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Growing up I was feeling like I'm perpetually in trouble for everything, I was responsible for siblings, etc I was living in a situation where even if I did everything right it would be so easy to be in trouble and be screamed at, makes it really hard to shake that feeling of "I'm in trouble" in the real world has an adult, because I want to need more than anything to never feel that feeling again and yet, that feeling lingers around so many things, that's going to take years to shake that off 😔

loveyourlovelysoul

if you've grown up with emotionally immature parents you may be struggling in your relationships and feel safe only when you're the one in control/caretaking. This is cause growing up you may have taken up the role of the caretaker in order to keep the peace. To the point that now you do more than your share: anticipating needs, fixing problems, holding it all together. All this teaches your romantic partner to stop looking for your needs at all, and leaves you wondering why no one ever shows up for you the way you do for them.

(this is an extract/summary from this post on ig by morganpommells: she focuses on romantic relationships but I think expecially this part can relate to other kinds of relationships too eg. friends, work, school, family...)

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audreyrosepromise28

Sometimes I'll feel really overwhelmed because emotions are so hard and then I remember that my whole life I was taught to fix others problems and the second anyone was upset it was my responsibility I was never taught how to actually emotionally regulate or like sit with my own emotions I was never told that those emotions are okay I was always told that everyone else is emotions were my responsibility but I wasn't supposed to have any