There’s a reason you see headmates on the internet and not in real life. And by internet, no, I do not mean just tumblr. (However, there has been a bigger system community on tumblr growing through the years)
In real life, you pilot one body. No matter who’s out, you’re going to see the same person because what people see is your body. Even with personality differences, it’s hardly notice because what people memorize is your face. Unless you blatantly contradict yourself, no one will suspect that you’re more than one person.
Of course, people will know you’re a system if you openly tell them about it. But because of the stigma of people put on us (namely, neurotypicals), a lot of systems would be closeted. Because honestly, who would want to be called delusional, fake, going through a phase, or even institutionalized?
The internet offers a place where you won’t be judged for your meat vessel, because unless you actually post it, people will not see it. People will only see the text you type, and the images you post. And because they do not see your body, but for your personality.
And because the internet gives you a sense of anonymity, you have “weird” communities popping up. Otherkin, vampirism, LGBT, hell even bronies because they are looked down on the outside world. (Disclaimer: I do not like bronies.)
And I know there are a lot of singlets who consider themselves “normal people” and look at this “headmate” thing as a trend. They haven’t seen how you act in real life. They haven’t seen you harm yourself because a bad headmate was fronting. They haven’t seen you black out and not realize what just happened in the last few hours. They don’t know your experiences. What they see is a singlet who wants to become popular by blending into a tumblr bandwagon. Hell, some of them don’t even think multiples with DID/OSDD (or namely, any type of neurodivergency) can go on the internet, make a blog, and make a community with its own terms. (And this mainly has to do with mentally ill people not having autonomy over their own lives.)
As a last word, I think I’ll say this. Singlets, recognize that you do not know what these people’s lives are like and that you might never know. You do not know their brain chemistry and you do not know how their brain works. Every brain is different, and it works differently for you then it does to them, and that not everyone can fit into a perfect mold of what you consider “normal.”
TLDR: There’s headmates trending on the internet because they can’t reveal themselves IRL.
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