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20 minutes (and 5 minutes already gone for research) or marching-me
... the research - obviously in itself something useful, or rather could have been if planned properly ...
But stop! I am diving all in today. I am really motivated, my music is pumping and marching forward today and with it: me.
Plenty of things going on in my head today.
In the beginning I missed my first appointment in the morning, came an hour late... Beautiful! (sarcasm, ok:-)
Well and after not being able to talk about my inner-self or “me”, I had to go back to the office, late for nothing.
Today was a weired day. Well actually it all started yesterday, but I dont know if that really matters, as I haven't been able to process it properly yet.
But what I observed is that I am creating boundaries - well I am trying. Trying to stand up for them, without making a big deal about it.
So maybe thats what I want to talk about today. About boundaries? Or is it more about the book I am reading (since a while now actually), but I always come back to it. Its about ADD.
And maybe its both. What a pickle if you could see my inside at the moment -back and forth, back and forth - about what do I want to write? Back - forth - back - forth, OR “inside my head is a little voice with a Halo around it” I tell you about the “Speech”- and personality lessons I am taking. :-)
I am very confused today, haven't been able to clean up my desk and work one by one, but did so many things again. Still so much more to go and nothing done. ... I haven't felt like this for a while.
Confused, great, pumping, obsessed with my friend in my head (again), happy, sad, wanting, needing. If I could energy would flow out of my body, out of my hands, out of my mouth, around people, swirling ...
20 minutes up ... Damn.
only 10 Minutes (ok its 20 minutes)
hey again, well believe it or not I have been meaning to write and had so much to say and there I am and ... nothing ... . Well maybe not nothing... but nothing really important.
But as I read the other day, apparently writing, just starting and letting it flow for 10 minutes everyday is supposed to be real good.
So thats what I am doing today and sharing :-).
Ah but now I do remember what I wanted to write about.
Its the weird change I am sort of having... its transition at its best. I am temporarily extreme annoyed by people. And I dont mean just one or two people, but actually everyone.
Today I sat with my dad, cause he invited me for breakfast... and there I was sitting and moping and being frankly a little shit. Why...? Well, because he got on my nerves. The way he puts the unused cup on to the other table and with it his napkin, which he rubbed his nose with. The way he asks me everyday, the same F**** question. ... (I hate when I say that that annoys me, makes me feel ungrateful and more annoyed with myself.) But it really really gets under my skin, the minute he asks how my boyfriend is, which he does daily I could freak out! Its ridiculous I know. But what to do... ?
Then my beloved colleague came and her talk about the same shit over and over .. well that kind of got me going inside. And the other one, who always... ALWAYS needs to also have a story. The story will always be slightly better than yours and definitely not letting anybody-else talk meanwhile.
And yesterday... the girls. Well two of them really had me. With totally different things. One because of her, well I’ll say it frankly unbelievable ignorance for “Life” or ... normal peoples jobs?
... uh shit 10 minutes are over ... but I am not. I just keep going 10 more minutes.
And the other, because of her issue(s) with money. Whereas, while I am writing this I am realising, it is actually my problem at the moment. PUH ...
Maybe all these people kind a annoy me, because I am just generally annoyed? With myself? Cause I spend to much money and my plan is sort of not working yet.
What the heck ... Worst thing is knowing that at the end of the day one is the little shit in the whole story. But thats just the way it is sometimes. I am really trying to learn exactly this. Acceptance for being a little shit.
So 20 minutes are over believe or not. It has been great! Thanks
the me-mediocrity - realisation
me-mediocrity ...
Love that word! Well, don't love it, I feel it.
I felt inspired to share today.
So i went to this (o rather a) womens network event. And after arriving we had to look for our groups. We finally arrived, all of us 6 ladies in between mid 20ies and end 40ies.
The first lady started to talk and BAM.. she was something. With beginning of her 30ies, she became something like a senior editor and then soon after she became “the boss”. the boss of a whole magazine! One that I know. She then dropped her safe and sound job, to go found her own “start up” company with which is successful in her 3rd year. A very strong personality, opinionated but you can feel the vibe around her, it pulsates, there is so much energy, so much of a women. Someone who is concentrated, maybe even a fixated on her job. And even though I don't want to change with her. I don't want to be her. She is definitely no mediocre person.
