Some HOT ™ takes ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

To summarize, DNI if you're a Terf, Transphobe, Enbyphobe, Aphobe, Exclusionist of any kind (This includes the previously mentioned Nonbinary people and Asexual people, as well as Intersex people, He/him lesbians, or basically almost anyone you don't consider "LGBTQ+ enough"), or a Truscum/transmed.

[lgbt-shitcourse]

considering that most trumeds are transmasc, is insulting them by stating they have "micro dick energy" really necessary? I don't like them or agree with them but they still don't deserve to potentially have their dysphoria triggered like that. And using dick size as an insult is painful for all transmasc people with bottom dysphoria, not just the ones you're meaning to insult.

Hey anon, Thank you so much for bringing this up. I haven’t used this blog in a while now so I forgot I even had this in the descriptionI actually didn’t know that a lot of/most trumeds are Transmasc, and the last thing I wanna do is cause any sort of dysphoria in anyone, so I will be taking it out of that description.It was a play on the whole “Big Dick Energy” thing a while back (which shows you when I wrote the damn description lmfao) and didn’t think of how that could be hurtful So thank you again for letting me know! 

[gentle-sapphic]

anyway, asian wlw are so strong for dealing with bigotry and festishisation of their race and sexuality and I hope every asian wlw is having a good day despite the hardships they have to deal with

[lgbt-shitcourse]

Anyone feeling that good ol Ace pain(tm) tonight like I am?

[lgbt-shitcourse]

sometimes I just feel like praying that some of these kids’ exposure to Asexuality is just NOT from this website at all like

My first encounter with Pansexuality was seeing it on a roleplaying website and thinking “hey that’s cool.” after looking it up and had no idea that there was some HUGE debate on it’s existence and how it’s biphobic and stuff

and like, could you imagine your first exposure to asexuality being like a troll blog on here aimed to slander aspec people like

ugh

[tsundere-is-a-slur]

okay so young teens on this site will talk about bottoming and topping or being monster fuckers on this site and thats okay but as soon as a teen has ace in their bio y’all get mad because they’re implying that teens are sexual and that is bad™

[lgbt-shitcourse]

Also friendly reminder that it isn't "cowardly" or whatever to unfollow/unfriend/stop talking to someone who has differing opinions than you online like You can shape your experience on here. You don't have to subject yourself to shit you don't wanna see even if it's just mildly irritating. You're not "Being a baby" and "throwing a fit" because you want nothing to do with someone with different opinions on something with you. You're preserving yourself. Use that fuckin unfollow and block button liberally my friends

[lgbt-shitcourse]

Some LGBTQ+ person who has no idea that the word “Queer” has a discourse: the Queer community blah blah...

Someone on tumblr who hasn’t interacted with a person in the last 3 years that wasn’t on tumblr about some discourse: AcTUALLY QU**R IS A SLUR

[chesh-ires-deactivated20210426]

also happy pride remember that:

cishet was coined to mean cisgender heteroromantic heterosexual

aces can’t be cishet, as they are asexual

aros can’t be cishet, because they are aromantic

aces and aros deserve to be loved, accepted, and understood

aces and aros don’t deserve the nasty things aphobes say they deserve

troll blogs love demonising ace and aro people by pretending to be one and y’all fall for it every god damn time

aces and aros aren’t confused, incomplete, or broken

aces and aros aren’t cringy

feel free to add onto this if you want

[biggerb0at]

it doesnt matter what you think if we should or shouldn’t be in because we have been in this comunity for a long time longer than you finding out about it.

[yamchass]

cishet is literally a term created by trans straight people to point out the differences between us and cishets and misusing our terminology to mean ace/aro people to further ur exclusionary agenda is disgusting

[madmeoww]

Trans ppl looking to get surgery:

Just so yall know, there’s a great website called transbucket where people can post before and after pictures of their top and bottom surgeries with info on who their surgeon was, what the cost was, how they like it, and a place for more detailed comments. It’s free. U gotta create a login to view the pictures and post, which is kinda nice for privacy reasons. Oh and I think it’s mostly for americans, but I could be wrong

pls reblog this so other ppl can see it

[lgbt-shitcourse]

I made a vent about something and I haven’t posted it yet (and i’m afraid to tbh cuz I don’t want the person I’m venting about to see) and now I’m just feeling serious gender dysphoria at this point

I was gonna say pain about my nonbinary-ness but I searched up what Nonbinary Dysphoria is and OOF.  

[lgbt-shitcourse]

God it might be because I’m in a bad mood I am so sick of people whining about their opinions getting attacked/responded to as if it’s a personal attack on them

(I mean this on mostly non-important stuff.) 

