We’re taught to chase chemistry like it’s fate
Movies, media, society, romance culture they all sell this idea that if the spark is strong, the person must be right however most of what we call chemistry is actually our nervous system reacting, not destiny
It’s cortisol, adrenaline, old attachment wounds and familiar chaos. It’s your body recognizing a pattern you’ve lived before not necessarily what’s good for you
Real chemistry, healthy, aligned chemistry feels completely different. It’s steady, it feels SAFE, peaceful, you don’t have to guess or chase or decode. It’s not lustful. It’s not anxiety pretending to be passion. It’s not that addictive rush your body learned from past wounds. Your body relaxes around them instead of bracing. You feel more like yourself, not less. You don’t lose your center, you expand and become your best self
No amount of chemistry can ever make up for the anxiety that comes from being with someone who is emotionally inconsistent, unkind, or misaligned with your core values
That “spark” that makes you obsessed is literally your nervous system trying to resolve an old wound
Your body knows the difference
Your peace knows the difference
Your soul definitely knows the difference
