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Fixing Someone

You can't fix someone who doesn't want to be fixed. You can't fix someone who doesn't believe they need fixing or adjusting. This creates more work for you to do in your relationship, you’ll find yourself putting most of the effort into your own relationship. Your partner may feel disconnected, or may have given up, or needs space / time to think My advice… let them ! If it is meant to be, they will eventually find their way back to you. In return, they will be more efficient in their relationship, caring, possibly more loving (if THEY choose to stay) REMEMBER : This is not your decision to make, or force, or for you to give them a reason to stay. If you believe deep down that you have almost exhausted yourself giving love, time, attention without much in return, you will need them to put some work in too. Guaranteed you will be fulfilled, IF YOU DO THIS RIGHT !

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Take control of your own relationship from another perspective

From the outside looking in Sometimes as hard as it is, a good break is needed in order for you to evaluate yours and your partners behaviour in a relationship. You know that saying "you never know what you have until it's gone" VERY TRUE This is why I recommend taking time off to find who you are in your relationship. And decide if your partner is the right match to help you grow or develop into the person god wants you to be. Don't let your relationship define you. This method is useful for young relationships, people who have troubles in their relationship but don't want to leave, those who are unsure and for anyone who may God it useful for their own personal reason.

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Think before acting or responding

You cannot accept a man, destroy him, then try to return him. When family members and friends get mad at you. You cannot argue back because they are the ones who are left to clean up the mess that you have made. It is easier to make the mess than to clean it up. And you will leave a scar on that person that will remain there forever. Don't act out while you're angry. Take some time. Consider the consequences of your actions Evaluate every situation thoroughly Never say something may will regret Think before you act !!!

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If you are cheated you. It leads to feelings of betrayal, trust issues, rejection, insecurities and in some cases defeat. The best decision is to take a break. This is the time you need to take in order to gather your thoughts, evaluate your worth, decide if your other half is worth the pain, if they are sincere in their apologies, and if you are able to trust them again... Keep in mind that building that trust will NOT be an easy task, and if that forgiving and building process is something you are willing to go through. If you decide to stay, You can NOT remind them of their flaws everyday. Feelings of paranoia is understandable. But keep in mind, it was your decision to stay. You cannot then force them into submission and new patterns of life in order to be the perfect person on the pedestal that you have placed them in your mind... This is unrealistic and irritating. Once you decide to stay, your aim is then to give your other half a reason to want to be around. Start doing things they like to do. Learn about what they find interesting. Maybe try to adapt to ONE or TWO of their favourite hobbies. Start cooking, find new ways to show appreciation and to keep their eye on you. This will get tiring because you may still feel insecure deep down, but remember... You chose to stay. Place a solid reminder in their minds of what they cheated on... Give them a reason to appreciate you.

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Loving yourself

Do not enter into a relationship unless you love yourself first. You may potentially be emotionally abusive to your partner. Qualities you lack in yourself, you may try to find in someone else to make up for the perfect picture of a relationship in your head. You will end up feeding off of their energy with hopes that eventually they will make you into a better person. The person you wish you could be. This is frustrating for your partner and can ruin their mentality. Do not be surprised if they become agitated often and or get upset for small things. This is the repercussions of you putting too much on them. What we do sometimes is put our partners on a high pedestal that we ourself can't reach up to. This is unrealistic and unfair to them. Calm down This is the best time to pray. Ask for deliverance from the spirit of rejection, self rejection or self condemnation

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Being the "bad" ex

We all know the saying, that tells us after a storm your Prince Charming always shows up to make it right. But is it there same for men ? Do they find their Mrs right ? The hardest thing to do is see someone move on from you when yourself still in love with them. Even if you aren't it's a natural feeling to be a little hurt. When you break someone heart, you automatically feel remorseful and begin to think of ways you could have made things better, or pointing out things you blame yourself for. Don't be frightened or start condemning yourself. This is normal, it shows that you are still human. Keep those hints with you. Use them as a learning curve. These are thing tools that you have picked up and will perfect in your next relationship. You may not get it right the first few tries. But keep trying and keep learning from it and eventually you will adapt to being a better person that you yourself can approve of.

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Forgiving

Continue forgiving non stop. Even when you can't take it anymore. Even if you choose to give up. FORGIVE - not for them, but for yourself. The last thing you want to do when leaving a relationship is plan on entering into a better one without having forgiven your past. You will hurt the new person or make more mistakes and possibly blame them because you are so use to getting things right but for some reason you can't seem to anymore. - this is caused from bitterness, anger, memory recall and possibly anxiety Deal with you, before you deal with anyone else. Clean up your mess, before you start having to clean up a mess for 2