Lil Honey Bunny

18+ only 30, chubster, stoner, bi, Daddy's lil angel

[lil-honeybun]

It's so interesting how much security in a relationship can change everything. In the past the idea of my lover with someone else made my stomach turn. Now I can watch my man's cock go in and out of other women and it's the hottest shit in the fucking world.

There's even been times I didn't get fucked at all. I would just watch him fuck her and I'd be touching her and myself at the same time. There was one time I was trying to do homework in the other room and he was fucking this girl in our bed. I only made it 10 min before I had to join. It's been awhile since we played with another girl, so lately, I just watch porn and pretend it's him fucking the girl ❤

Idk there's just something so romantic about sharing my man with another girl. And I feel this bond with her that's really sweet too. Plus it gives me a chance to be with a girl but I don't have to do it alone. I'm hoping we can do it again soon.

[rezinball]

[onelittlekingdom]

Hi, I was hoping you could help me. A bit ago I met up with consensualpredator3rd and unfortunately I didn't have a great time. I regret meeting him for several reasons but the big ones are 1) He got to the hotel and started the scene immediately without saying anything or verifying he was who he said he was. We never talked about how the scene would start and he grabbed my neck right after walking in the door and started smacking me. 2) He popped my jaw smacking me 3) I shut down and just went along with it and he didn't do a consent check in and make sure I was still good. 4) His safeword system was inconsistent and he got really pissed when I called red to the point where I wanted to leave but I was scared to do so. 5) He got mad when I asked him to delete my pictures because I just didn't want him to have them anymore and he never gave proof of deleting them.

Maybe I'm the only one who had a bad experience with him, but I talked to someone and he said that these were all red flags. All I want is for no one else to get hurt like I did.

May 14, 2021: Friday Morning

Good Morning Anon.

I’m very sorry for your experience, and we appreciate you sharing it with us today. From the final statement in your ask, I can tell that you are shopping around this encounter to get feedback from people so you can get a better understanding of what has happened to you. I’m happy to tell you what I think, based on what you’ve expressed.

1. He got to the hotel and started the scene immediately...

Consent based encounters start with discussion and negotiation. Unless it was agreed upon before hand that the scene would start upon your entrance, (which you say it was not) it’s a fucked up way to start a scene with someone new, and was your first huge red flag of your experience. 🚩

2.  started the scene immediately without saying anything or verifying he was who he said he was.

How completely terrifying. There is no way a consent based experience should start this way. Once again, unless this was agreed upon, this is neither dominant or human behavior. Second huge red flag. 🚩🚩

3.  and he grabbed my neck right after walking in the door and started smacking me.

No. Without introducing himself? Upon entering? Undiscussed and unnegotiated? Completely fucked up. Red Flag. 🚩🚩🚩

4. He popped my jaw smacking me

So you walked in and he just started whaling on you, and hard enough that he popped your jaw. I'm going to guess there was no check in there, as there seems to be no concern for your comfort or safety anywhere in the encounter you are describing, so another red flag. 🚩🚩🚩🚩

5. I shut down and just went along with it and he didn't do a consent check in and make sure I was still good.

I understand your response as someone who was actively being abused. Considering the activities you're describing, it's inexcusable that you wouldn't be checked in with many times throughout the encounter, especially as someone new to him. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

6. His safeword system was inconsistent and he got really pissed when I called red to the point where I wanted to leave but I was scared to do so.

An inconsistent safe word system = no safe word system. A safe word is something that must be reacted to strongly and immediately every time it's uttered. There can be no inconsistency in consent based encounters. Anger in response to a safe word being implemented is not dominant behavior. People who get angry at safe words tend to be abusers, misogynists, and/or narcissists. An inconsistent safe word system is a huge red flag. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

7. He got mad when I asked him to delete my pictures because I just didn't want him to have them anymore and he never gave proof of deleting them.

When you give someone pictures of yourself you are doing that with consent. You should be able to revoke consent and ask them to delete them without any push back or drama. Anyone who acts pissy or won't give you the peace of mind of knowing you did what they asked you to do is not a dominant. Definite red flag behavior. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Here are some final thoughts:

* If you uttered your safeword and it didn't stop the scene, you were raped.

* A dominant will make you feel safe in a scene, even when it's an intense or CNC scene. Having an intense BDSM scene is about creating the illusion of fear and danger, not about actually putting you in a state of fear and danger.

* A dominant will have a rock solid view of consent and will be very concerned about that being reflected in every scene they have with you.

