Long Distance Stories

Welcome to LDS! This is a place for people in long distance relationships of any kind to post their stories, ask for advice, share ideas, etc. All of our admins are extremely open-minded and strive to be as helpful as we can. This blog was created on July 15, 2011.

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08.05.16 // i’m luckiest woman in the world because i’m your wife. marrying you was the easiest yes i’ve ever made 💕

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07.17.16 // I wouldn’t want to do life with anyone else. I cannot wait until I’m your wife. Thank you for loving me unconditionally 💕

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I’m sorry I haven’t been active, but things have been super hectic because I’M ENGAGED!

- Chyenne

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Hi! How long is considered "too long" to tell my parents about me and my ldbf. It's only been a few weeks but I don't want to tell my parents about it now because it could lead to us possibly breaking up.. But I also don't want to wait too long to tell them because I don't want them to think that I don't trust them.. When should I tell them? ):

Please read this - http://longdistancestories.tumblr.com/ldrfaq#chapter1

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Support long distance relationships. They are just as worthy, romantic and real as traditional ones. From pole to pole the Earth is 24,874 miles and there are 8 billion people on it. Do you really think your soulmate lives mere minutes from you? If I’ve learned anything the last three years the heart wants what it wants and truly doesn’t care what the body must do to get it.

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I want to tell my parents about my love interest , we've decided we want to meet. He lives in the uk and i live in the usa , so he needs to fly, i could pay for it, but i am so scared my parents won't be accepting of it, we love each other very much.

Please read this & come back if you have any more questions: http://longdistancestories.tumblr.com/ldrfaq#chapter1

Good luck!

- Chyenne

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Hey, im almost 4 years w my SO. We never met before but plan on doing it next year. Thing is: i dont have his phone number nor he asked for mine. We talk via Skype and sometimes email, before i honestly didnt cared if i had his phone number or not but my friends tell me is a huge red flag cuz he may be w some1 else . I asked him for it today and he told me "no" in a joking way and then told me he barely uses it. He says im his one and only but i guess its weird, thoughts?Should i worry?

That is honestly pretty sketchy, but maybe he’s in a situation where his family pays for internet & he cannot afford a cell phone so he’s acting like he has one when he doesn’t just so you don’t judge him or something? I don’t know. I just don’t want you to assume he’s with someone else, but it’s certainly a possibility. At the end of the day, all you can do is talk to him & communicate your feelings with him.

- Chyenne

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My boyfriend occasionally gets a bit insecure, and he sometimes has a hard time believing he "deserves" to be with me. When we're together it's okay, because I can give him a hug and tell him I love him if I notice he's feeling down. The problem comes when we're apart, because the times that he needs reassurance are the times that he's least likely to actually talk to me about it. We're working on it, but I can't help but worry that it's going to get on top of him when we're separated for long stretches of time. This was my solution - I've written down a hundred reasons that I love him and folded them into little paper stars in a jam jar. (There is also chocolate. Because chocolate just makes life better.) I'm going to give him the jar, and hopefully, if he needs a reminder of how much I care about and value him but doesn't feel able to ask for help, he can open a star instead and remind himself of all the things that are worth loving about him.

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Young Love

We met online in January while I was visiting family over Christmas and we chatted for the evening and found out we had so much in common! I moved to Washington state at the end of my HS career from Texas and it turned out we had been living in the same town the entire time! He moved to Idaho 4 weeks previously to explore and pursue his passion of winter sports. We had never actually met in Texas, but we both grew up 1 mile away from each other. He was home schooled, or else he would have gone to my HS. We met up for coffee the next day and talked for 2 hours and then went on a walk at a near by park. Even though I had just met him, it felt like I had known him my entire life! We had mutual friends and went to the same horse ranch as kids! I invited him to come visit me at college later in the year when it gets really nice. We said goodbye and could not stop thinking about each other for a few days. We kept in touch for 5 months and in April he came to visit for the weekend. We hit it off immediately were we left off, except this time it was even stronger. I told him that I really liked him and he had been feeling the same way. It was a perfect weekend! He had to drive back home after the weekend to Idaho, and it was one of the hardest goodbyes I have ever had to say. The entire week I was a mess. I missed him so much! We called and talked for three hours a few days after he left and I told him I had to see him again. He said he was moving back to Texas in a week. Then I told him if that was the case, then he needed to come up for the weekend again. He did! He drove 6 hours again to come see me! It was such a magical weekend just to spend time together. We knew we had something strong, not just a fling. We are already talking about our future together! Its so complicated because of the distance and my future career in the military. It will be atleast 7 years before we could settle in one place together, but we are both willing to wait and keep this going. He left after staying 4 days, except this time we knew that it wasn't goodbye forever. We were willing to make this thing work long distance. We are both old souls and very romantic. We could definitely be a couple back in the 1940's! We have already written two letters to each other, we call every night and snapchat/skype and text. Anything and everything to communicate with each other. We are planning on trips to see each other this summer and into the fall. We just plan to take it one day at a time and let our love grow stronger. Sometimes its hard to think that we are so in love, even though we have only known each other for 5 months, but we feel like its been years. I honestly think he is my soulmate and that we are meant to be together. If that is true, I know it will last and work out for our future.

