Now that I think of it I can remember hearing so many versions of “yeah I’d have sex with a girl but I couldn’t ever DATE one” especially when I was a young girl talking to young girls. And as a young girl who believed I was straight I of course accepted this idea, that you could be purely sexually attracted to girls but dating them would be out of the question, and I didn’t even wonder why that might be. So when we’re talking about constructions like “heteroromantic bisexual” especially with young people, it’s important to remember that we live in a society that devalues every conceivable type of relationship between women, and basically sees romance between women as an impossibility. Promoting this dichotomous split between sexual and romantic attraction has the potential to enforce that notion.
