I never post on my main blog but I will for this. To everyone in the pathandpractice tag, I'm the reason that this person thinks people are "holding grudges." I'll explain.
Last week, I interacted with someone I'd seen in witch tags that was going by the name of "Neta." They said they were relearning their practice and looking for recommendations. I, naively, recommended they utilise the pathandpractice tag (which I have followed and enjoyed for several months now, but don't post in as I use a private blog). I did not at the time suspect that "Neta" was not "Neta." "Neta" thanked me for the recommendation and we began a brief conversation in the replies, where we both exchanged words about a previous witchblr era we'd both known. I did not suspect then that I was speaking to someone who repeatedly hounded me during that era, who I'll simply refer to as A. During this conversation, "Neta" went on to try and sympathise over understanding the "toxic" treatment I'd endured. I now heavily suspect that "Neta" was in fact an alias for A, and that I was speaking with someone who, in the past, was very cruel to me, who would attack me in replies and, when I didn't behave or react as she wanted me to, would block me and then make vague posts about me on her blog. This happened across multiple blogs of theirs, because they would delete and make new blogs and do the same thing again and again. And this happened again when "Neta" blocked me for speaking with her about the accounts that I'd endured that treatment from a few years back.
It is my belief that the person "Desh" is coming here to stir shite up for is "Neta"/A. I will be kinder than they have been and I won't dox the former names and usernames, but I am not the only one who follows the pathandpractice tag and community that has been on the receiving end of such treatment from A. I was not "holding a grudge" when I spoke with "Neta," I was speaking with someone who had claimed they were understanding of the trauma I'd endured, and I assumed they had also experienced such things at the hands of the accounts that had done this to me.
Looking back, it now seems to me that "Neta" was A, who had come back to witchblr with a new name, a new alias, a new practice, and never identified herself as A, as she is like to do across various communities. I do not feel I have a "grudge", and in fact have never made public posts about what happened to me, only talking about it with my friends, many of whom were also there to witness the experience and some having their own unfortunate histories with A. It was not my intention to upset "Neta," and had I known whom I was speaking to, I never would have interacted with her to begin with, would've simply blocked and moved on (as I have always done in the years following my experiences with her), and they'd not have had their feelings hurt.
There was no intentional slight, as I was under the impression that I was speaking to "Neta," not A.
For any undue pain that may have caused, I'm sincerely sorry. I hope that A and Desh can both move beyond this, and that A can find healing and let go and move on as so many of us have had to learn to do. Again, it wasn't my intention to upset her. I simply was not aware whom I was speaking to and was under the impression that I was speaking with someone else. Had there never been deception from the start, this would not have happened. I regret that this situation has come to be, but I also do not feel that my very brief conversation with "Neta" should have resulted in (several days later) "Desh" appearing to hurl accusations of "holding grudges," which seems to be hypocritical.