If you have an opinion someone’s gonna disagree with you. You can either A. interact or B. don’t. The passive aggressive shit “Well THAT was a mistake” or “Well I can’t have a different opinion/talk about my opinions apparently” is so fuckign annoying. If you openly talk about your opinions, someone’s going to comment on them. Not everyone agrees with you, and that’s really all you’re whining about. 

and like jesus this is a fucking discourse blog, the EPITOME and home of unwanted comments, and I’m saying this. I know what I subjected myself to when I started this blog. 

There’s a difference between wishing that everything wasn’t a debate or even complaining about things turning into debates when you really didn’t mean them to and whining about how people disagree with you when you post your opinion about something or talk about it out loud

[lgbt-shitcourse]

i just recently realized that i’m asexual and i’m struggling so much with it. my partner doesn’t know and i know that sex is important to them. on top of that, it feels like everywhere i look, people just really hate aspec people. so idk i’m feeling bad ab my sexuality and identity- can i have some mfn validation

Hey anon, the best of luck to you. I’m sorry I didn’t respond earlier, been a lot of stress in my life lately and I don’t check this blog often! But you are so fuckin valid my dude. I know that sounds sillier than I mean it to but you are. I’ve had so many fears dating as I’ve gotten more comfortable with the thought because of my aceness.There are so many of us out there though. More than a lot of people realize. Even if supposedly 1% of the population is Ace or on the spectrum (I’ve seen this one floating around) that would mean a whopping 75,270,000 people are ace. There are plenty of aces in relationships with Allosexual people as well. I’m not sure just how important it is to your partner, but just becauxe they’re allo and sex is important to them doesn’t mean they don’t love you and that will be a problem. Here’s some LGBTQ+ blogs to follow if you’re on tumblr that are Ace/aro positive as well:This first one’s mine, this used to be my positivity blog but it got turned into discourse oof: https://lgbpositivi-t.tumblr.com/This one had the same name idea as I did lol: https://lgb-positivi-t.tumblr.com/Here’s more:https://a-spec-asexual.tumblr.com/https://ace-and-aro-wlw-positivity.tumblr.com/

https://rose-sapphic.tumblr.com/

and this is a link to a bunch of others, lol: 

https://ace-and-aro-wlw-positivity.tumblr.com/post/179812005383/blog-rec-masterpost

I wish the best for you though, anon, and I hope things are going well! 

[tracecourse]

let me be 100% clear: this is not a discourse post. if you try to make this about discourse, i will block you.

i'm so fucking upset. exclusionists need to be able to put their stupid discourse aside and have compassion and respect for asexual people. us existing isn't discourse. the people trying to bring up ace discourse and create an imaginary argument about whether a 17-year-old ace girl's gruesome murder was an act of aphobia is absolutely disgusting and disrespectful beyond words.

(i'm not saying her name because this post isn't about her, it's about your behavior. i've seen this shit a lot but this is by far the worst and i'm distressed by this whole situation.)

these are comments in the notes of a post spreading awareness of her murder. op was asexual, and mentioned that they learned about the victim because she submitted her photos to an ace blog that op created.

these comments are so out of line, uncalled for, and disrespectful.

someone was murdered, and you're using it as an excuse to argue that aphobia doesn't exist. fuck you. how fucking transparent can you get that you don't give a shit about us, and genuinely aren't able to see us outside of a discourse lens?

WE'RE PEOPLE, ACTUAL PEOPLE, NOT A DISCOURSE TOPIC!

this is not a discourse post because asexual people existing isn't discourse. respecting us and our identities and our lives isn't discourse. me pointing out that you are incapable of showing compassion to asexual people isn't discourse, and if you can't understand that, you are who this post is about. fuck all of you.

[soacethetic]

Whenever I hear “but I support LGBT aces/aros” I’m always waiting for the “—as long as u never mention being ace or aro.”

Bc exclus don’t support LGBT aces/aros, they begrudgingly support LGBT people in spite of their asexuality or aromanticism.

U can’t say u support LGBT aces/aros, but then mock our experiences, argue the validity of our identities, equate us with cishets, turn us into jokes, call us homophobic/transphobic, call us sick, sexualise us, infantilise us, or dictate the specifics of our lives or how our ace/aro identities interact with our LGBT identities. U just can’t.

[lgbt-shitcourse]

Not to vent but exclusionism in general as an ideal in the LGBTQ+ community is fucking terrifying. You don’t get to tell or police who comes to pride or considers themselves a part of the community. Full stop. Period. Rather you agree with them or not. 

and I know that for me, like many other kids, (I’m 23 now but when I started interacting with the LGBTQ+ community on here I was probably 15-17.) Tumblr was the only LGBTQ+ community I can safely interact with while being closeted, and to know that the politics have shifted to exclusionist bullshit back when it was a way more accepting community beforehand is genuinely frightening.

