I feel someone has to make a comprehensive post about this entire affair. I do not intentionally mean to offend or attack anyone, or victim blame, and I am deeply sorry if you feel that way, but multiple people are getting hurt and at least two are in the hospital because of this
Before I start, buddens has stated that they consider themself harassed and preyed upon, but if you do not agree with buddens opinion, LEAVE HIM BE. he has said that he wants to move on from this entire thing
This entire thing could have been handled better, but this is tumblr, and tumblr tends to have a very black/white way of thinking, putting one person on a pedestal, and refuses to acknowledge that they might have been in the wrong to.
I’ll be using the visuals that have been provided. I’m a bit on the fence about using anons experiences, as there is the possibility that one person has submitted fake experiences or is pretending to be multiple people, but I will be thinking of them as I write.
The entire koujackie uproar first started when she got an influx of messages in various languages. For some reason, this annoyed people. The entire thing got worse when they started telling her how to insult people in those languages. Then even more so when insulting Tagalog messages were sent to dryjuiceofficial, and were interpreted as personal attacks against the mun, character, and language.
why dryjuiceofficial wasn’t too perturbed about these messages is explained here: It was an inside joke that got out of hand and was not meant to spread to tumblr
they were also considered offensive as Tagalog is not a language koujackie knows how to speak and neither is she Filipino. People felt that using a language you don’t know to insult people was, well, insulting. Whether it is or isn’t is your own opinion, but do take into account the feelings of those who have it as a first language.
Then this post was made accusing koujackie of being racist, transphobic, and a pedophile.
So, naturally, it went viral and people doxxed her by submitting her personal info to blogs and ran her off the internet, giving her and her follower hate and calling her a cis mayo bitch.
Don’t insult some one for things they cant help being born as. Being cis is not a bad thing, and being born white is not a bad thing. You cannot choose your race, or the fact that you identify as the sex you were born as.
reminder that spreading someones personal info with out their permission, is, in fact, illegal. That means even if they posted it on a social media site, you can be arrested as you don’t have their express permission.
I’ll be addressing the accusations of racism, transphobia, and pedophilia in that order
What riled up people the most was this post on her facebook
because she wore her Mink cosplay wig in public. The reason people got angry about this is because a) the wig has dreads and b) she’s white, and they feel that you cannot have dreads unless you are classified as a person of color. (Something which I personally dont completely understand, as dreads are not specific to a one region and can be in native cultures on all inhabited continents. If you would like to explain, feel free to message me.)
first about this headcanon
which people feel is transphobic. If you read the second to last highlighted section, she means that that her opinion is if somebody loves you and wants to share lit. everything with you, telling them youre dfab or dmab is a good idea so they don’t feel as if you cant trust them with everything.
it should also be known that she feels some people are transmen because they actually want to get away from feminine stereotypes. And, while this is true for some, it isn’t true for everyone
next is her misgendering of people. She has. She should apologize for that and try not to do it again. It’s rude.
reminder that it can sometimes take a while for someone to get used to using your preferred pronouns to the point where they don’t have to consciously remind themself to use a different pronoun.
And lastly, the big one. pedophilia
the medical/ legal definition of pedophilia is
B. A persistent or a predominant preference for sexual activity with a prepubescent child or children. C. The person is at least 16 years old and at least five years older than the child or children in B.
the cut off date for prepubescence is age 13.
koujackie fits over the age of sixteen and at least five years older than buddens who was at the time, 17, now 18.
The legal age of consent in the US is 16 or 17 depending on the state.
with only these things facts provided, the worst she can be accused of is flirting.
Now look at the convos. buddens provided as proof of harassment
here are the screenshots provided with my comments below
as this is the only example provided, it cant exactly be called repeated harassment. also note that its to post the answer to the ask, not the ask itself
buddens did provide the picture, and they’re response is to joke about koujackies reaction
saying ‘hurry up and be legal’ is admittedly creepy from an outside pov but does imply that she doesn’t want to engage in some sort of activity until they’re legally an adult
do notice that buddens responds to this reply. by giving how long until they are legal
again ‘hurry up and be legal’ is kinda creepy. try not to say it. The ‘so I can flirt with you” is a bit late as they are both already flirting with each other. Notice buddens is flirting back, and in fact says ‘# pls flirt with me”, which most people will take as an ok to flirt. Also notice that they say with the amount of un birthdays they’ve had, they probably wont ever be considered legal. Its most likely a joke, but could be an attempt at a refusalunfortunately, for buddens case, an example of a concrete “no” hasn’t been provided so we’ll have take his word on that
and then there’s the uncomfortable opinion and possibility that buddens is only saying or suddenly feeling they were harassed because they are angry about the Tagalog,
personally, I think this is very unlikely. It puts only them in a bad light and refuses to take into account that koujackie is in the wrong also
I think both parties are in the wrong here. Buddens for not indicating they were uncomfortable, which most likely would have stopped it. And koujackie for misgendering and wearing the wig in public
If you are uncomfortable, say so, and if they continue, you can block the person, report them, or, if its an anon, turn of anonymous asks
If some one indicates they are offended by something you did, apologize, ask the reason why, and try not to do it again
Always refer to some one by their preferred name and pronoun. it’s rude not to.
