Lesbian Pickup: How to Meet Other Lesbian and Bisexual Girls
DISCLAIMER: Please note that this video (as well as my other videos) are made for those living in LGBT ideal conditions. This means countries, states, cities, and counties that are LGBT friendly where it is SAFE to be LGBT and where people are not being beaten, raped, or killed. If you are unsure if your area is safe or not, check up on the local news and the laws of that area before attempting to pick up women as a woman. Picking up girls is fun, but being alive and safe is even better.
It can be really hard sometimes for women to meet other lesbian and bisexual girls. Some lesbians are from small towns and don’t know how to meet other girls around them. Some are in the closet and wish to stay under the radar by dating a stranger or someone who is discreet. Many lesbians have a type of girl they like and cannot find. Many others have also expressed wanting to date someone completely new (that their friends and social circle hasn’t already slept with). Well today, I’m going to show you how to do it.
1.) ONLINE DATING: The easiest way to meet hot lesbian and bisexual girls is to meet them ONLINE. There are all sorts of FREE online resources that you can use to meet women. There’s OKCupid, Tinder, HER, Femme, and other apps out there that attract women who are deeply into women. Since there are so many different types of apps to use, the abundance of women is unlimited.
2.) LESBIAN/BISEXUAL GROUPS AND FORUMS: Make sure you read all of the rules first. A site for online dating is for online dating. Some lesbian groups on social media do not allow personal posts or anything because they want their community to be safe from predators or would rather have a more relaxed space than people feeling pressured to meet each other.
3.) LESBIAN/BISEXUAL/FEMINIST EVENTS: Keep your eye on Queer events that are going on in your community and put the ones you are interested in on your calendar. You can easily do a google search for this: "*your town* LGBT”, “gay bars near me”, and by looking into various communities in places around you to see what’s going on. Another good way to get women is by attending feminist events. Not the crazy rallies and protests and marches, but at events where you can mix and meet people (like a crafting event)
If you have a taste for certain girls (goth girls, gold star lesbians, etc) look up the clubs and companies pictures on social media and see the type of people who are attending the events. I’m personally into femmes so if I look up a club online and see pictures of gay men and butch lesbians going to particular bars, I am not going to that bar over one that has femmes.
4.) BEWARE OF INSTAGRAM! As I found out from quite a few of my female and male students, you can get in trouble for using it for dating. Hit on the wrong girl at the wrong time of day and she might report you, which will have IG disable your account. I know a lot of women who put their IG handles in their dating profiles. They are seeking followers, but many of us out there use it as a platform for modeling, photography, etc. If you want to, you can MESSAGE the girl, but only really message if you match with her. Otherwise, message on Tinder first and then take it to social media. Beware that if she’s very attractive, she’s probably being hit up A LOT by men and therefore your message may end up lost in the message requests area.
5.) WHAT IF YOU LIVE IN A SMALL TOWN? It’s not always to meet lesbians online, so you have to take yourself out of the small town to travel and meet women. Taking a bus, traveling outside the city for a date with another girl you met. If you want to transform your dating life, you will need to push to make this happen. After a while, it won’t seem like a big deal. OR you can do the opposite, and bring girls INTO your community. Going on a site like meetup.com and arranging LGBT events (like a bar crawl or a hike) can help draw lesbian and bisexual girls into your community. This also raises your value and attractiveness among women, because you are also showcasing your leadership ability. You are the one planning the events and taking control. Women love women who are social, leaders, and know how to take the lead. It is SCIENTIFICALLY proven that women are attracted to leaders.
6.) DON’T JUST SIT IN AN LGBT BUBBLE. People died in our country to make sure you have the rights to approach the women of your dreams, anytime, anywhere. This also includes straight clubs, rather than just gay clubs. Also, different types of crowds draw on different types of women. If you’re interested in dating a goth girl, don’t go to a lesbian club hoping to find a goth girl there. You need to go to a goth club and hit on the girls you like there. Does that make sense? As someone who is both biracial and bisexual I tend to have more pride in being mulatto than I do in being bisexual. So you will likely find a girl like me at a cultural event rather than a gay event. LGBT groups and spaces tend to be limited because for some there are bad stigmas identifying as LGBT. If you’re into straight and bicurious girls to mess with you are more likely going to find them in any bar out there, you just need to APPROACH.
7.) WHAT IF YOU’RE A GOLD STAR LESBIAN AND ONLY WANT TO SLEEP WITH GIRLS WHO ARE STRICTLY LESBIAN? I understand there’s lesbians out there who only want to sleep with lesbians and not bisexual girls. Hey, I get it. You are tired of women being confused about their feelings, running away to pick men over you, bicurious girls, girls who are bad in bed, or to be frank you don’t want any nasty dick juice remnants in your mouth.
And that’s completely understandable, after all I know many straight women who wouldn’t sleep with a dude who slept with a dude. Nobody on the straight girl side wanna drink man booty dick juice. Your feelings and preferences should never be compromised. In this case, I would advise the opposite: focus on LGBT spaces, clubs, and events rather than venturing more outside. (Many lesbians have also talked about sports with meeting women you may want to consider that too)
8.) REMEMBER, just because a girl looks straight or gay or whatever, doesn’t mean she ACTUALLY is. You won’t know, until you go and APPROACH her :)
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