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[lalaofrp]

Okay but what about a high-calibur spy role play where the admins give prompts for people to do during a scene (ie you have to get a note passed to a colleague through the barista without anyone noticing) and if the person responding to you misses the drop-off or gets it incorrect (only you and the admin would know the prompt) your mission is successful and you get some reward up to super spy, but if you are caught you get a demerit, and if you keep messing up, you get demoted. That way players really have to read and respond to what you're saying/doing and it gives reactions for development. Idk I'm just listening to 007 themes, don't mind me.

[lalaofrp]

Yep, I’m still alive, with no intentions of deactivating even with Tumblr’s new policies.

[lalaofrp]

I’m still debating on keeping this blog going, as I’ve gotten a little wary of hanging out in the community and have decided I personally will never join another rp group on Tumblr, but I still love creating characters and stuff, so if that sort of stuff translates over to helping, I may as well stick around as an RPH. 

In semi-related news, I’m working on a character for my guy’s Vampire: The Masquerade campaign. Woo~

[lalaofrp]

The idea of a partner "completing you" or making you "feel whole" sounds romantic until you realized you've been conditioned to believe that you can't be an entire person without depending on someone else to round you out as a person.

Love and complete yourself first; then when you find someone you fall for, you're falling for them because you want them and you have love to share, not because you need them to complete your self-love.

[goofystank-deactivated20180907]

Why would you be mad about someone calling you sis? It’s not meant to misgender. It’s what people say now. Just get over it.

Because it makes me and others uncomfortable?? Like you don’t have to stop calling me sis??? I’d rather you call me sis than anyone else just because I can take it and call you an unintelligent harpy with a brain the size of your dignity, arguably just a fraction smaller than an atom.

[lalaofrp]

But consider this: People use “retarded” and “gay” as synonyms for “dumb,” “stupid,” or “ridiculous,” and they’re not “meaning” to offend– yet, we have PSAs everywhere in mainstream media saying it’s not acceptable. 

Just because it’s “what people say now” doesn’t change how people feel about it being used.

[lalaofrp]

God tumblr is so finnicky with the app, but to the person suggesting using a bigger font, yes, I will do so from now on. As someone with crappy eyesight, I definitely understand the struggle (and frankly half the time I have to squint to read my own shit, all for the sake of aesthetic, nuts to that).

[lalaofrp]

This site exhausts me, man. Gonna’ go work on my creative writing project. Might not be around for a few days.

[lalaofrp]

Basically instead of defending against the issue of "a woman getting angry, expressing emotion, and protesting her condition isn't hysteria and that concept is sexist and disrespectful" you say "we can 'prove' she used rational thought so it isn't hysteria and she therefore deserves respect"

Basically instead of chastising the gross individuals who would call a woman hysterical you instead chastised the people presenting the story for just neglecting an honestly mundane particular about the story. It’s meaningless whether she did it in the moment or if it was premeditated because it doesn’t change the story at all or her protest, all it does is validate the people who call women hysterical by saying “this is an actual thing you could call a woman, just not THIS woman" 

*Deep breath.*

After reading what I wrote, you could have said: “Maybe she’s had experiences in her life as a woman that would make this important to her.” Instead, you went the route of accusing me of validating sexists by saying I’m saying: “this is an actual thing you could call a woman, just not this woman.” We both know in no way was I saying it’s acceptable to call a woman those things. Why do you think I put those particular words in quotations? Because I think they’re unacceptable to call A N Y woman. They are archaic words intended to devalue women and continue stereotypes we’re still attempting to kill in 2018. That doesn’t let anyone off the hook from reducing this specific woman to: "University student strips down for her thesis presentation after a professor told her her shorts were ‘too short’.”

My point was to express that this individual’s actions were not done spur-of-the-moment or out of blind rage. As a woman, I’ve experienced times where despite planning my reaction to things, I’ve been called hormonal or was accused of letting emotions get the better of me. As such, it’s important to me to acknowledge when a woman takes the time to think about her obstacles before reacting to them instead of chalking it up to knee-jerk reacting out of spite and being a woman. That’s not something I should have to explain to you, but since you say it’s “meaningless”, there you have it. It has meaning to me, and it doesn’t have to have meaning for you. Maybe it does for others who aren’t you.

I didn’t take into account that someone would go over what I said with a magnifying glass and a fine-tooth comb to try and find some sort of hitch so they could accuse me of things I never actually meant or felt so they could point-score. Honestly, I would have been a lot more pleasant if you had just come to me privately and started an open dialogue by saying: “Hey Lala, I read your post and to me, it felt like you were implying that women who don’t think before they act should be labeled as erratic and hysterical and that feels wrong to me,” but coming to my inbox, hiding behind a mask, and trying to tell me who I am as a woman by telling me “what I said” makes this whole experience unpleasant for you and me both. 

