I just watched Avatar for the first time all the way through, and yeah, itās great, but the one thing that surprised me was how different Katara was compared to the fandom interpretation Iād seen and internalized before watching.
Like, before you watch Avatar, youāve seen all these memes about Katara and her mom, and based on those memes, you assume itās one of those lines you have to get used to hearing at least once every episode. But then you watch the show and realize that she only talks about her mom maybe five or six times per season and you also realize she only brings her up when sheās trying to comfort someone or empathize with them because thatās how she processes her grief and thatās one way she connects with people.
Or you hear the infamous line, āthen you didnāt love [our mother] the way I didā and you prepare yourself for one of the worst character assassinations ever only to see the scene after nearly three seasons worth of context and realize she was kinda right. Sheās been the mother, the nurturer, the comforter. Sheās been patient, gentle, and accommodating where everyone else has gotten to be insensible and reckless and childish, and the one moment where she allows herself to feel her grief, suddenly sheās this evil bitch and not, yāknow, a 14 year old girl whose been thrusted into adulthood in a way no other character has. A 14 year old girl who should be allowed immaturity and raw emotion and anger instead of the patience and grace sheās been forced to extend to every character without even the smallest amount of gratitude or even consideration in return.
Or you see all of the clips where Katara puts Aang in the āfriendzoneā and you expect to have this wishy washy back and forth where Aang is putting his feelings out there only to have Katara neither commit nor express any clear reciprocation or rejection. Then you watch and realize that, as cute as the ship is initially, that thereās never a point where Aang returns any comfort or grace to Katara despite her always doing this for him to the point of coddling. That for as much as Aang says he loves her, he never seems to outgrow his perception of her so he can recognize her as someone who feels grief, anger, and pain as much as she expresses love, kindness, and maturity. And instead of having moments where he learns to see her beyond her strength or compassion, youāre instead given moments where Aang forces his feelings onto her, both romantic and non-romantic, and Katara is expected to justā¦shoulder those feelings the way she shoulders everyone elseās.
Katara is the most misunderstood character in the show. As much as people recognize the complexities of Zuko, Sokka, and Azula, they struggle to do the same for Katara because they see her struggles as somehow lesser, and therefore, less deserving of sympathy. They can handle her so long as sheās being endlessly patient and loving and kind, but the moment her endless love, patience, and kindness runs out, sheās suddenly this annoying bitch who canāt shut up about her mother or reciprocate Aangās feelings. But Kataraās trauma does matter as much as anyone elseās. No, she wasnāt banished from her kingdom. No, she didnāt lose her entire community, and no, she isnāt the only one who lost her mother. But the difference between her and everyone else whose experienced loss because of the Fire Nation is that sheās never given time to process her trauma. Aang gets to lean on Katara constantly. Toph gets to express her feelings to Katara, and yeah, Sokka also lost their mother, but unlike Katara, he isnāt put in the position of being a substitute for everyoneās parent. He even admits that he sees his sister as a mother. The only characters who ever comfort Katara or allow her to vent is Zuko and her father and thatās, like, three scenes in a show where the other characters are consistently given opportunities to seek out Katara for unconditional support.
The fandom interpretation of Katara has been so bastardized that even those who havenāt watched the show know her for this fanon version and not for who she is. Sheās such an interesting character beyond her fandom limitations, though. Sheās brave, hot-headed, and hopeful as well as gentle and caring. She wishes to learn waterbending, not only because she wants to fight in the war, but because she wants to continue her cultureās practices because, and people often forget this, she also lost an entire subculture within her already fractured tribe. And she wants to defeat the Fire Nation both because of her deep love and empathy for other people, but also because she wants to avenge her mother. But because some of the fans have reduced Katara to a bitch who constantly whines about her mother and friendzones Aang, you wouldnāt know any of this, and it sucks because sheās the only character whose been dumbed down to such an extent.
