[zegalba]

[lolumidgi]

it's almost been four years since i last saw you, and it's still taking a lot out of me to not check up on you. i feel silly, but i just really want to know if you're happy because i really hope you are. i hope you're handling school okay and that you're getting enough sleep and that you're surrounded by people who make you feel loved and inspired and that you're excited for the future.

[humansofnewyork]

“I want to be a mailman so I can let people know when it’s their birthday.”

[thatsthat24]

His smile just healed me.

[madebyfinn]

Home for the past few days in the Cascades, Washington.

[ksunnc]

fun fact: i like peanut butter and jams. 

[homedecorobsession]

[prepped-in-pearls]

The sunset on the plane tonight was gorgeous

[whoarei]

she guessed my favorite color first try..

but between me and u……. i didnt even have a favorite color until she yelled out yellow!! she was hella excited n smiling like a little kid. so i told her she was right and i havent seen yellow the same since, its in everything. i could probably live in it now. 

[porpentine-deactivated20201218]

i’m into really low commitment hangouts like lying on the floor near each other or falling asleep together or falling into an endless void together

[nevver]

Nobody wants to be here and nobody wants to leave, Grant Haffner

[sleepymountain-deactivated20210]

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Neutral Milk Hotel - I Love How You Love Me

I love how your eyes close Whenever you kiss me And when I’m away from you I love how you miss me I love the way your kiss is always heavenly But darling, most of all I love how you love me I love how your heart beats Whenever I hold you I love how you think of me Without being told to I love the way your touch is always tenderly But darling, most of all  I love how you love me

[micdotcom]

Burt’s Bees creator Burt Shavitz died Sunday — but left behind advice we all need to hear 

Burt Shavitz, the bearded man whose face and spirit created the beloved brand Burt’s Bees, died on Sunday at 80. Shavitz passed away in his rural home in Maine, surrounded by family and friends. Shavitz was never one to embrace a crowd. In fact, his life story is as true to the Burt’s Bees images as you can get: unpretentious, wholly original and all natural.

[rjtheradnosereindeer]

Bless you strong soul, rest easy.

[irreverent-machinist-deactivate]

Oh dang. I loved that dude. He was a true character. May he rest in peace

[pattooon]

[pattooon]

The colors of Japan vol.3 How cute!

[blackwoolncrown]

Tumblr being bad for businesses

One thing I’ve observed over the years of being in this delightful wasteland of memes and anger (TLOMAA) is the neat microcosmic presentation of the effect a financially weak and business-unsavvy civilian population with a huge soundboard has on business, and how people think.

I’ve always known, or had the idea, but still..

If you extract the urge most of its users have to buy almost anything if it’s fandom-branded, most people on here, understandably, do not and cannot afford to support small artist, clothing, or luxury (anything not a necessity) businesses.

However, these are the same people who complain about capitalism, yet often in a way that leads me to believe that they don’t know what it is about capitalism they don’t like, and what literally will not and cannot be changed or blamed unless you want to obliterate the concept of money- or at least reset the global trade market and the US economy.

You see, people on tumblr are quick to try and dismantle an upcoming business’ popularity and consumer base if they think the product is too expensive.

A population of young people rightfully scrupulous of spending what they have, yet bearing totally unrealistic expectations is such a bad mix!

I hate watching this Nubian Skin drama. I hope what I’m seeing is disproportionately presented to me through a selection bias- what I’m seeing is inarguably augmented by the fact that I follow thelingerieaddict . However, this is still a trend. Anyway, in regards to the Nubian Skin drama… You know how the lingerie industry standard of ‘nude’ is just beige? And how while it certainly doesn’t match most light skinned people, it matches little to no dark skinned people? You know how the fashion industry as a whole seemingly ignores the reality that a lot of people have brown skin?

And you know how POC on tumblr are always saying ‘we need to support black businesses’? I’ll get to that one in a second.