I gave you the courtesy of responding to your anon. If you want to discuss this issue further, please give me the courtesy of coming off of anon and speaking to me privately instead of trying to “out” me as whatever it is I’m being accused of. 

[lalaofrp]

If someone doesn't want to use an older FC what's so bad about that? I feel like lots of rpers are fairly young (late teens-early 20s) and they may just find a younger FC more relatable and easier to write? That doesn't have to be a problem, at the end of the day rping is about being creative and expressive, and if someone is inspired by a younger FC most of the time, what's the big deal?

I get it’s easier to play in one’s own bracket– but part of writing is stepping outside of oneself and learning about others. I’ve never been 50– but when I first took on a 50-year-old character, I spoke to those in my life who have been at that age. I looked up online articles about the age-range. I drew from resources I already have (example: my psychology classes) to try to understand the dilemmas that age range faces. There’s not a reason this community can’t do that, other than not wanting to.

The problem isn’t younger players saying younger characters are “more relatable”– it’s them saying that older characters are “not relatable,” which changes the tone entirely.  A refusal to even attempt to find commonalities or try to relate to those older, just because they’re older, is boxing them out and making them feel as if they have no value.

I get this anon is saying this doesn’t have to be a problem, but it is. The problem isn’t limited to those not taking up older characters because they’re not “comfortable” playing them– they refuse to interact with older characters, too. The ones who do decide to take up an older character are boxed out and ignored in favor for young people playing with young people– like a 20-year-old has never had a 40-year-old platonic friend, or that a 50-year-old couldn’t possibly have anything in common with a 24-year-old. 

The problem even extends past characters– I’ve seen this community shun those over 25 because they’re too “old” to be roleplaying. They accuse older roleplayers of “preying” on younger RPers just by being in the same group (not even trying to have any sort of romantic interaction with them, mind you). 

By refusing to take up older characters, refusing to interact with older characters, and even devaluing older muns, it’s setting the overall precedence that anyone over 25 is not to be valued, and that them interacting with younger people in any way is some sort of predatory act. That’s the big deal, and that’s why many older players in this community are upset.

[lalaofrp]

Me: I want to RP more. I should join a new group.

Me: [Peeks into the community and sees all the discourse and fighting]

Me: 

[lalaofrp]

Protip: If you get a canker sore, use a mix of hydrogen peroxide/water (equal parts), baking soda, and salt as a mouth rinse a couple/few times a day. Don’t swallow it, just rinse.

Disclaimer: That shit is going to sting so bad you’ll think a wasp took up residence in your mouth, but do it anyway, I promise it helps. 

[lalaofrp]

Look, if you don't want to use older faceclaims, then that's your call, but don't blame it on lack of resources, lack of inspiration, lack of ideas for them, or lack of whatever else. Just admit you don't want to use older faceclaims. I know you're not doing that because then people may not like you for it, but they already don't like the lengths you're going to in order to justify not using them because they can see right through it. What do you have to lose by being honest? Oh, right-- your followers and respect. Well, that's the cost of exclusivity.

[dsu2014]

someone make an alignment chart for the old barbie movies

[daarcy]

u asked i delivered

[lalaofrp]

I cried when this was referred to as the "old" Barbie movies...

[lalaofrp]

🔥

I fucking hate Hostess Twinkies. If I were on a desert island without food and a crate of Twinkies washed up on shore, I would eat my own foot before I touch that crate. 

[meme-cafe]

Send me a “ 🔥 “ for an unpopular opinion.

[hepburneds]

meme-cafe :

Bonus points if you include a topic. ( IE. shipping, roleplaying, ect. )

[lalaofrp]

I’m still alive. Woo. Send me stuff, I guess.

[gahdamnpunk]

Her tuition so damn high she can wear whatever tf she wants

[smallswingshoes]

Spite goals

[meeglemore-deactivated20190117]

There’s a better thing to her story. She CONTINUED her thesis in her underwear and afterward her professor said “what would your mother think wearing those kinds of clothes”

And she responded “my mother’s a feminist also a gender and sexuality studies professor. She’s fine with my shorts”

[kurtwagnermorelikekurtwagnerd]

i think the best part is that a majority of the class also stripped with her in solidarity

[lalaofrp]

Just to give a little more perspective after reading the story:

The sequence of events is a little jumbled in the telling above. The actual chastising from the teacher came days before the woman’s thesis, during a practice run of her presentation. This was not a spur-of-the-moment thing where she just whipped off her clothes for the sake of being angry. Chai took the time to think things through before deciding this was the way she wanted to protest. She used critical thinking and level-headedness to decide instead of becoming volatile and aggressive, she would choose non-violent protest. 

I just don’t like the way the story’s being told by others because it makes her come across as “overly-emotional” and “erratic” (as women often do in the media, because it’s easier to attribute extreme action to “hysteria”), whereas in actual news reports, she had time to think about her decision and choose the best way to handle what happened to her. 

Sources: 

New York Post

CBS

Huffington Post