It’s 1am. I just wanted to wake up, smoke a blunnie, get some morning head & then go back to bed. Bruh, that’s far from what occurred.
We argued, ALL DAY Monday. Then yesterday a little, but I stopped that by “don’t respond to me unless you want to address this” which became hours later & an unrelated conversation. Okay. So, unresolved, *again*.
Tonight though…tonight I was listening to him boohoo about how “other men” (gave an example of some guy also?) can afford to pay for their bills and keep themselves alive and yadda yadda…same shit, different day. This man ✨has insurance✨ and I am his therapist. Please, how do I get paid for this role? I only signed up for the girlfriend…
I am on edge. I am so very close to manic…that uncomfortable energy where…it’s there, you only need one teensy tiny little shove. It’s building, like hunger pains, that bubbling feels in your throat like you gotta burp or some shit (I don’t make the rules), but no matter what you do, that knotty ball will NOT go away. One manic episode, coming right up.
I literally went for just the tips on my hair for blonde…urhmmmm it’s more like some sorta grown-out or balayage (???) look maybe? Idk I thought it was cute I’ll post the pic here I probably really fucked it up though lmaoo oh well it’s hair whatever so yeah, that’s the edge of oblivion speaking because I would so shave it off rn
Anywayyyyyy so this bitch is complaining (I’m sorry, I am pissed and he’s being a bitch and that is what I shall refer to him as because bitch…LISTEN. Homeboy over here is complaining about “guys” being able to afford shit out here who don’t even deserve it & I just KNEW it was going to eventually lead to the lines of, “Well Tyler and his whole family are literally scamming the healthcare system & making a killing but I can’t afford to provide for my family.”
I started gently, I swear.
But he spoke over me, THEN told me to shut the fuck up. What was I saying, you ask? Oh, just that none of those guys were better than him just because they can afford shit. That just means that they get paid more because they either know someone or kiss someone’s ass or they’re just using credit cards bro. NONE of these guys are better. You have to acknowledge that it’s your job. <<~~AND me not having a job so I can chase my dreams? KILLING ME INSIDE BRO, the guilttttt but he wants to give me my dreams so bad~~>> I’ve been applying even though I know I will have break downs every single day. I won’t be able to handle it, I can barely fucking handle the grocery store. I’m so overwhelmed, I’m literally sitting here silently typing with hot ass tears streaming down my face wtf is my life? Stupid, that’s what.
The “shut the fuck up” sent me. Ohhhhhh boy. No no no no Joe, we are NOT doing that. And that condescending tone, the accent on the U in fuck, like you’ve ever heard someone say it like that in real life bitch get outta here you have NO GROUNDS to stand upon, acting like you’re fucking better than me, coupled with that James Franco bullshit up & down look with the stank face — verily screaming that he is “more than” me. Bitch no.
I threw the blunt at him (still lit? Idk maybe), threw the lighter at him (both at tummy level where he’s thickest), and I told him don’t tell me to shut the fuck up and stormed off. I did slam the bedroom door. Sue me. They literally make bombs and shit down there & leave parts of their fucking car repairs laying all over the god damn parking lot, I am pissed and he KNEW WHAT HE WAS DOING. He didn’t like what I was saying, even though I was watching my tone, watching the language, trying to build him up while still letting him hear the “unfortunately your job doesn’t pay that much but you decided to stay when you could’ve left”, he got big emotions over that & thought he could control me and shut me down.
THEN HE TOOK THE BLUNT AND OUT IT IN HIS BEDSIDE TABLE AND HELD THE FUCKING DRAWER CLOSED WHEN I SAID “oh hell no, absolutely not you aren’t hiding shit from me just because you’re big mad”
After yanking that shit outta his hands because I do not care about physical possessions, it’s the god damn audacity that he would take the blunt that I bought with my VERY LIMITED MONEY (the rest of it, to the last dime; I have one dime) for us to SHARE because “we’re a team and my money is yours and blahblahblah”. Okay. Sooooo, when you take the blunt that I was coming back into the kitchen to smoke with you while NOT shutting the fuck up (triggered me will give you the hard pill and force that shit down your throat like you’re a god damn dog refusing to take his meddies) & you take that blunt and try to hide it from me to shut me up??? Uh-uh bubba, now you have set the divide - yours vs. mine - and baby that is MINE so give it to me and I will do the thing you were SCARED I was going to do, smoke it and not offer you a single fucking but while you pout in the bed room after being fucking demolished with the truth.