The next one was different but also great. On a totally different level. She reminded me of a friend. She was already on a longer journey where she had changed so much in her life, but it was inspiring. Especially because she was already at a stage where she was trying her dream and her idea with two other people. For me this Is what I always wanted, people to do thing with! But thats my personal preference. So, she is pretty young passioned and also a very moving person with a great idea and good cause. Maybe not as colourful as the first lady (:-), but in my stage at the moment the much more envyful situation.
The next one was young and had found her niche. She had arrived at her thing, even including a purpose. And she seemed very determined to keep on going the way she had started. Perseverance was her “word” of the evening and thinking about it, it makes it even more telling. Cause even though she might have arrived in her “job”, things are not always rosy and to keep it up in good and bad times, is one of the hardest things to do.
(WOW so many different thought now in my mind. Did I do the right thing to leave my found passion?)
And when thinking about the pre-last lady in the group. She seemed nervous through her fast speech, but also through her turning of the chair, back and forth. But then, then she said: she wanted to do a podcast with a really really good topic!! BAM what an amazing idea!!! Not mediocre at all! Jesus how I envy her in the most positiv way EVER and do I wish her luck.
But to top if of ... there was the last girl. and Women! WTF... well she, like the first one was NEVER MEDIOCRE AT ALL. No! She is a doctor in a VERY interesting topic, moving and first and foremost so much EN VOUGE!!! But WAIT, thats not it either. She does triathlons worldwide, gives lectures and presentations and she has written her own book, which will be published next year, really big with a well known and established publisher.
I mean, WTF ... How am i not supposed to feel like I am just the tiny little me.
But I really wasnt upset for being mediocre for the first time (I guess ever). I can truly say that I totally am awstruck by this power. By this sever strongness, dedication and perseverance as well as fucking hard work they have done. Their goal in the mind, their mindset.
And also I am sorta happy to be less. Just less.
Isn’t that crazy. On one hand I always wanted to be someone like them, and now I don’t. I mean I do, but with more personal life. (I think) ... well maybe I change my mind tomorrow, but its good to feel ok with not being a superflyer. Not to have the necesity to be the best. Not to be upset about not being were the others are.
I am truly and utterly happy at the moment with life as it is. Just now!
And even though I never thought it possible, I think I might have transitioned into stressless... so is acceptance of being just mediocre maybe something of a good thing?
Well lets talk soon. Bye!
Mid September - in 3 months is Christmas ...
I get closer to 40 everyday and I am not pregnant, very healthy but still with my tag alongs “4kilos extra weight” (since I left the the habit of smoking ... ) but first and foremost I am utterly thankful lately for my life.
There are days where I will tell you a complete different story, but not at the moment. So lets enjoy the good moment. The joyful times, the days where life is good. Well at least for me at the moment.
To be honest I dont know where to start nor do I have proper concept about these posts, but I’ll just start and then, we see whats gonna happen. If anything at all :-)
So 40 ... great age for still not having a family in case you wonder. ... Cause I sorta still wanna have one... and what you feel is right. There was really a lot of doubt in this thought. But marvellously something in me has changed.
I think for the first time in my life - I really want to have child. With all the consequences, sagging breasts, no mind changing substances for like ever ... no raw fish or meat... and especially, what I fear the most. NO sleep.
And I can truly say all my life the giving birth part, was maybe the worst thing about it. Thinking about it... it still is. Ok, so for the first time I am capable of not giving the birth party to much leverage in my mind. And also close to every women made it happen, so why shouldn't I...
Also my circumstances have changed, I am no longer a single person. Which I was truly, for most of my life. I would have never said that I was, but looking back, it kinda springs in your eye... commitment wasn't my thing.
Up until very recent, commitment was, well it made my breath shallow and I felt trapped immediately. This also changed.
So many thoughts with this comment, but lets not get ahead of ourselves.
I gotta go. see you soon.