unpredictability and serendipity

𝑀𝑎𝑟𝑖𝑜𝑛 ⁎ 𝐹𝑟𝑎𝑛𝑐𝑒 ⁎ 𝘌𝘕𝘛𝘑

[isl-equ-ay]

hannaschonberg

[zerogate]

I had always been impressed by the fact that there are a surprising number of individuals who never use their minds if they can avoid it, and an equal number who do use their minds, but in an amazingly stupid way. I was also surprised to find many intelligent and wide-awake people who lived (as far as one could make out) as if they had never learned to use their sense organs: they did not see the things before their eyes, hear the words sounding in their ears, or notice the things they touched or tasted. Some lived without being aware of the state of their own bodies. There were others who seemed to live in a most curious state of consciousness, as if the state they had arrived at today were final, with no possibility of change, or as if the world and the psyche were static and would remain so forever. They seemed devoid of all imagination, and they entirely and exclusively depended upon their sense perception. Chances and possibilities did not exist in their world, and in ‘today’ there was no real ‘tomorrow’. The future was just a repetition of the past.

-- Colin Wilson, C.G. Jung—Lord of the Underworld

[04k96]

[isl-equ-ay]

[perriaeyjeve]

[04k96]

[overclassy]

[millytherock]

[freakytikigifs]

Day of the Jackal, S01 E01

[cheshmenoor]

[polkadotmotmot]

Maria Callegaro - Serie di soli: il filtro celeste - 1995

[perriaeyjeve]

[perriaeyjeve]

[04k96]

[sahlesummerhill]

[prunelya]

𝐸𝑢𝑔𝑒𝑛𝑒 𝐷𝑒 𝐵𝑙𝑎𝑎𝑠 (𝑑𝑒𝑡𝑎𝑖𝑙)

[aetas-aurea]

I love seeing women be strategic, self-interested, financially aware, socially intelligent, emotionally detached enough to choose themselves for once instead of endlessly sacrificing themselves for everyone else. We are raised from birth to over-give, over-nurture, over-accommodate, over-explain, over-empathize and then the second a woman becomes intentional about what she wants, suddenly people start clutching their pearls about morality.

Centuries of documented, systematic, institutional abuse (emotional, physical, sexual, financial, legal) and we are supposed to feel guilty about a woman who figured out how to make the dynamic work in her favor for once. Absolutely not. The same systems that denied women the right to own property, to have bank accounts in their own names, to leave marriages without losing their children, to work without their husband’s permission, to press charges against the men who hurt them, to be believed when they spoke. These systems were built by men and maintained by men and benefited men for so long that the current generation of women is still navigating the residue of them in their daily lives. So when a woman uses what she has to extract resources, security, opportunity, or simply a more comfortable life, I genuinely cannot locate the moral problem. I have looked. It is not there.

I have very limited moral outrage left for women who manipulate, leverage relationships, marry strategically or otherwise use the systems available to them to secure wealth, status, comfort, or protection. Men built entire legal, financial and social systems around benefiting themselves and locking women out of stability, wealth, autonomy, credibility and safety and somehow I’m supposed to collapse in moral horror because a woman decided to secure the lifestyle she wanted through marriage, charm, strategy, proximity, whatever?

I actually think more women should stop feeling ashamed for wanting comfort, security, access, luxury, protection, influence or an easier life. Men have pursued those things openly and unapologetically forever. If a woman is smart enough to leverage beauty, charm, social skill, networking, marriage, desirability, or proximity to power to improve her life, I’m not sitting here calling her evil. I think she’s playing the game right.