We Believe You

Unmasking (and recovery from) narcissistic, psychological, mental, and emotional abuse and gas-lighting in everyday life, and in the BDSM community. - infp

[angelaeleni]

It is easy to feel like you’re being rude when you’re actually setting healthy boundaries.

Here’s your reminder that you’re not being rude, you’re respecting yourself! You are doing is necessary for your mental wellbeing and self-growth.

[unwelcome-ozian]

“Gas lighting is mind control to make victims doubt their reality.” ― Tracy Malone

[narcopathicabuse]

[rabbitloser]

Keep doing this amazing job! I believe in you!

[lifting-the-veil]

Best said in the narcissist’s own words.

[lifting-the-veil]

[always-live-in-the-sunshine-dea]

“I want someone to notice when my smile is fake, when I’m staring off in the distance and I’m a million miles away. I want someone to notice that I’m not alright, hold me, and tell me that they’re here for me.”

— S//

[lifting-the-veil]

This hit me deep

[minuty]

[feelling-you]

“Find someone who loves you well. Someone who never belittles you. Even in the heat of an argument. Someone who is gentle with you, but doesn’t treat you like you are fragile. Someone who knows what you’re capable of, and celebrates those pieces of you. Not someone who is intimidated by your strength. Someone who doesn’t make you feel guilty for being flawed. It is not love’s job to punish you. And remember the person you love is just as broken as you are when they fall short. No one is perfect – don’t hold them to this standard. Find someone who is patient, forgiving, and apologetic. Someone who practices forgiveness freely and often. Love someone who is humble, kind, and empathetic. Not only with you, but with a beggar on the street, or a stranger in the supermarket. Common courtesy is important. Compassion is important. Kindness is important”

—

[positivelyg4y]

[lifting-the-veil]

[narcopathicabuse]

[lullaby-lockscreens]

Some positive lockscreens♡

[kindnotestoself]

[it’s okay to be different] [you deserve happiness]

[lifting-the-veil]

[furiousgoldfish]

abuser, trying their hardest to guilt trip me: Yeah it's all my fault isn't it! I'm the true evil! I'm the worst person alive! I was the one who did *something they really did* and it's all my fault that you did *something you reacted with to their abuse*! I should be sent to hell for everything I do! I only want others to live in misery! Everything is my fault!

me: so finally throwing in some truth into the mix are we

[lifting-the-veil]

[dear-yandere]

Just wanted to ask you something! I was reading some of your works and “gaslighting” comes up a lot. I get it’s being manipulative kinda but how exactly is it different? Is it kinda like guilt tripping? Can you please give a short explanation and maybe a bit of an example? 🥰

tw. gaslighting

It can be guilt-tripping, but it’s often worse than that. Gaslighting is emotional abuse that involves making the other person feel like everything they believe is wrong and that everything the gaslighter says is right. It’s blatant lying, but the gaslighter denies any wrongdoing or falsehood and instills seeds of doubt in the gaslightee’s head, making them question everything they thought they knew, even things they once knew were fact.

“Gaslighting takes aim squarely at a person’s sense of self-confidence, gradually whittling away at it until they are left questioning whether what they experience, think, and feel is real or some fantasy their mind has made up.” (Source)

For example, a manipulative yandere could convince his darling that he’s not abusive, but rather that he’s helping darling cope with all the other abusive people in their life.

“Ah… I heard your sister gossiping about you the other day, she said some pretty mean things… I’m sorry you had to deal with that, darling.”

“What? My sister and I are on good terms–”

“Shh.. some people only show their true colors behind your back. It’s better to cut them off, don’t you think?”

“W-what? But she–”

“It’s alright, love, I’m here for you. I’m all you need.”