Everyone always says they hate the “cishet aces” (Which, if you know the definition of Cishet, it’s impossible to have cishet aces or aros). but I can’t tell you how many times I and plenty of other LGBTQ+ aces (By their standards nonetheless) have been targeted. Rather it be posts about ace discourse or just random ace positivity posts.

Look now. There are people in the ace positivity tag posting the murder pictures of Bianca Devins because they knew she was ace. I know that exclusionists will separate themselves from the whole thing (as they are now probably.) but the fact that it’s even happening is just proof that this is a way bigger fucking problem than they’ll ever admit it to be. It's not just some “Tumblr Discourse” bullshit. 

The fact her death has become a discourse in it’s self fucking terrifying and disgusting. She doesn’t deserve that and I feel wrong even bringing it up. I’m gonna stop talking about it now.

I know there’s lots of aspec accepting people in the community but I’m worried about the kids on here. There’s no doubt that a bigger chunk of exclusionists on here are 13-16 year olds and it’s just unacceptable that we’ve failed them like this. There never should’ve been a debate on if aspec people are LGBTQ+. It should’ve been hushed WAY before it did all this damage to both the LGBTQ+ and Aspec communities. 

[lgbt-shitcourse]

I'm sorry to vent here I just feel like I don't have anywhere else to go

for a while I was actually debating on coming out to my dad but I got a reminder today as to why not We had a fun start to the day but he got mad at my brother for not responding to a message he sent a few days ago and went on a vent about how he keeps quiet about being mad about how he’s gay and about his furry art thought he “had a man he could talk to” and how his bloodline ends now because he’s not gonna have a kid with his boyfriend and it felt like a punch to the chest.

The bloodline thing always confused me. He’s upset because “his legacy ends here” with my brother because he doesn’t want kids. When I was still wanting to have kids I tried to uplift him or explain that my sister and I would prolly have kids but I’m a girl so my kids wouldn’t “continue his bloodline”

It reminded me why I never wanted to talk about my sexuality and gender with him though and was miserable when I was younger. I don’t know what I’m going to do if I ever happen fall in love with a girl. Eventually if we were together it’d have to come out to him.

No one wanted to piss him off any more than he was so they didn’t say anything. I don’t want to risk my well being to say anything either. but yeah, its back to happy cheery its okay now that the rants over with but I’m just fucked up and hurting. He’d never accept it. I thought he was changing with how he talked about it christmas time with my brother but now I see it’s all preformative bullshit, and it hurts.

On top of this I feel like he’s just mad because my brother didn’t want to be his god damn therapist. I have to listen to him all the time but this particular time he “needed a man to vent to” even though it was about literally the same shit he’s been talking to me about. I can’t even remember time wise the last time I was outwardly and verbally upset about something, but I remember getting yelled at for it by him.

Plus when he was bitching about the furry art it was about how he was “Smarter than that” and that he “could do better” and stuff, and then I heard “Same with ___” which I’m 100 percent certain meant me because I’m the only other one who doesn’t have a job and does art online. He won’t let me get a job because “he needs me around the house more than the money.” (not even considering that I stay inside all the fucking time in a dead fucking town where I have NO friends and have for 5 fucking years and maybe want something to bust up the monotony.) College feels too overwhelming and stressful for me. I don’t even know what I’d major in. I wanted to have some sort of Music major but felt like that would’ve been too hard to achieve. (not the degree, a successful career) Now I’m just kinda lost and have no idea what I’d want to do for my life, and certainly don’t want to fry my brain like High school did,  but at this point I think it’s the only way I”m gonna be able to move out. I can’t get a job to afford moving (as if an entry level job would pay much to begin with.) We’re living paycheck to paycheck. I just feel stuck.

I can’t be out. I can’t get a job because he doesn’t want me to. I can’t get a car because we can’t afford it, can’t go see friends because I never have time and can’t afford it. I can’t do this. I can’t do that. I try to help but I can’t do that. I need money to do half the things I want to but I can’t get a job because he needs me at home more. Can’t even do it to just help the family. I don’t even know why I try anymore. I feel like I”m gonna fucking rot away here. I know what I have to do is just ignore him and live my life anyway but it’s so fucking hard to do that, especially when any big stress has been making him seriously sick and have exacerbations. It was easier for my siblings to leave (as he did similar things to them.) because he wasn’t as sick, but I feel like I”m stuck because he is.

and then being gay and nonbinary and hearing his homophobic and transphobic shit is just the cherry on top of the shitshake. creme de la creme of the pain.

I can feel my brain shutting down from stress. I’m gonna go take a nap.

[lgbt-shitcourse]

I’d say all exclusionists share 1 brain cell but that’d be too generous