Enter Nubian Skin Lingerie is a brand made and run by WOC. It is new. It is small. It is non-corporate. Ade Hassan started it up from the ground, and unlike huge brands like Hanes or Victorias Secret, she doesn’t (and can’t) ship her designs to a factory in another country to have her stuff made on the cheap. Nor is she stocked by every Target and Wal-Mart, or even every shopping mall. She doesn’t have that power, yet.

Starting a company is always expensive. Buying materials, getting the time to make your product (I mean you don’t have time for a regular job anymore so you have to invest and then hope it pays off!), finding and paying people to help you, making something high quality enough that people will buy, marketing it so people know it exists, trying to get other stores to carry it.. all of this takes time (which is money) and money.

But let me take a moment to explain the process of undercutting.

Undercutting is the business practice of under-pricing a product so your competition seems too expensive. This has become a standard business practice. Let’s say I make soda out of a small neighborhood factory. My soda is $6 for a 4-pack. This is what I need to charge to still make a profit and cover production costs and rent. Let’s say my competitor, who doesn’t like the homegrown popularity of my brand, and who knows someone in beverage distribution, originally sold their soda for almost the same price. So, to wipe me out, they don’t decide to make a new flavor, they don’t focus on buying commercials…they just drop the price of the soda. Initially, they’ll be eating the cost, but they can afford that more than I can. And after their deal goes through, they’ll be supported by a wider distribution range because of their new industry ties. Meanwhile, when people go to the soda aisle, they will see my $6 soda and their $4 soda and make their choice based on cost. 

Even though my soda is priced to cover the necessary production costs and leave me with a little bit of profit, undercutting has now made me look too expensive.

Undercutting is exclusively only something businesses who favor profit far over quality can do- because if you’re concerned with the quality of your materials, the pay of your employees, and the ethics of your methods, it will cost you too damn much.

This concept applies everywhere in almost every industry. Undercutting is why people look at the $55 bras Nubian Skin makes and go ‘that’s too expensive’. A lot of people are used to the prices of horrible companies like H&M that have huuuuge made-in-china factory capability, major distribution, and millions in profit. That, and aaalll of the Chinese resellers you can imagine. Let me digress:

I see this habit that people have here, when someone goes “Hey look at this new small brand that came up! This person sells x-useful-or-neat-thing for $x and you can buy it here!” People inevitably will say ‘Cool!’ and ‘Take all my money!’ but eventually people start tagging onto the promo post like ‘why? this is so expensive! You can buy something like it here and here at Wal-Mart or from this (exclusively stocked via AlieExpress) store’ so now this advertisement for a new startup company has been parasitized by people making it look unreasonably and frivolously expensive.

I’ve said it before, but I need to say it again, you also need to be aware that a lot of popular blogs that turn around and offer links to ‘cheap’ clothing are promoing stores that ship directly from China, often use photos stolen from other companies to present the concept of a quality item (just like x company but way cheaper!), and incentivize these people through affiliate programs. For a website that finds artists being ripped off completely heinous, I don’t see much of a qualm about businesses doing it. Take Blackmilk for instance.

 I know I’ve spoken on this in the past, but long story short, the business practices listed above are a problem for this company, especially when not only are people ripping off their product/photos, but I’ve seen people on tumblr actually accusing them of fraud, literally saying “They are selling leggings you can get from china at five times the price!”

I’ve even seen creepyyeha accused of this, even when it’s entirely not true, and the fact that ‘cheaper versions’ of any of her pieces exist is not because she bought and resold them, but because someone stole her designs and remade them with cheaper materials and labor.

Like.. *facepalm*.

You fell for it.

