saxde

(it/they/nya) Yeahhh, just some dude here with no life.

[vrihedd]

Delusions

[sauntervaguelydown]

Gonna say something that will definitely get screen capped and used to doxx me someday but like having a fetish isn’t. It isn’t evil. You know? People have fetishes. It’s part of the human condition. You’re not a serial killer just because you’re unusually and offputtingly hype about women’s shoes. Thought crime isn’t real and it especially shouldn’t be applied to fetishes. Every human brain is a diy project built by unlicensed electricians.

[sauntervaguelydown]

Already I’m getting caveats that it’s okay to have a fetish “as long as you don’t expose unconsenting people to it” and while yes, obviously, I do agree (whenever sex is involved, you should always make sure people are on the same page as you first) I feel the need to point out that this post isn’t even about who you share your kink with or when. It’s just me saying that liking feet or piss or inflation or whatever doesn’t make you a bad person, it’s okay to like things, even weird things, even gross things. There’s nothing morally wrong with being gross. We are all gross. John 8:7

The caveat that I would put on this post, as OP, would be like… your instincts don’t decide whether you’re good or bad. Your actions do. Act ethically, be considerate, and have any fantasy that floats your goddamn boat. Thought crime isn’t real.

[smallpwbbles]

STOP STOP I ALREADY LOVE BOWSER TOO MUCH

[guerrillatech]

[queenjulia24]

HOLD UP HOW WAS I NOT AWARE OF THIS

[lichpire]

was gonna leave my comment in the tags but tbh i’m silent enough about this as it is.

seeing stuff like this is so upsetting because these terms were well known and widespread in the ace community but because of exclusionists many people stopped using terms like this because they felt uncomfortable and unsafe.

i loved these terms when i was in highschool, i loved the feeling of community, but i lost that because i didn’t feel comfortable openly and proudly calling myself asexual.

they’ve hurt so many people and damaged our community badly and i will never forgive them for that. we deserve to use our own terminology and feel safe within our community.

[atasteforsuicidal]

sometimes i notice i haven’t seen “grace” (grey-ace) in a while and consequently wonder if i made it up.

[slenders1ckn3ss]

I remember ppl - even other ace ppl - saying the card suit thing was “cringey” and “straight ppl aren’t gonna take us seriously” (sounds familiar?) So i guess the community wound up abandoning it. We were also having severe issues at the time with aces being stereotyped as “childish/immature” for associating things like cake, dragons, and space with asexuality, plus in general as most aces just don’t “get” allosexual things in media and irl. We were starting to be viewed as ignorant, virginal, childish, losers, etc. I haven’t seen an ace-cake thing in a good while now.

This was the infancy of exclusionary influence on us. I didn’t realize it did more damage than just closeting us. Whole symbols and terms have been lost. Community has been lost.

[cobraonthecob]

I remember three-four years ago I got myself into the ace community on Insta, and I came across these terms. People in these circles would talk about cake, space, dragons, and the black ring on the middle finger. Then, a year or two later, ace content fizzled out (I thought it was Insta’s algorithm figuring out that I knew all this and didn’t bring me the old stuff) and young aces had no idea what any of these were - including the black ring. Finding out young aces had no idea what the black ring meant nearly snapped my heart in two - I proudly wore the black ring, I drew characters with it, and it was my quiet way of communicating to others what my sexuality was. I was baffled at the lack of knowledge - and it turns out that exclusionists got their hands into our community and snuffed us out. 

Anyways, we need to bring this back. I thought the card suite thing was cool, it taught people the different ways people can experience attraction, I loved making jokes about preferring cake, I loved wearing the black ring and talking about it with my fellow queer people at my highschool QSA club. 

[kriss-watches-stuff]

I’m sorry, people don’t know about the cake or ring anymore? I remember being welcomed with spams of cake gifs, photos, and MS Paint drawings. I also distinctly remember that the block solo ring in the midle was meant as reference to the Ace of Spades (black, solo, middle of card). Only thing I didn’t know was that other aces could represent a more refined nuance. Let’s see if we can get this all rolling again.