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one of my friends introduced me to this website called rabbit (rabb(.)it), which basically lets you and your s/o watch stuff online together! they have quick links to hbo go, crackle, crunchy roll, netflix, hulu, and youtube, but it's just a web browser so you can also use it to scroll through webpages together! my LDB and i use it a lot. i really recommend it! :)

Me and Walter use this a lot now! Sometimes its a lot better than Skype so I definitely recommend it too! (:

- Monica

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Filling the Gap

I became his girlfriend since we we’re seventeen but I broke up with him because I was not ready for a more serious relationship. I never had any communication with him after that.

Two years had passed and he suddenly called me on my phone. I heard a familiar voice. I knew it was him. He kept on inviting me to go out with him, he wanted to visit me in my boarding house, he kept on texting and calling me, but I was too hard on him. I kept on saying NO to him.

It really took him a very long time before I finally opened my heart for him. We had our closure and it actually was the reason for us to develop a new friendship. I missed him. That was what I felt on those times when we had our friendship back. He asked me to be his girlfriend and finally I said YES to him. But the sad part there is, we’re already far from each other. He’s a marine engineer so basically his profession is to work in a vessel. But I was ready for a relationship wherein I could only see my partner once in a blue moon. We loved each other so much though it’s been three years the last time we saw each other. I enjoyed the wait. I knew I was waiting for someone worthy of all the lonely nights.

We finally met after how many months of being in a relationship and we really made each second memorable. It was only for a while. The worst thing happened after that was I needed to relocate to a farther place. That’s why when he was done working in the vessel, I was not anymore in the place where we met the last time. It was really difficult.

We missed each other so much and how I wish I never transferred at all. But his love was too great that he really went to where I relocated. I saw him again. I was able to touch, hug and kiss him again. It was really wonderful and unbelievable at the same time. But it was again only for a while. He needed to go again. We separated again.

And now, we’re still in a long distance relationship. Tomorrow is our anniversary and we’re far from one another. I badly want to spend our special day together but we can’t. I want to be with him. I really want to.

Being in this kind of relationship is not easy. There are a lot of times I asked myself if I am still willing to continue the kind of relationship I have. But giving up should never be my option - that’s what I always say to myself. One day, we both know, that we will see each other again, we will be together again - under the same roof with the same last name.

I love him so much and I mean that line. He means so much to me and I don’t want to lose him.

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What do I do?

I’ve been with my wife for almost three years now maybe more and we’re about 10,000 miles apart Colonial Beach, VA to Melbourne, AU and I’ve been struggling with lots and lots of problems you can gather from a LDR but we’ve worked through them well. I just want to know if I can get any advice how to fix something I may have done to hurt my permanent lover. We’ve had a terrible argument about trust and I was curious about a mono fever she occurred over the span of our relationship and we’ve never kissed and says she never kissed anyone yet since her split with a past ex bf. Is it likely you can catch something like this without kissing? Am I wrong to have reacted so strongly? I’ve apologized many times but she’s still very upset.

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“You can be exposed to the virus by a cough or sneeze, by kissing, or by sharing food or drinks with someone who has mono. It usually takes four to eight weeks for symptoms to develop after you’re infected.”

Please read more here: http://www.healthline.com/health/mononucleosis#Overview1

Yes, you can get mono without kissing someone. I’d be upset too if my partner didn’t believe me if I was telling the truth. Has she ever given you a reason to not trust her?

