"Julius had to handle for you because you couldn’t handle that Forsakenbanjo guy and act as if you were Oswald from QFTIM."
So.... Are we not going to acknowledge the elephant?
I asked Julius, he could of said no, and that would have been okay, because realistically all I asked (from what I can remember) was for him to correct and make my document more accessible, as I tend to ramble at the time and make spelling errors, and/or even make a testimony if he was comfortable considering his involvement regarding the alterhuman drama, least that was my intention
Again, he could have said no, and I would have asked someone else, or checked it myself
I did not force anyone to do anything and to automatically say it's because "I couldn't handle Forsakenbanjo" is extremely disgusting behavior
Because yeah.... I was scared. My groomer is a large content creator with a big following... He still terrifies me. I needed support from people because realistically I felt extremely hurt and alone, but I felt more safe knowing people were supporting me and having my back on the situation
Otherwise, I would have been more silent about the struggles I faced
You are making a reference to QFTIM which is extremely tone deaf to the situation as I am a victim of grooming. You're treating this situation like it's some game, which... most used to do, unfortunately.
Not to mention, you're strawmanning, I never said nobody could have boundaries in regarding to who they want to interact with, and I made that very clear in my doc that if you were uncomfortable with that information alone, then you had a right to leave
I'm not forcing anybody to stay, either by pity or fear, I rather them go and not have a relationship forced
You do not fully know what happened in closed doors regarding the ex-past relationships I had with friends and such, so you have no idea how hypocritical they truly are regarding all this, and their past harmful behaviors towards me, but realistically this isn't bout them right now, because that's between me and them
You say that you aren't minimizing my trauma but even if that's not your intention, you are. It's not an accusation, it's how it's presented to me, especially your new response worsening your tone
Also, I have never cheated, and I'm assuming A said I did, when A is extremely polyphobic, whether he admits it or not. I openly communicated to him about my newfound feelings for someone else while also still having feelings towards him, and realizing I couldn't stay closeted forever, and asked him what he wanted to do regarding that instance
Realistically, I am deeply sorry that I still hurt him, and I regret to this day, and feel I should have been more sympathetic to the situation, but I was also under a lot of stress as well during that situation as I was coming out to him, to my family, and also having to handle everyone's feelings at once
Does not justify that I have hurt him, and if I had the ability, I would apologize once again, as I have before, but I know I never cheated on him, and I deeply valued our relationship to the point where I even wanted to help him after breaking up
I can hurt people, that's something I know I'm capable of, and I hold myself accountable for that and grown as a person
I do not like that phrase "I'm a victim of *blank* so therefore *blank*" because not everyone is you, and you can still fall into sanist and ignorant behaviors.
I'm not using my trauma to justify anything, I am who I am, I ate someone, therefore I am a cannibal. It's a cause and effect that I have to live with daily. You don't know what that's like. The only people who can criticize that specifically if they are also someone who deals with my struggles and exact situation, until then, I don't think you have to say anything.
This all can be easily explained in my doc actually, as I already explained before about how I actively wanted help and was trying to get better even without access to help but this situation regarding the vents posted publicly ruined said mental health progress deeply
And yes, it is my doc. I hold ownership. It's not Julius's doc as it's not his groomer, not he holds ownership. I made the doc, and I gave him access to write. Nothing more.
I have done my own research and have actively done things, and I'm not going to repeat what I said in my first response regarding the removal of evidence and why it's wrong
Again, he could have reached out, and we could have compromised something, it's about courtesy
And frankly, I understand if you want me to "leave you alone" but you did respond to this doc with a reblog and comment, so you obviously wanted a response or reaction
That or to ridicule me without consequence
Overall, you only have insulted me this entire time, when even in the original post, I only criticize behaviors to this day