* Again, what you describe is a terrifying and traumatizing scene full of red flags and consent violations. I hope you learn and heal from it, and I hope some of what I said helps you to recover from it.

JD

[consensualpredator3rd]

Someone sent me this, and at first I thought it was one of my many haters bleeding out beyond just sending me hate mail and making up fake shit.

However, the more I went over it trying to figure out if there was someone who matched up with the unusual details, I think I know who this person is (90% sure) and if it was them, we did meet so I should address this.

First of all, it saddens me any time someone doesn’t enjoy meeting with me, it’s rare but when you play with dozens of dozens like I have it happens occasionally.

However, this person is being disingenuous by omission and leaving out context.

This person contacted me asking me to take their virginity. We made plans for her to stop and get a room on her way down to college.

Their jaw was popped because they had a previous medical condition and it was prone to do so. They did not share this information with me until after it had happened. Any medical or psychological issues that may come up in a scene always need to be disclosed in advance for exactly this reason.

I’m a consensual non consent player. It is extreme edge play. I am known and sought out for my intensity and aggression. It’s well advertised, and present in many write ups done by people who have done scenes with me. I’m not a daddy dom. She knew all of this.

I texted her from the parking lot as soon as I arrived. I made at least two trips back to my car before we started. I’m not sure how she can construe this as not introducing myself.

I’m also not sure how my safeword system was “inconsistent” but it is true I didn’t use the check in part. I didn’t need to, she stopped the scene extremely frequently. You’ll notice she never claims I did not stop when she called “red”, because I did. Every time, and it was a lot of times. Pretty much every hit and even basic vanilla sex was too much for her.

In my opinion, this person wasn’t physically, mentally, or emotionally ready to have sex. Especially BDSM of any type. I definitely wasn’t the right choice for her, being on the more extreme end of the scale for that type of play.

It was her room, and she could have asked me to leave at any time. I actually offered to leave, once it was clear she couldn’t handle it. She asked me to stay.

We cut the scene short, and she talked to me about her mother, sister, and father. I listened and gave support. I often end up in a makeshift psychologist role, and I feel it’s my duty to provide that aspect of aftercare when people need it.

We went out to pick up calzones, came back to eat and watch Sherlock. We spent upwards of four hours of me listening to her problems and feelings.

And I’m glad. She needed that.

There were lots of opportunities for her to have me leave. She asked me to stay. We sat in her car the next morning after checkout, I don’t remember if we went to breakfast.

I’m not out to invalidate someone’s experience, but I don’t feel I’m being represented fairly in her account. Her jaw being predisposed to popping, insinuating (but stopping short of claiming) that I didn’t respond to safewords, not mentioning that we stopped the scene or any of the aftercare (especially when she got the gold star therapy version) leaves a lot of context out and doesn’t give a complete understanding of the experience.

I always respond to safewords, and I responded and stopped every time she called it.

[certifiedweirdoyo-deactivated20]

Any self proclaimed ‘intense’ Dom who plays on the ‘extreme end of the scale’ who not only arranges to meet up with a random virgin who contacted them on tumblr but then proceeds to play with them on their very first time meeting without proper talks is a fucking predator.

You had fuck all care about that girls well being from the get go. There should have been no frequent stops in the scene because she called RED. YOU as the apparent experienced one, YOU as the one in fucking charge should have ended that shit well before it could be frequent. It’s clear as day from your own account in your own damn words that it was obvious she was in over her head.

I can’t actually believe the amount of egotistical self back patting in your response when you’re telling on yourself THAT much.

[knives-and-kink]

Isn't it an experienced Dom(me)'s priority to make sure that their submissive is mentally/physically/emotionally ready to engage in such an intense scene long before they are in any position to actually do so?

From what I've read and seen people like @onelittlekingdom & @instructor144 say that kind of scene is something that needs to be worked up to rather than it being the immediate first experience.

[instructor144]

Yep. First principle: no playtime at the first meeting. PG-13 and PUBLIC. Second principle:even when your partner is experienced, you work up the intensity GRADUALLY, over the course of several get togethers. Any "Dom" who doesn't know and insist on these basic principle isn't worth a bucket of warm spit.

[itsallprimal]

@consensualpredator3rd

I am going let you all read this one part

RED. Called a lot of times.

Here there is nothing that can save your integrity.

If red is called once and then you continue, I am left with the visual that ther was coersion to continue.

DESPICABLE.

The fact that you recognized this " she wasn't ready" should have happened WELL before any scene. That you can discuss that and acknowledge that fact, makes this even worse.

This was a scene that should never have happened, poorly planed, and sorry "take my virginty"

Jesus, what does it take.... nevermind..