Please read this as well: http://longdistancestories.tumblr.com/ldrfaq#chapter5

- Chyenne

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When you’re in an ldr, you start realising things in stages. First, it will feel like all that, and it will feel like the relationship is all that matters - if you’re the kind of person I am. Ultimately, if you are insecure like me, then you cannot stop thinking about it. If you aren’t, then this might not matter to you so much. But you should always maintain a small corner of doubt within yourself. Because, no matter what you go through, you will always have that dim light to go back to. The relationship itself is a moderate amount of risk. Especially if you become very attached. But if you two are kind. If you two are committed, willing to work through problems unlike TV/romance couples who are all good the next day OR see-saw between drama then you may not be as solid a foundation, if you can compromise. As a girl, sadly it’s difficult to curb some urges sometimes. If you have no such possessive urges and are rather free, congratulations. You’re already two steps ahead of most LDR couples. Don’t become too attached; this is the hardest part. You are still your own person with your own value and meanings. A different outlook. You needn’t someone else to change that whole front otherwise you lose what makes you. This is easier to type and to say than to believe, but your problems can either smooth out in time, with a few wrinkles and the occasional mess here and there – but believe, if one of you are unwilling to go on, then what does it make? Are you going to be okay without them? You must go on by yourself if the relationship subsides. Or fades, briefly. You must believe that there’s more to life than there is to go on. Even though you may have based a good future upon both of you. If you can make it work – this is the most rewarding part. You CAN make it work. You are two people working toward one goal, which each other. So trust them. Until they break that trust, you have them.

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Hello! I was wondering if you could help spread out story, it would mean so much to us😊

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After going through all the things in the past two years, I am always grateful to meet my love. I met him on Interpals, he is Polish, I'm Chinese. He nicknames me Chenny, and I call him Miśio ("little bear" in Polish). We started the conversation with music and cultures, then gradually we talked about almost everything. I hadn't realized someone has so many similarities to me. We chatted everyday, the feeling beyond friendship grew between us, but both of us insisted to say the three most important words when we met in real life. I flied to Poland in July 2014 (I already made vacation schedule to East Europe before I met him online though), the first meet will never be forgotten. He is a very tall guy, I recognized him immediately at the airport. He handed me rose and hugged me, whispering my name in great cheer. "Chenny, we finally meet." He said. After spending two wonderful weeks in Poland, I went back to Canada for work and of course, I told my parents about Miśio. My mom went mad, asked me to break up with him, since she believed there's no future between us at all. Miśio cannot move to China and I cannot move to Poland, language is gonna be the barrier for living. In 2015, Miśio made a big decision, he went to UK to work. "If we cannot live together in either our home countries due to language barrier, then I will work for saving money in a English-speaking country, to build our life for future." He's so firm and strong, he could give up the stable life in Poland for me.

I know sometimes I'm a terrible person. I can be very mean and cold when I'm angry, and I have bad temper and slight paranoid. I said hurtful things to Miśio, we are both stubborn and proud people, but he always tries to cheer me up when I get angry or upset. My mom said, "I have never seen you love a person so much." Well, she is right. Miśio is the only person I feel totally secured to be with, except my parents, and we trust each other more than a lot.

Now we have been together for almost two years, Miśio proposed to me in Dec 2015, and my mom is accepting him. Long-distance relationship is more difficult than regular relationship. We need to trust and put more effort in, no matter how hard this can be, you need to trust him/her. After overcoming all the barriers and distance between you, it's all worthy.

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I wonder sometimes if I'm with him because there's no one else. But I realize, even if I did expand my circle, I'd never find someone quite as perfect as he is - never in a million years.

While it’s great that you feel that you’d never find someone as “perfect” as your boyfriend, the fact that you have thoughts of being with him just because “there’s no one else” really concerns me. You should try to find the root of that & trust me, distance isn’t why. I hope you come to a conclusion & stop having those thoughts altogether.

- Chyenne

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He's officially booked his flight!!! It's been a hell of a few months trying to get him in because I'm going to college next year and I have lots of stuff to do to prepare, but we did it, and he'll be here for two weeks in 86 days 🙏🏻

- Chyenne

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Question

I have asked you about my ldr issues that contains “US-Singapore, Found photo’s on her Email” i really really desperately  need your feedback and advice.

P.s. I don’t know if you need to submit if you have a long story, i’m sorry

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You do need to submit if your story/question is longer than one ask (it says so above our ask box) & I am going to go ahead and assume that we only got bits & pieces of your ask because we received two messages that don’t make sense right after the other :/ Please submit your story instead so that we can try to help you.

- Chyenne