if you donât care enough for the bottom to enjoy cuddling and caressing with them for up to half an hour, you probably shouldnât be taking them to any Level Six endorphin/adrenalin levels! (Or even perhaps to a Level Four!)
This adrenalin âcrashâ experience for the bottom is something many, many tops are unaware of, and they have no concept of the amount of harm they could be doing to someoneâs psychological state by not performing adequate, loving, fondling and comforting aftercare during this time. All the bottom needs now is to be held and to hold you (or whoever you assign to perform aftercare) back â in order to be comforted by your presence, and to be allowed to make you become the entire focus of their awareness. No stroking, or massage, or other stimulus is needed or even desirable at this time. What is important is to keep in verbal contact with the bottom (not requiring words as responses, merely nods), instructing them every little while to relax. The adrenalin will have them in a very agitated state â high heart beat and breathing levels, etc. â and this situation is completely counter to the endorphin experience.Sure, they have a ton of endorphins in their system, but the adrenalin is presently holding them off from experiencing the full effect of them. The topâs guidance is extremely important at this time to help them relax through the adrenalin burn-off period.
The important thing to realize is that, if not actually âtalked downâ out of the adrenalin agitation, the person could easily never allow themselves to relax enough to even feel the massive content of endorphins that currently exist in their system! (Maybe youâve all seen the bottom who, after 45 minutes to an hour of intense stimulation to the point of near-total collapse on the cross or bench, is released and â after a mere couple of minutes â is just mingling around and talking and mixing with people as if nothing ever happened. These people are floating on a self sustained adrenalin buzz. This not only is likely to be unhealthy, but these bottoms are cheating themselves out of a long, long stretch of total endorphin-induced ecstasy!)
Step-By-Step Aftercare Instructions
So, while gently holding the bottom and letting them hold you back, coo softly and comfort them, and tell them to go ahead and to let themselves relax. You will feel them do so as they comply to your wishes, as they are quite docile and compliant to receiving instructions at this point. But they will also slowly tense up again from the adrenalin. Keep reminding them to relax, telling them to give themselves permission to relax totally. As they begin to succeed at doing this after a while, some will encounter a frightening feeling, which some describe feeling as if âfalling off a cliff,â and they will tense up a great deal from fright in that event. Or, they might encounter a feeling of intense âblacknessâ (as the endorphins get a chance to relax even their optic nerve) and they will freak out and pull back from relaxing again.
If they report such experiences (or even before they do) tell them not to fear that, but to let it go and pass through it â telling them to relax themselves through the sensation of falling or blackness with the understanding that this is quite normal and is a common experience. Once they do that, having learned to ârelax through itâ, they will be âin itâ after that point, and will begin to relax very deeply, very often seeing colors and beautiful technicolor visions and dreamlike landscapes, spaces and places. How sweet!
Once this happens (which, again, will take at least 10 minutes â and up to a half hour for some, depending on the amount of adrenalin that they must burn off), then your bottom needs only a little more loving attention, and can then be left bundled in a blanket somewhere on their own to float in a happy bubble, very possibly for hours!â
Note: this is not my original work, it was extracted from the document linked below
https://submissive-seeking.tumblr.com/post/171929421285/how-to-get-your-sub-in-subspace-a-guide-for
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In defense of DDLG...
So, Iâm a twenty years old adult women attending a rigorous University and who studies revolve around Feminist and Queer Theory, Sexuality studies, Consent education, literature and folklore --and some other fun stuff. And... Iâm a little who identifies as things like âprincessâ or âbabygirlâ and part of my current relationship is that my partner is also my âdaddy.â Â
I will admit DDLG plays on paradigms of power exchange that are rooted in some historically sexist ideas. Iâm sorry, thatâs the way it is. You know what else is based on historically sexist ideas? Most love story arcs we see in movies today, pink razors and the idea that the guy pays on the first date. This is the world weâre living in. This is all also horribly heteronormative, but this is the world weâre dealing with.Â
As a pansexual/queer woman, as a teen I did NOT see myself taking any interest in the power play that I am now. It seemed inherently bad, like why as a young feminist would I want a man to spank me over his knee and treat me like a baby who couldnât function as a full adult?Â
Turns out, because DDLG is in fact, not exactly that. When practiced correctly, (wince, I know, everyoneâs relationship is different and right for them) DDLG or any CG/L or D/S dynamic is based around respect, consent and communication. My partner sees me as and treats me as the full adult I am, an adult who happens to enjoy regression and finds comfort and relaxing in being a little. This is FUN for me, Iâm fighting for respect and holding sexist narratives and people accountable every day in the sunlight, me time is me time and I can spend it however I want to make me happy --and doing so makes me a better feminist for claiming my own happiness and agency. [Side bar: If youâre with someone who refuses to treat you like an adult or respect you when negotiating outside of littlespace, GTFO]