Welcome to anyone who is interested in helping with the culture revival.

[zoesupreme]

the student loan forgiveness application site just went live btw

[bluesturngold]

you're a lifesaver :')

here's the link:

https://studentaid.gov/debt-relief/application

[swords-and-aros]

“Demisexual/romantic is how normal people experience attraction, you’re not special”

That’s our bad, I guess there’s been a misunderstanding

I didn’t realize:

- “love at first sight” is just a joke

- celebrity crushes are a joke

- characters from shows and movies being one’s sexual awakening aren’t actually a thing

- people don’t actually ask their friends to set them up on dates

- everyone had formed a friendship with their current partner months/years before ever viewing them in a romantic light

- the idea of dating someone you’ve been friends for years with is normalized and not viewed as potentially ruining the friendship

- that whole “I’m in love with X, but they don’t even know I exist” thing is made up

- the whole “X changed their look and I find them hot now” is also made up

- flirting with strangers isn’t a thing

- asking out someone you just meant isn’t a thing

- blind dates aren’t a thing

- one night stands are complete fiction

- no one has ever been turned on by a stranger

- “sex sells” is a complete lie, no one really knows why those women are washing those cars in bikinis, it’s a weird choice of clothes

[proctopusworld]

Apexanimalapexanimal

N revenant

[proctopusworld]

Mom.

[54735749956555371253415-deactiv]

lets take ibuprofen together

[sweetnrr]

i printed it out and nailed it to a tree

[r-ika]

i tried another filter

[dimpledthings]

you will make mistakes, you will do the wrong thing. nobody is perfect.

don’t forget that how you respond to go forward is also important: apologise and say why, acknowledge the people you have hurt, take responsibility, promise to do better

[starcitysirens]

People on twitter are always like 'there's still people on tumblr?'... As if Twitter wasn't full of stolen text posts, gifs and art originally posted here

[bassacaglia]

They think that they’re doing an archeological dig but really they’re just walking into our houses picking up random stuff and saying “Wow, what a beautiful post! Shame that the people who made it died a long time ago :(((” While we stare at them from our dinner tables

[fag-it]

@transgirl-link this was too fuckin funny to leave in the notes

[owo--bot]

Tips for Writing with ADHD

I don't typically do things like this but here we are, these are just some things I've picked up along the way that may or may not help

Split up your chapter or document

The most I'm able to handle is about 1-2k wc per page before I start getting overwhelmed/unable to process half of what I'm reading & writing so this one's the most helpful IMO. I separate subjects into individual documents so I can somewhat stay on track and that way I'm not trying to filter through the beginning/middle/end all at once.

Words & sentence structures

If you can't remember a specific word/structure the sentence the way you're intending; first of all moniter your time but if you can't get it right just underline and move on with your doc. You can always come back later vs getting sucked into a time void without progress.

Where to start

If writing from beginning to end isn't working, start at the most interesting point of your doc and work from there. My chapters end up like connect the dots but it keeps me engaged overall.

References

(This one may do more harm than good for some people so bare that in mind.)

If your thoughts start to wander too much/your having issues getting words down/your under stimulated, pick up a book for a few minutes. This generally helps me get back on track with focus & refreshes my memory on sentence structures/formatting/ect. If your having problems paying attention to that as well then it's best to take a break for a bit.

Timers

This one's important, especially when editing. Set timers, more so if you feel like you're getting stuck. It's easy to lose track of actual hours so i set them for around every 15-20 minutes while editing so if I'm not making progress with one area I know to move on and save it for later.

Get it down immediately

Google docs, notes app, even texting it to yourself just get the idea out before it's gone, even if it's just a few words.

Text to speech

If you can't follow along with your own writing/ reading it aloud isn't helping or if you're just looking for errors, copy and paste you doc into a text to speech site.