So what is my point here? Let me summarize. You see people rightfully complain about capitalism, but I don’t think you guys get how it works. Capitalism isn’t when everything is expensive and no one can afford it- that doesn’t even make sense how would anyone make money? No, part of capitalism is big bottom-line-based businesses choking out smaller honest companies. And how do they do that? By being cheaper. On all accounts. Cheaper materials, cheaper production costs, lower pay for employees, etc. So when you guys spit in the face of new, small, honest businesses with “this is too expensive!” even though you have NO CLUE what actual start up and production costs are (because your idea of price is defined by what dishonest, unsustainable, huge corporation, big box companies have sold you) you are doing one of the most capitalist things possible. You are undervaluing labor, buying into the cost over quality mentality, and supporting the idea that smaller companies are ‘too expensive’ and should not be supported.

This is not an attack on people who can’t afford otherwise (a populace with restricted income ((to a point)) is super fab for capitalism, in this way), this is an attack on those who attack smaller companies with their ignorance.

You want corporations to stop running everything? Then stop helping them crush their competition.

You want innovation? Companies that fill niches? Then support them. It costs money.

[movings-deactivated20181005]

For everyone that complains about “capitalism” and then refuses to support small business. 

[thedependantloner]

What they don't mention about #growingupwithstrictparents:

- The resentment that begins to build up and damage your relationship with your parents because your missing out on being a kid.

- The self destructive tendencies that develop when you get your freedom.

- Extreme Behaviour that can be dangerous because you feel as if you have to catch up on all the life you have been missing.

- A constant sadness that your never going to live life enough. 

- Developing anxiety over doing things as simple as riding the bus.

- Massive issues with authority. 

- Fear of commitment because you feel as though it is going to tie you down and take away from your freedom again. 

etc…

[hathor77]

‘ - Fear of commitment because you feel as though it is going to tie you down and take away from your freedom again. ‘ This is is me in a nutshell

All of this.

[clintbarthon]

#compulsive lying all the time because youre so used to doing so that telling the truth is weird#being terrified of asking if a friend can come over#hiding everything you feel and then exploding#being manipulative#The self destructive tendencies that develop when you get your freedom#that one is the realest one tho (via howlingcutemando)

[darkblazeprince-deactivated2018]

Feeling like you’re useless when you’re not doing something productive.

[sneakymedulla]

never being able to stand up for yourself, because of your inherent fear you will be severely punished - even if you are in the right

feeling you are never right, even if you are

caving easily to abusive situations, because you grew up learning how to be controlled, that it was “wrong” to exercise power, that it was “wrong” to defend yourself, and not knowing anything about self-respect or having self-esteem

second-guessing yourself nonstop

hiding your entire life from your strict family - even if it means they go to their deathbeds not knowing what has happened to you, because it will just mean you earn only their disapproval or disgust.

non-stop self-hate

non-stop paranoia

[thewikigirl-blog]

-feeling like you have to “prove” yourself

-never feeling good enough

-developing insecurities that eventually grow but stay hidden because you’ve been told that maybe asking a question a few times extra just to be sure everything’s ok is “weird”

-being afraid to make friendships, reach out, or go out because your afraid of doing something wrong

-always being afraid that someone is mad at you

-getting criticized for years on end then getting questioned on all sides as to why you’re so negative about yourself

[lolumidgi]

prismatic-bell:

shrineart:

caitatonic:

sunflower-b-pondicus:

flutterjedi:

mixedy:

my parents aren’t teaching me life lessons.

#i need some adults to TEACH ME SHIT ABOUT LIFE

I’m an adult.

Some shit about life, from a bonafide adult:

even if you get along great with your family you will get along even better with them after moving out 

generic is almost always just as good as name brand. But there are some things you never buy generic, including: peanut butter, ketchup, liquid NyQuil, Chips-Ahoy chewy chocolate chip cookies

just imagine the person on the other end of the phone hates talking on the phone as much as you do. Even a receptionist. I worked as one and I hate talking on the phone

at least once in your life you will go to Wal-mart to buy something under $20 like an ironing board or something and your debit card will get rejected. No one will judge. Everyone at some point in their lives has had $2.98 in their bank account. 