I cannot be kind any more, and I fucking hate it.
I was trying to be kind. So fucking hard. I deal with bullies all the fucking time, but whatever. He’s not supposed to be one of them, but here we are, another cause for my motherfucking anxiety & depression.
Only this time I’ve done it to myself by quitting my fucking job and having a mental break down and not seeking medical attention and continuing to not seek medical attention because I do not have insurance and I cannot afford the bills for the doctors because no one wants to buy my work soooooooo. Yeah. I’ve got nada. I cannot afford to take care of myself or my child because I believed the hype from my friends & strangers about my art, and the promise from Joseph that he was going to do more - apply for a better paying department in the city, get his CDL, other things - and that I could quit my job if I seriously needed to, follow my dreams, etc. For the mental health, huzzah!! He wanted nothing more than that Nuclear Family bullshit, hybrid type where I was a little artist and he was “The Manly Male Man Making the Bacon” type shit, like his father & his father before him.
Only, this is 2026 and we live in America so like…maybe this will NEVER work unless you work some bullshit job that steals your fucking soul (like you already do but continue to choose over all else).
He’s got anxiety & all this, but he’s also a hypochondriac, self-admitted, that he will worry about a thing so hard until he’s proven it’s not that serious. I keep applying to jobs behind his back. A friend offered to pay me to take her to appointments and shit, I mean I might as well 🤷🏻♀️
I just keep telling him that if he’s worried about having to chat with others & be their “friend”, then he could just get a forklift job in a warehouse & then he’d only have to talk to select people. Or he could deliver shit if I Truly do make him want to improve so badly that he could overcome his anxiety and drive again if he needed to for a job. Bröther…you need to if you want this little dream of yours to work with my little dream.
My dreams are expensive. I need donors but I’ll never get them. I am literally a starving artist. He asked me earlier how do I have such a beautiful body & I was like, “auhhhhhh…starvation?” It wasn’t funny to him. Sorry bro, I’m depressed. Dark humor is what you get when you ask sexual BULLSHIT when you know FROM OUR PREVIOUS ARGUMENTS per the texts I told you not to respond to until you sit with it and understand it. You have not responded to EITHER of those very long & detailed accounts of where the fuck I’m coming from, part 256, because you never listen to the shit I say.
I just need to be single.
Or I need a donor or whatever you call it, sponsor???
I need that so I can supply myself with a tiny rental property with a room for my son (some little shitty house in the sticks somewhere), a baby greenhouse that I’ll build myself, space to do art & put my meager belongings, and no one fucking with my mental health. I am SO FUCKING SICK OF HUMAN BEINGS because of a select *few* dipshit human beings who REFUSE to utilize their fucking brain yet claim to love me and then sit here and REFUSE to use his insurance to get therapy and medication for the bullshit mental health (anger problems) they have, meanwhile I am ✨literally✨ cracking from the pressure AGAIN because I too need therapy and medication but I literally cannot afford them and I cannot go to get them because I need to be available for him and also I just am so fucking overwhelmed that I need someone to go with me
And he’s quickly becoming someone I do not want around and this saddens me even more and I tell him that and I beg him to please work on the things I’ve begged of him, simple things that are literal bare minimum, like respecting boundaries and ptsd triggers and things like that, and he can’t even be bothered and honestly I am fucking STUCK STUCK my dudes I have NOTHING, I sold my SUV and now have a fucked up tiny car (driver door won’t open because Declan hit it with the gator that Joseph was letting him drive…I should not have allowed it, it’s my fault as the adult here) with a car payment I cannot afford, I sold my electronics, everything so that we could get this place, so that we could have a home.
I’m VERY stuck and have no way out and I cannot afford anything and this car will be towed. He’s literally paying for everything and I am seeing all of these red flags and the alarm bells are going off because the shit he’s saying the way he’s ignoring triggers because he just doesn’t seem to be bothered to care I cannot.