Iâve been practicing BDSM for about... five years now, using power play in various relationships, casual to serious --and ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS communication and consent has been key. I also try to make sure myself and others are well researched on the area to avoid potential pitfalls (i.e. sub or dom drops, etc.) Â
I also am a switch in terms of BDSM dynamics... which adds another layer to my point that me and my relationship are kind of living proof that DDLG isnât a bunch of mindless women who want to go back to the 1950s. We donât. I donât at least, many of us donât? I canât speak for everyone. Â
But Iâm a queer, pansexual, poly switch --who just HAPPENS to be in a relationship with a man, HAPPENS to be monogamous currently with this partner, and HAPPENS to be taking a mostly submissive role in our play --although my dom comes out for sure, and also is a little who likes interacting with my partner as my big. Â
In our relationship power is actually shared quite equally, unless weâre entering a specific big/little space (even then Iâm so spoiled honestly I still have a lotta power) or a D/S kinda play scene. DDLG is also just kind of the most obvious big/little combination to the heteronormative world at large. MD/LG is a thing, MD/LB is a thing, DD/LB is a thing... DDLG is just what the general (vanilla) public at large are most aware of. Â
Iâve got into a few dicey conversations where me and my partnerâs big/little side of our relationship is âout of the closetâ (to a point) and people react quite negatively or with confusion. Itâs frustrating that people canât seem to reconcile in their heads that Iâm a fierce academic and queer feminist --and I want to be choked and spanked and say âDaddy please can I come?â when I have sex with my partner (Some of the time, we have all kinds of sex, but I digress...). Â
Sorry for the rant, but if anyone else is frustrated or having difficulty articulating their thoughts about this I wanted to share and commiserate because I havenât come across anything written about this... Take care of yourselves~<3Â
Should probably do this with my little
Good ideas? Good ideas. <3Â
A Caregiver Tip
Iâm a Daddy, and I thought Iâd share something Iâve learned being a Caregiver to my Little: transparency.
Itâs no secret that Littles can be very insecure. They are very dependent on their Caregiver, and itâs a terrifying thing to need someone as much as they allow themselves to need us. Itâs human instinct to protect yourself, and our Littles resist that urge to allow us to take care of them.
Iâm simply going to be direct with thisâŚdonât fuck this up as a Caregiver. Donât message someone behind your Littleâs back. If you do receive messages from anyone, simply let your Little know what is happening and how you are responding. Donât flirt with others, even casually. There is no amount of explaining you can do to justify your Little finding or hearing about how you talked to another in a way that would make your Little uncomfortable. Donât hide things from your little, and have them worry about what your are up to.
Having a Little is a privilege, something that should not be taken for granted. Their gift of love, trust, and dependence is something that should be honored and respected. They are dependent on you, so be someone that is worthy of being dependent on. I am completely transparent with my Little, which is the ultimate reassurance that she is safe with me. I want my Little to have strength in her trust for me, and I actively make sure that I earn it.
~again for the people in the back~
^Some people are in poly or open relationships or any type of relationship where they have negotiated interacting or flirting with others which is a different deal. Just make sure youâre respecting all the boundaries set in your relationship <3Â
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Counting
So earlier I was feeling little spacey sitting in the back of the car going to the grocery store with Daddy after we dropped off a friend at a nearby store and since the friend was gone I sort of cautiously slipped further into little space, testing the waters to see if Daddy wanted to be efficient grown ups or if heâd want to play around with little me. So I said,Â
âDaddy? Are we there yet?âÂ
âNot yet, princess.âÂ
âAre we there now?â
âNope.â
ââŚwhat about now?âÂ
âCan you count to twenty for me, babygirl?â
And I could count, so I did, quietly, the numbers slipping between a soft little voice and being just under my breath and my feet kicked and I was ecstatic. He was so patient, using his sweet Daddy-voice and so seamlessly plummeting me farther into little space and facilitating that comfort and care that little folks crave. Â
Pro tip to caregivers: we love that stuff. Give us cookies but also give us little challenges, little chores, sometimes when weâre whiney or clingy giving us a small mental distraction that facilitates little-space is what weâre craving. We want to have proof that you will treat us like weâre little. Â
Wowowow --didnât know so many littles felt the same way! <3 I hope everybody is feeling happy and validated and cared for! Â
( ...if any 18 yrs or older littles want another little friend let me know... Daddy suggested I work on that. Iâm shy and new here, figuring it all out. ^^; )Â
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Our friend drew on me and then Daddy wanted to match. :P We didnât know what they were gonna write at the time! xDÂ
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Youâre Blushing Again!