thrift stores

everyone else is too busy panicking about everyone else noticing every tiny thing that could possibly be wrong about them to notice any tiny thing that could possibly be wrong about you

you will screw up. a lot. you live and you learn. and when you start to think too hard about that embarrassing thing that happened and how you wish you could change it, just tell yourself that what’s done is done. There’s no changing it, so just forget it and move on. It’s the only way to stay sane.

do the dishes before the sink grows its own ecosystem

you can’t put Dawn dishsoap in the dishwasher. 

if you are the only one in the aisle at the grocery store, and you need to get from one end to the other without even looking at anything in that aisle, then you should totally cart-surf down the aisle. Growing old is mandatory. Growing up is optional. Hold on to the little things. They make all the difference.

never try to make cake from scratch at 3am. You end up with a topographical map of Middle Earth.

15% tip. 

the best way to get money for food is to tell your grandparents about how you basically live on microwaved mac and cheese. Their horror may result in twenty bucks and orders to go out and get yourself “a real dinner”.

sometimes life sucks, and knowing that it might get better doesn’t always make it suck any less, but you’ll never get to the non-sucky days without enduring the suckiness. 

no seriously, NEVER put Dawn in your dishwasher

Do not buy generic brand spaghetti sauce either.

Always check the type of light bulb that goes in lamps. A 60w is not interchangeable with a 40w.

Dollar store batteries work just as well as store brand.

Reward yourself from time to time when you do things that you needed to get done. It’s a good way to remind yourself to do them. Going out to pay a bill? Get Starbucks or something you don’t get often. Rewards don’t have to be huge, they can be small things like that.

Rice, pasta, flour, sugar, cheese, eggs, milk, a pack of chicken, a pack of frozen veggies and a well stocked spice cabinet go a long way food-wise. Splurge and get the biggest container of rice you can. You don’t have to go back and buy it again anytime soon and it makes a TON of meals in the meantime.

Rice can be cooked on the stove. You don’t need a fancy rice cooker. Two parts water to every one part rice (two cups water for one cup of rice for example). Get your water boiling, add rice, put a plate or lid on it, put it on low for 20 minutes. It should be done.

Keep a calendar on your pc of bill due dates. If your bills are set up at inconvenient times, like all of the services started on the first or something, then call up the company and find out if you can get your billing date switched to something more manageable. A lot of places do try to work with you.

There is no shame in calling a company and asking for an extension on a bill. Let them know what you can pay, pay that amount, and they arrange when the rest of the payment is required. This can stop you from having services shut off man. It shows responsibility on your part.

Take time to eat, even when you don’t feel like eating. Your body needs energy to live.

Wash or rinse your dishes before putting them in the dishwasher. It prevents gross caked on junk.

“The Works” is an excellent cheap toilet cleaner.

MAGIC. FUCKING. ERASERS. THEY WORK ON EVERYTHING JUST DON’T SCRUB HARD. I took the ring out of our bathtub with one. Also generic ones work just as well.

Keep some bleach around but if you use it for cleaning? Dillute it. There’s rarely ever a case where you need to pout straight bleach on anything. A cap full or two in a bucket of water works just fine.

DO NOT MIX CLEANERS. Chemical reactions are can be very dangerous. Here’s a good list. (Note that vinegar and baking soda can actually be a good combo for removing smells from things but it’s not very good at actually -cleaning-.)

If you drink? Don’t take meds at the same time it’s just not good.

Make sure you check the dosages on your pill bottles. No one wants to accidentally overdose on cough syrup or ibuprofen.

If you have a uterus make sure you have a heating pad and ibuprofen on hand for the pain. Hot baths also generally help and Ginger Tea is excellent for any nausea.

Buy a first aid kit. It’s worth it in the long run.

You can often do your taxes online at places like TurboTax.

Here’s some good sex ed resources because I had to explain what a yeast infection was recently. 

