How do you deal with (academic) stress? i find it very difficult, especially during exam season… i always get very overwhelmed and i sometimes get panic attacks (?) anyways i haven’t found a way to deal with it.
school shouldn't be your only purpose.
i firmly believe that education is one of the most valuable things a person can gain in their lifetime, and in today's world, we too easily forget that access to education, especially at a university level, is a privilege.
this isn't about being ungrateful. it's about recognizing that many academic systems are flawed. rather than focusing on learning, they prioritize performance. a simple (but telling) example is that research shows that making mistakes is one of the fastest ways to learn, yet academic systems penalize mistakes and frame them as failure. this pushes many students toward performance anxiety, panic attacks, and an overall unhealthy relationship with school.
we can't dismantle the system, but we can change the way we relate to it.
build a life outside of studying. especially through hobbies that involve creating something, not just passively consuming – painting, pottery, making music, dancing. anything that helps you to a) step away from academic stress, b) feel productive in an enjoyable way, and c) produce something tangible you can look at, reflect on, and gradually improve.
school-related anxiety often comes from one place. you've learned to measure your worth by your academic performance. "i got a good grade → i'm capable → i deserve respect and love. i failed a test → i'm not good enough → i've let everyone down." it's rarely that black and white, but that's the underlying logic many of us internalize. when you fill your life with more things, you naturally reduce the weight any single one of them carries, school included. the pressure eases, almost on its own.
keep it simple. these should be things you genuinely enjoy, not new obligations. the point is to build a life that feels full and meaningful beyond grades and deadlines. when school is the only thing in your life, every exam feels like everything. when your life is rich and varied, you start measuring your value by how satisfied you feel, not by what grade you got.
when i was in high school, i only studied. i was a straight-a student who was miserable and used to puke from anxiety before school. now i'm in university, i go to the gym, i'm learning three languages, and i'm taking a graphic design course. and somehow? i'm getting top marks in all my exams, and i'm so much more at peace than i was at 17.
it comes down to this: how satisfied are you with your life, and what are you using to measure your worth? learn to measure it by how happy you are.