The first installment on here seemed to be a fan favorite. So without further adieu, here are more ways to keep your little oneâs cheeks on fire subtly while out and about. For my fellow humiliation enthusiasts, your cheeks may be flushed after reading this.
For a short amount of time, have them hand over their cell phone. Change the passcode so they have to bring it to you for permission each time they want to access their phone.
Waiting in line or noticing theyâre getting restless, ask if they have to go potty or remind them that theyâll be back in the car for a change as soon youâre finished here.
If theyâre walking too far ahead of you, call after them âexcuse meâ and watch them freeze in their tracks.
During meal time, donât let them make their own plate of food. When you put it on their plate, make sure to cut up all the big pieces of meat so they donât choke!Â
When they head off to the bathroom, remind them to wash their hands with soap after going potty. After they come back, call them over to inspect their hands to make sure you can smell soap. Really want to see blushing action? Say you donât smell soap, and send them back to wash their hands again.
If they are allowed to use the potty, make sure they know to keep the door opened so you can supervise. After a few minutes that theyâre in there, make sure to call out to see if theyâre okay and ask if they need help.Â
Do you see that their eyes are getting glassy and struggling to stay awake? Insist that itâs time to rest their eyes, remind them that they donât have to go to sleep but they have to lay down for quiet time. Remind them that they always insist theyâre not tired before nap time, and within minutes sleep always seems to come.Â
When changing them, make sure to give them a stuffie or a toy to play with, reminding them to lay still like a good little one while you clean them up.Â
When waking them up in the morning, have them sit on the floor with their blanket and bring them a bottle of juice while putting on cartoon. Thereâs something about be woken up and babied right from the get go that sets the tone for the day.
If they start complaining or fussing while out and about, lean in closely and ask if you have to take them outside to the car for a spanking, or are they ready to start behaving.
After getting dressed for the day, make a big deal, cooing over what a sweet little thing they look.
Lift up their skirt or unbutton their pants to inspect if they have the appropriate panties on.
After their shower, check their hair to make sure it smells like shampoo and inspect under their nails.
Give them the look, with the eyebrows arched. Donât break eye contact, let them blush to the point where they have to look away
Potty stuff isnât for me personally but itâs a pretty thorough list. :) Some of these totally work as little space triggers for me too... re: âexcuse me?â and âthe lookâÂ
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Birthday Girl
Nothing is better than waking up to forehead kisses, turning to neck kisses, turning to belly kisses and Daddy whispering âHappy birthday babygirl,â before pulling pink lace aside and disappearing under the blankets between your legs...
How to spot age regression
When a little one is regressing, they canât come right out and say it. Keep your eyes peeled to look for signs. Eventually you will be able to tell when they are feeling regressed. Here are a few signs to make it easier:Â
đ¸Rocking
đPicking, poking, and pestering you.Â
đ¸Babbling, giggling, or rambling in a childish manner
đPoor grammar, speech, using childish terms and sentence structureÂ
đ¸Extreme excitement, excitability or touchiness
đPhysical clinginess. We literally cling to your arms and legs like a parasite.Â
đ¸Playing with random objects
đPutting random stuff in our mouthsÂ
đ¸Talking through our stuffed animalsÂ
đPointing and communicating without words, i.e. âhnmphâ âgrrrâ ârawrâ âhmmm?â âummmmâ etc.Â
đ¸Dancing and wiggling aroundÂ
đAnimal noisesÂ
đ¸Being whiney or grumpyÂ
đAfter a long, eventful day. Before a big (or small) event. Towards the end of a weekend/day off, or after stressful situations.Â
TIP:Â If weâre watchinâ cartoons, weâre probably feelinâ pretty smol.Â
Counting
So earlier I was feeling little spacey sitting in the back of the car going to the grocery store with Daddy after we dropped off a friend at a nearby store and since the friend was gone I sort of cautiously slipped further into little space, testing the waters to see if Daddy wanted to be efficient grown ups or if heâd want to play around with little me. So I said,Â
âDaddy? Are we there yet?âÂ
âNot yet, princess.âÂ
âAre we there now?â
âNope.â
â...what about now?âÂ
âCan you count to twenty for me, babygirl?â
And I could count, so I did, quietly, the numbers slipping between a soft little voice and being just under my breath and my feet kicked and I was ecstatic. He was so patient, using his sweet Daddy-voice and so seamlessly plummeting me farther into little space and facilitating that comfort and care that little folks crave. Â
Pro tip to caregivers: we love that stuff. Give us cookies but also give us little challenges, little chores, sometimes when weâre whiney or clingy giving us a small mental distraction that facilitates little-space is what weâre craving. We want to have proof that you will treat us like weâre little. Â