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[lagomorfa-archive]

hello everyone! i’m moving into a new blog.

new blog username: @angelagenda

i won’t be active here anymore and i will leave this blog just as it is to be an archive.

please come find me on my new blog and unfollow this one if you want to, thank you!

[lagomorfa-archive]

hello everyone! i’m moving into a new blog.

new blog username: @angelagenda

i won’t be active here anymore and i will leave this blog just as it is to be an archive.

please come find me on my new blog and unfollow this one if you want to, thank you!

[lagomorfa-archive]

hello everyone! i’m moving into a new blog.

new blog username: @angelagenda

i won’t be active here anymore and i will leave this blog just as it is to be an archive.

please come find me on my new blog and unfollow this one if you want to, thank you!

[lagomorfa-archive]

hello everyone! i’m moving into a new blog.

new blog username: @angelagenda

i won’t be active here anymore and i will leave this blog just as it is to be an archive.

please come find me on my new blog and unfollow this one if you want to, thank you!

[lagomorfa-archive]

hello everyone! i’m moving into a new blog.

new blog username: @angelagenda

i won’t be active here anymore and i will leave this blog just as it is to be an archive.

please come find me on my new blog and unfollow this one if you want to, thank you!

[lagomorfa-archive]

hello everyone! i’m moving into a new blog.

new blog username: @angelagenda

i won’t be active here anymore and i will leave this blog just as it is to be an archive.

please come find me on my new blog and unfollow this one if you want to, thank you!

[lagomorfa-archive]

hello everyone! i’m moving into a new blog.

new blog username: @angelagenda

i won’t be active here anymore and i will leave this blog just as it is to be an archive.

please come find me on my new blog and unfollow this one if you want to, thank you!

[lagomorfa-archive]

hello everyone! i’m moving into a new blog.

new blog username: @angelagenda

i won’t be active here anymore and i will leave this blog just as it is to be an archive.

please come find me on my new blog and unfollow this one if you want to, thank you!

[distraints]

Yves Tumor, Heaven to a Tortured Mind (2020)

[littlebabycrybtch]

hey full offense but the ‘use the right pronouns even if the person is horrible!’ statements arent made to coddle horrible ppl, its saying ‘dont view correct pronouns as a fucking privilege that can be taken away once people decide you’ve fucked up enough’, misgendering someone on purpose is transphobic no matter what bc it equates transphobia as a ‘punishment’ for bad people, pronouns are a part of baseline human respect, its that simple

[tomfordvelvetorchid-deactivated]

[literallyaflame]

not to hop in on the Hottest Discourse but:

age gaps aren’t inherently bad between adults, but they are incredibly suspect in instances where one party has significantly more agency and experience due to their age. a thirty year old dating a forty year old, for instance, isn’t all that big a deal. but an eighteen year old should be VERY suspicious of a thirty year old wanting to get with them. they’ve had twelve years to establish themselves as an adult. an eighteen year old has had maybe a few months to do so.

i’m saying this as a person who briefly dated a thirty year old at age 19 (it wasn’t good lol), and also as a person with happily married parents who have a 12 year age gap. the difference is that my mom was in her thirties when she met my dad; she’d had plenty of time to find a career and a name for herself in the world.

stay safe, love urself, try to make good decisions but don’t beat yourself up if you’ve ever been the victim of an unbalanced or abusive relationship

[rednightmare18]

I need yall to understand that healthy 30 year olds look at 19-year-olds and see kids. Not in a demeaning way – but in a way that automatically removes that 19-year-old from romantic consideration. And even if you “look very mature for your age,” a healthy 30 year old will learn you are 19 and back out of that crush at 90 mph no matter how good your contour game is.

[aparrotandaqrow]

This extends to people under 21, even by the time you’re in your late 20s. If you’re 20, you still usually don’t know who you are, what you’re doing with your life, how to navigate really challenging life decisions, etc, because you have little to no experience with that. You can trade university for life experience, but then you don’t have the training in critical thought that a university-educated person in their late 20s or early 30s has. This leads to a mentor-mentee or teacher-student dynamic at best, and a parent-child relationship at worst. No part of that spectrum leads to a healthy relationship. 

“They’re mature for their age”/”They have the mind of a <age of a mature responsible adult” almost always actually means “they’re smart enough to keep up with me on a day-to-day basis”–when it comes to the decisions that *really* demand maturity, they are just not as equipped as you are, unless you *yourself* have failed to pick up some important lessons in the last ten years.

And that goes as a warning for the 18-21-year-olds: if you’re dating someone who’s in the vicinity of 30+, and you feel like you’re on the same page maturity-wise even when it comes to major decisions, you may be right on track, but there’s a good chance the person you’re dating is not. This should be a red flag for you. No matter how well-adjusted you are for your age, you will be much *more* mature and responsible and wise in ten years. If the person you’re dating is just *now* getting to where you are, odds are you’ll end up frustrated with them when you grow into the responsible one and they stay right where they are.

[inrainbows-deactivated20211029]

treasured mutuals can eat snacks out of my hand like a horse.

[dankmemesreasonforliving]

[caffeinewitchcraft]

Relationships get so bananas when you start deciphering the other person’s love language.

Like I thought I was just acquaintances with this person because they never told me details about themselves and we just talked movies and writing . But then they made time to have coffee with me and they showed up out of breath because they ran. Like. RAN to be on time for coffee with me?

And I was like “i don’t mind waiting” cause I never want to run

But they said they wanted every minute they could get because I’m so busy usually

Which is when it clicked that I didn’t get how much they considered me a friend because I just straight away didn’t see MY signs of affection in them and went “cool! Casual buds it is.” But now that I’m seeing their signs of affection, I feel a little silly for dismissing them like that even though I felt like we could be best bros.

Anyway, some people show affection through time or intensity or commitment and not vocally. I really have to remember that!

[madammuffins]

Fyi- just in case you didn’t know.

TOUCH got a bro that likes to give high fives? Back slaps? Are they a hugger? Do they not blink an eye at cuddles?

QUALITY TIME this bro will (as op stated) sprint to spend every minute possible with you. Every second that you guys are together is a declaration of affection.

WORDS does your bro tell you how amazing and great and fantastic and wonderful you are all the time? Guess what…?

GIFTS do they buy you coffee? Snacks, energy drinks, spot you at the restaurant? Did that one key chain remind them of you? Ding ding!

ACTS are they always doing things for you? Ie: Nah bro, I got this, I can do that, need me to get anything for you, I can help with…?

PRO TIP - The way people show love is often how they receive love as well.

[pearltiare]

when Alina Baraz said “I’m not asking for too much, I’m asking the wrong motherfucker” I really felt that

[straightboyfriend]

hardest thing to learn during recovery is….. some of your misery is your own fault. you have to actively choose to stop wallowing in your own pain & start to recover. that means stop being self deprecating, start taking care of yourself, start eating healthy, start taking your hygiene seriously, even if it’s hard. & it is hard! but you must.

EDIT: i am not claiming these things will “cure” you, i am just stating some things that can take the mental strain off your depression & help you be more productive. i am not a therapist, & it is important that besides the above mentioned things you seek any therapy or medical help you may need. i listed a couple of things that help me feel better personally, so keep that in mind! they are just important things to remember during recovery.