BGM

Background music can be helpful especially if it's noisy where you're writing. I aim for music without words so it doesn't end up overly engaging so, classical, music boxes, instrumentals and the like.

Minimize distractions

Set aside a specific time period you plan to write and turn off all notifications on your phone / minimize all possible distractions.

Okie-dokie lastly make sure you're taking breaks if you feel like you're getting too overwhelmed, it'll do more harm than anything if you don't. I hope some part of this was helpful & good luck! ♡

[halleehalfgallon]

I’ve lately been struggling with waking up and getting going in the morning, so I’m leaving these reminders here to go through next time I forget why this routine is so important. you might find it helpful too if you also struggle with ADHD, executive dysfunction, disordered sleep, time blindness etc.

• waking up in the morning does feel good, it’s just difficult at first. the dread you feel when you know you’re sleeping through your alarms is much less enjoyable, much less restful than actually waking and moving your body to a new location to let the morning settle in.

• vibrate-only alarms are much easier to ignore in your sleep. find a sound that is somewhere in between relaxing and startling. calm little melodies just become the soundtrack to my dreams, but I also don’t need to wake up thinking the sky is falling. something matter-of-fact that will actually get your brain to stir a little is perfect.

• set at least one other alarm only a few minutes after your first alarm. too long of a “snooze” just allows the brain to get comfy again, which isn’t great if it’s really time to get moving. some extra-challenging days I might set 3 or 4 just in case.

• use an app that makes you get creative if you want to disable your alarm. the one I use (the free version of Alarmy) lets you choose between taking a picture of something specific, playing memory games, answering math question, scanning a barcode somewhere in your room, or even shaking the phone violently a certain amount of times (not ideal if you share a bed with someone 😬). since I’m bad at math and have poor working memory, I actually chose memory games and math questions. I didn’t want to be able to disable the alarms in my sleep, plus you can set the difficulty level so you don’t screw yourself over.

• when you do wake up, remove yourself from the place where you’re sleeping. I always move to the nearest window and spend some time sitting and looking out it. this is usually when I realize that I have missed out on a lot of peace in the day by never really having been a “morning person”. it’s pretty nice if you can get through the waking. this morning I rediscovered a rock on the window sill that I found a few days ago. I took a moment to appreciate that before moving on.

• when you’re ready to venture to the next step, drink half a glass of water. I do this when I take my meds and vitamins. I also use the bathroom and, if I remember, brush my teeth.

• sit for at least 5-10 minutes, if there’s time. I return to my window, and if I can’t justify a proper journaling session I like to at least use my notes app to make a list of manageable tasks, including things I’ve already done (like wake up, use the bathroom, take meds, drink water). there is a willingness that comes over me when I’m able to check things off right away. already my unchecked tasks are fewer and I have a sense of satisfaction that helps move me forward.

• set alarms for every 15 minutes or so for time blindness. but remember...

• bullying does not motivate a dopamine-seeking brain. ADHD and other such neurodivergent minds depend on dopamine, not adrenaline (at least in my experience and observation) and certainly not abuse. stop making your alarms things like ‘get up, bitch, I mean it’ and ‘get your ass up or you’re going to get fired’, even if it’s a joke. I did that for a long time and it sucked. so,

• extend yourself some grace. these are my alarms now and I love them! they don’t give me a shot of stress when they go off on my watch. encouragements and affirmations like “let’s get going!” and “you’re doing fine” are helpful. some are questions, like “just about ready to xyz?” and some are statements made in good faith, such as “you’ve taken your medication and your vitamins.” and “I’m so glad we’re making time to feed our bodies.” when it gets closer to the time to leave, it’s “are we ready to head out?” and “it’s go time!”

• lastly, eat something! anything at all. just don’t leave without eating something. I especially recommend this if you take medication for ADHD, or any med that works better if you give your body a little food to work with (this obviously varies from med to med so discuss with your pharmacist!)