Petroleum jelly (aka Vaseline) is good for chapped lips and you can get a decent sized tube or tub of it (generic brand version) for cheaper/same price as Chapstick.

KEEP TRIPLE ANTIBIOTIC OINTMENT IN YOUR HOUSE FOR CUTS AND SCRAPES AND SORES. 

~~Medications~~

Over the counter medications (stuff you can buy right off the shelf no prescription needed) have a name brand and a generic name. ALWAYS buy generic if it’s available it is literally the same thing and way cheaper usually.

Some names to remember when you’re looking for meds!

Acetaminophen = Tylenol

Used to treat pain and reduce fever. Do not take with Ibuprofen.

Ibuprofen = Advil, Midol, Motrin

Used for pain and fever, is an anti-inflammtory. Is good for period cramps because it is an NSAID (non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drug).

Naproxen = Aleve, Naprosyn

Treats fever, pain, arthritis pain, gout, period cramps, tendinitis, headache, backache, and toothache. Is also an NSAID.

Acetaminophen + Asprin + Caffeine = Excedrin

Usually marketed as “Migraine Relief” as a generic.

Asprin = Bayer

Use for pain, fever, arthritis, and inflammation. Makes you bleed easily so should not be used for periods. Might reduce risk of heart attacks.\

Triple Antibiotic Ointment = Neosporin

Used on cuts, sores, and scrapes to reduce risk of infection and promote healing.

Also a general mutli-vitamin isn’t a bad idea and if you don’t get a lot of fruits or milk/sunshine in your diet you might want to get vitamins C and D specifically for daily use.

If you have trouble budgeting, hey! Welcome to the club! Google “envelopes method budgeting” and read about it. It works. I just graduated from “all envelopes, all the time” to “the Emergency Savings is in a real savings account, where it can really gain interest” and celebrated by using my saved-up “Treats” money from another envelope to buy an animation cel. Don’t be ashamed to use this method–it’s old and popular and did I mention it works.

Set a bedtime. Stick to it. Everything you do will feel better on plenty of sleep.

If you’re buying generic food, keep about a dozen spices on hand. You’ll want dried onion, dried garlic, dried cilantro, sea salt, dried oregano, black pepper, and maybe a little cayenne. You can doctor some of the nastiest generic shit into something amazing with just a little of these, and they last forever.

When talking to someone from a call center, like paying your bills: if they say “sorry for taking so long,” say “hey, it’s fine! You’re helping me, and that’s not an easy job,” even if the answers they’re giving you aren’t the ones you hoped for. Someone probably yelled at them recently for having a slow computer system; you’ll make their day better and you’ll get better service.

If you do not have ethnic hair, apple cider vinegar is less expensive and more effective than shampoo. (If you do, it may damage your hair depending on what kind of hair we’re talking about–do a little research on it first. I don’t want to ruin your hair giving advice that’s applicable to my hair.)

Someday, you may wake up and discover that Cheerios are actually delicious. Don’t feel bad and don’t panic about becoming that old geezer who only eats shredded wheat. You can eat Cheerios and like Cheerios and still occasionally pick up a cup of Corn Pops or Lucky Charms to enjoy.

Check out unfuckyourhabitat for loads of good, solid cleaning advice.

If you are the kind of adult who still loves cartoons or spinnerooni skirts or Nerf guns, don’t let anyone make you feel bad. Do you know who else out there is an adult who still loves cartoons? Pretty much every single person who primarily works in cartoon voiceover. There are adult women designing spinnerooni skirts for the new generation and the last time I checked everyone working at Mattel was over 18. In my adopted hometown there’s a college professor who runs a Board Games Night once or twice a month and an engineer who’s offered to help me learn to play Dungeons and Dragons. You aren’t “immature” until that hobby takes over your life.

And finally: we’re all in this together. Never be ashamed to ask for advice. Never be ashamed to ask for help. Adulthood is not the sum total of what you learned as a child, and we’re all in on-the-job training for it.