This anon and your response, in my community would have you banned from any events, blogs, community, for life.

This was not informed consent, this was coerced consent from the very beginning because you recognized the state of your partner. The blame falls solely upon you.

I would suggest before you continue you step back and truly reevaluate this situation, take time off from kink play. Make sure that you know what happened here and accept what is truly your responsibility and act accordingly.

@anon I am sorry this was your event. Make sure you reach out and get help to process this.

[delightfulsubg-deactivated20210]

This is horrible on so many levels.

As an “experienced dom,” don’t you think it was on you to ensure she, a virgin, understood what was about to happen? She had NO way of knowing what to expect. First call of red should have ended everything and began the aftercare process immediately. In this case more than any other due to her virginity, it was on you to end the scene and help her process.

A reputation for being rough is no excuse when the person you plan to meet has admitted they have no reference point since they’ve never had an experience.

Consent= informed, enthusiastic and un-coerced agreement. There is no indication of that in your own version of events. This was fucking rape. I hope she presses charges.

[amysubmits]

I went to his blog to block him and he answered an ask about this situation which is more of the same, he definitely doesn’t ‘get it’. Repeats that he gave this girl a “therapy session” says she had a complete break down, says he often has to do that because he spends so much time with depressed people??? Clearly wants to be seen as altruistic for listening to her. Repeats that he isn’t a daddy dom. Claims this girl wouldn’t have enjoyed being with anyone. Takes no responsibility himself. 

If you have the view that you tend to attract “damaged” people - wouldn’t that be a reason to check yourself? Apparently to him its not. 

[anobedienceeducator]

I wasn't going to touch this but this... Is just disgusting.

#1 As A CNC player, and the experienced one YOU have the responsibility to measure the other's ability to deal with the situation. You should have switched the whole thing off the second you realized she wasn't ready or able to go through.

#2 RED IS RED. Safewording means that if SHE REALIZED SHE NEEDED IT TO STOP. You fucking stop EVERYTHING AND GO STRAIGHT INTO AFTERCARE. No matter what or who you think you are.

#3 Even if you did talked and she asked you to stay. They doesn't mean you had to keep going with what happened. AND YOU KNOW IT. You're a provider, you're there to give your asker what she needs. NOT what you want.

#4 Whoever blames her for it about red flags and everything: she was a novice. HE had to take reign of the situation. And stop it the second he knew she couldn't handle it. A more experienced person would have catched up that things weren't OK and would have killed the scene herself or dealt with it some other way. SHE DOESN'T HAVE THE TOOLS TO DO SO. making her go trough it is just traumatizing her for shits and giggles.

The Gist of the matter is that he did possibly irreparable damage to that girl, just for his pleasure. It wasn't CNC. It was abuse. Plain and simple.

[ravensubgirl]

This is an EXTREMELY IMPORTANT read. Please Read through all of this if you can this is so important to anyone who involves themselves with bdsm play. I wish I would have found information like this when I was first exploring and learning about this world.

[lil-honeybun]

I hate how if she did press charges, he would for sure get away with it because the justice system is absolute shit. She would be the one on trial. She would be blamed because she arranged it. Even tho this guy knew exactly what he was doing and thinks himself a decent guy because after abusing her he decided to hang around out of the goodness of his own heart 🙄 honestly just the fact he goes by 'the consensual predator' is cringey af on its own. He makes the illusion of consent by blaming her and her naivety even tho he capitalized on it.

[lil-honeybun]

Kinda a rollercoaster of emotions going on between grief and getting engaged but it feels nice to cry over something good for a change. So excited and nervous for all the wedding planning to come, but I'm already loving the idea of finally having a housewarming for the house we bought ALMOST 3 YEARS AGO 🤣 and having it also be an engagement party for our families to get together and meet finally! I just know we will all get along swimmingly. It's a good excuse to finally paint the rest of the house and finish hanging pictures. We can put in some new plants in the front and back yard. It would be awesome if we could put a new door in too. Hey maybe if we ask, a family member can supply the grill as an engagement gift? We can grill some fish, chicken and vegetables and get drunk. Theres so much to do to make that happen!

I am stressed about money..we still have a cruise credit we have to use, but im sure we will have to pay another few hundred to book it. We gotta put that in the next month. We are also trying to go to a friends wedding in NY in October. I wanted to visit my sister in Philly soon. W also have to start saving for our honeymoon. I know my mom is covering most of the wedding, which already makes me feel bad. Idk exactly what we can even afford..I feel like saving for the honeymoon will be hard enough on us. I want to do something really special for it.