[peppermint-flavored-chaos]

things i did as a neurodivergent person to get straight a’s for the third year in a row

hi hello hi how’s it going. welcome to the 3am-burst-of-motivation-tumblr-post-of-the-day, where i’m sharing all of my study tips that allowed my adhd/austism/ocd/bpd brain to somehow squeeze out straight a’s for the third year (sixth semester) in a row. 

1. study differently for different subjects. contrary to popular belief, flashcards and rewriting your notes does not work for every subject (unless it does for you, in which case ignore me and do what works for you). different subjects, at least for me, require different environments, techniques, and associations. 

2. association! sensory stuff works great for me because i tend to associate physical things with emotions and even personality types, so have something be constant every time you study. example: i have two tubes of chapstick, one peppermint and one pomegranate. i put on the peppermint one right before i go to bed and the pomegranate one after i eat breakfast - i associate the different scents with different activities (going to bed and starting my to-do list). 

3. to-do lists! mine are written on sticky notes and stuck to my mirror because i hate hate hate having the sticky glue stuff from sticky notes on my mirror and i’m not allowed to clean my mirror until all the sticky notes are off of it. when i can’t see my mirror, they’re on the outside of my backpack because they’re bright pink and the social anxiety makes me think people are staring at me if they are on my backpack. 

4. change your location often. specifically for my adhd peeps who have the attention span of an overexcited puppy, walk around. do things. go to a park or a coffee shop or a grocery store or a sidewalk or a bench somewhere or my personal favorite, the bank. when you’re understimulated go somewhere with lots of different noises and when you’re overstimulated so somewhere quiet or control noises (listen to music, noise-cancelling headphones, humming). 

5. keep a piece of paper next to you for the Random Thoughts That Come at Inconvenient Times and write down the stuff you want to look up/do/tell someone about and like… i don’t even know why that helps but it does. just having your thoughts out there i guess?

6. body doubling. find a person who will study with you. bonus points if it’s another neurodivergent person. they are depending on you to finish the studying and get the good grade. THEY ARE DEPENDING ON YOU. DON’T DISAPPOINT THEM. (side note anxiety people i would not recommend this for you)

7.  go to a place that will remind you to pee and eat and drink things. starbucks is great for this. so are most restaurants. 

8. get a new thing to study with every week. i like new things. if i have a new thing i am going to use it until it’s no longer exciting. i get a pencil, just a boring, manual pencil from the drugstore every monday afternoon for like sixty cents. it’s a fantastic method, at least for me. 

9. don’t drink something with caffeine in it while studying. you will either fall asleep or end up on a roof. it is not a good situation. caffeine for neurodivergents is like sleep pills, for me at least and most of the other ND’s i’ve met. if not for you, you’re lucky. 

10. spaced reps. in other words, find a big pair of dice and write vocab terms on each side, then hurl it at the ground and define each term. do this for like an hour. it’s fun and gets a lot of energy out. 

11. stim. vocal stims, physical stims, self-talk, fidget, yelp, squeal, tap your foot, walk around, shrug your shoulders, twitch your nose, jump up and down, ribbit like a frog. stim, stim, stim. it helps. 

anyways. it’s 3:17 am. happy studying!

[theprideful-deactivated20251201]

If you guys have ADD/ADHD, autism, OCD, or something else that affects your ability to concentrate, I highly recommend the chrome extension Mercury Reader. You just open whatever link you're using, then click on the MR icon (it should look like a rocket) and it'll simplify the page so that it's in a focus-friendly layout. Instead of having random pictures and word boxes all over the screen, it'll be in a vertical format with nothing to distract you so you can focus on what's important. You can also adjust the text size (small, medium, large), font (serif, sans), and theme (light, dark). And the best part is, it's completely free! It's honestly one of the best things I've ever downloaded.

This is an article without the extension. See that messy format, and how the actual article content only takes up a fraction of the page? It's no wonder it took me 7 hours to write that paper.

The same article, this time with Mercury. The user-friendly settings are at the top, and the rest of the article is formatted vertically down the middle with no free-roaming pictures or words. How nice.