I was recently asked, as part of a group discussion, what rules I have been given in my D/s dynamic. Oddly, it was a question I struggled with.
Not every dynamic is the same. Many are extremely structured, all the way down to the point of having every detail enumerated, even the end date. Some, have virtually no structure, though arguably that’s a little less like a dynamic and more like a vanilla or just a kinky relationship. Many fall somewhere in the middle.
I have rules. When and where necessary, or where they suit my Master. But we’ve never written them down. We’ve never really needed to. At the very beginning of our dynamic, I used to write down rules only because I was afraid I might forget one. If He gives me a list of things to do, I may make a written list. But other than that? Not really. Our dynamic, and the structure within which it operates, is in fact, dynamic. Communication and trust the foundation, bolstering each interaction. As my Master puts it, He trains the rules. It’s a much easier way for me to learn them, and if I happen to stray outside of my rules, my Master gently reminds me.
So when I was first asked the question, mentally I just shrugged and moved on. But the query stuck with me, and as often happens, my mind wrestled with the question. Slowly, I began to realize I could, in fact, list many of my rules.
Some are incredibly simple, some perhaps a bit less so. Some were harder to identify because they were never expressly stated, but implied (e.g., consistently asking “have you eaten?” and “how did you sleep?” not only shows His concern for my welfare but implies that I, too, need to take measures to keep myself in good health.
Each morning, my Master chooses my outfit (not just my panties, my whole outfit). In order for Him to be able to do this effectively, I must:
Maintain accurate and up-to-date albums containing my entire wardrobe.
Keep my laundry clean and put away.
Each morning, additionally, I have protocol I must perform. My Master notifies me of the protocol in advance. It is my responsibility to:
perform protocol as asked,
Send photos/videos of protocol if instructed, and
communicate any issues immediately or as soon as practicable.
Additionally, I send post-protocol photos to my Master each night.
During any task or scene, whether my Master is present or not, but especially if He is not:
If I experience any sort of pain or encounter any issue which may impact my safety in any way, I am to stop immediately and then inform my Master
Clear communication is vital. Accordingly:
Unless my Master specifically informs me that I have failed, I have not
Unless my Master tells me He is disappointed in me or my actions, He is not
I am to remember if my Master ever misses a prearranged call or check-in, it was unavoidable and He will explain when we next speak.
I am my Master’s, by choice and happily so. As such, I will:
Always treat Him with respect, in speech, through obedience, but also in my interactions with others. (This is not actually a rule He has given me, but it is, nonetheless, one I live by as I believe He has every right to expect it of me)
Keep myself in good health and at my best for my Master by eating, drinking and exercising sufficiently.
My orgasms belong to my Master. Whether, where, when and how they occur is entirely up to Him. His advance permission is required.
And so, yes I suppose I do have rules. They may not look like other subs’ rules but they don’t need to! They work perfectly for our dynamic and that’s the whole point.
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