There's a lot to be excited for but so much work ahead. I really need to get my spending under control..I started using my credit card for bills and it's hard to keep track how much I'm spending vs. How much im making. I'm not working nearly enough. That's another thing i need to change so we can save money. Idk I'm feeling like maybe the engagement is the push I need to get my shit together. I also have put off losing weight for years and now feel like I should take it more seriously. I want to wear a dress I truly love on my wedding day and i want to feel great in it..rather than picking whatever dress hides my fatness the best.

I have a lot of goals to work through and I guess it's good I have a therapist to help me process them and hopefully provide some organization and clarity.

[buzzcut-butch-deactivated202403]

A post I've been thinking about but yall need to realize men are just people. Gender and biological essentialism is still bad even when you apply it to men. Men aren't inherently evil or bad. Men are taught toxic masculinity and to be misogynistic (just as white people are taught to be racist) but they aren't inherently this way. This isn't meant to absolve them either. Men need to take responsibility for unlearning the toxic messages they have been taught. But like, honestly men are just people. They aren't inherently bad people.

[lil-honeybun]

Agreed! Sometimes I wonder what the worst of men could of have been if they were taught right

[kamedante]

Joyce Lee 👉joyceartworks

[milky-maid-deactivated20210204]

You know what’s always made me fucking sick tbh.

When men are quick to say yes about FFM threesomes but a hardcore no to MMF threesomes.

I understand preferences but have you ever considered the feelings of the women?

I mean cmon men seem to automatically assume that they’re gonna get all the attention in a FFM threesome. Bitch you are most likely are going to be cucked.

I mean let me tell you...with a FFM threesome I’m not gonna pay any attention to the man. If anything I’d make sure he did all the work. I’m not sucking your dick with the other girl until you let me have a MMF threesome where I can have double penetration. And if that’s too “gay” then fuck off.

[submissivefeminist]

[lil-honeybun]

Can I just say I prefer FFM bc daddy's the only man I'm attracted to, but i am attracted to all the girls. And I love sharing Daddy with a girl it's so intimate and idk loving in a weird way. once I'm committed to one man tho I kind of dont see other men in that sexual fashion. That being said he wants to do stuff with boys anyway so a MMF is possible if I wanted but honestly I'm not sure I'm as interested. Prob will just to have a new experience with Daddy ❤

[lavenderlion]

masculine curves

[lil-honeybun]

Pls dont ever change you beautiful bean

[female-to-twink]

Gays be like hey guys check out my new ink

[lil-honeybun]

Awe look at this cutie

[submissivefeminist]

Make her say good things about herself while you fuck her. Associate her pleasure with self confidence. Condition that bitch to love herself. 🥵🥵🥵

[lil-honeybun]

This is beautiful

[xxxhoekage]

💕✨☁️

[mrfr3aknasty69-deactivated20210]

Wat heaven looks like

[princess-hunni]

tan linezzz 😜

✨do not interact if you are under 18✨

[szporn]

[diaryofchylatte]

VAGINAS LOOK DIFFERENT!

This has been a PSA

[lyssamaxiscute-deactivated20180]

I love it 😁

[getrealgetrightbysufjanstevens]

Honestly the shaming of girls for having “boring missionary sex” or whatever is so messy… girls are constantly pressured into doing things they don’t want to by virtue of tastes shifting to more ‘kinky’ due to a disgustingly pornified culture and there’s nothing wrong at all with wanting sex with someone to be just about intimacy and closeness…

[organizedfresh]

Reblog forever. Destroy the idea that wanting sex that is primarily about intimacy, love, trust and respect is “vanilla” and therefore boring. Destroy the idea that participating in dangerous and degrading sex makes you more ‘interesting’ ‘evolved’ or ‘sexy’.

[lil-honeybun]

Also the kinky part of sex only really works when that intimacy, love and trust is already established, that's what makes it hot. At least for me

[yourmilkdoll]

when she spooky and thicc💀🦇

[lil-honeybun]

Hot damn

[fotoluv]

[submissivefeminist]

Do you think you could sit with your head in someone’s lap and just suck their cock slowly and casually without trying to make them cum/make it go further for more than a couple minutes?

Cockwarming is a concept I’ve been thinking about a lot lately and that’s basically the idea--holding a cock inside me without trying to fuck it or make them cum. I’m definitely up for the task, though I think it would definitely be difficult to restrain myself and make it last.

[lil-honeybun]

Omg i could never do that with my vageen, I'd literally cry lol but I love just holding it in my mouth. It's cute its called cockwarming 💕