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[heliophilos]

What an introduction

[memewhore]

[marypickfords]

Elsa la rose (Agnès Varda, 1966)

[oumaimas]

Sometimes, Mary Oliver

[asciiheart]

The nuclear family is probably the greatest enabler of child abuse, ever.

Putting two people in complete control of another person (who is particularly vulnerable and has few legal rights) and then having no oversight for the whole arrangement is the absolute worst idea.

Families are garbage.

[libertarirynn-deactivated202006]

Hahaha wtf

[yourownpetard]

I wouldn’t even know where to start with this. omg.

[amal-wa-ahlam]

OP, what would you propose as an alternative to families?

[asciiheart]

communal child raising

less isolated familial structures in general

children being made aware of how they should and shouldn’t be treated

Some form of child protection services that don’t just believe the parents and assume a child is lying when they report abuse

more legal and counselling services made available to children

[tracyalexander-deactivated20201]

I don’t get people that are like “lol, what? that’s so weird, lets laugh at the very notion that traditional families are abusive”.

[itsfridaybutimstillaro-deactiva]

communal child raising is the traditional family. 70-100 years ago 4 generations lived together in the same house, having 4 grandparents, 6 aunts and 15 cousins around every day was normal.

[queeranarchism]

Things that should be mentioned:

- These communities are not necessarily connected by an biological ties. In a lot of these multigenerational ‘families’, including people in the family who are not relatives or married into the family is totally normal. This has always created a lot more space to support people without families, support people who do now want to partner up and to create communities in which couples who can not have children (like some queer couples but not all & other couples too) can be a part of child raising. 

- Having a lot more young people around often means young people learn from each other. In many cultures young people form a non-hierarchial group that learns together and can do a great deal without adult supervision. 

The nuclear family doesn’t just facilitate abuse, it facilitates hierarchy. It’s a training school for obedience to authority. 

Now, which system would push such a training school strongly so it could get docile obedient citizens? Which system whould push the nuclear family. 

I’m not saying it’s capitalism but it’s capitalism. 

And then there’s the fact that the 2 parent, nuclear family can be most easily pushed into the pattern where one adult works an extremely exhausting job many hours a day that leaves that adult hardly capable of doing anything else, while the other adult takes on all the other things that adult would otherwise have done: care for children, clean the living space, prepare food, prepare clean clothing, etc. for free. What we know as traditional gender roles. 

This way capitalism gets one intensely loyal worker who feels ‘responsible’ for ‘supporting a family’ while all the work to keep that worker going is done for free by an unpaid worker in the home. 

And, you know, communities need a lot less stuff. A community of 50 can do just fine with one or two hammers. 25 nuclear families need 25 hammers. The nuclear family demands a huge amount of commodity purchasing. 

[dollsahoy]

(hooboy that last point)

[swdyww-deactivated20210428]

What I’ve been saying

[adora-korra]

this is fascinating! the idea of a nuclear family has always seemed isolating to me, and living with a bunch of people in a more communal setting has always appealed to me just for being less lonely. love all the points raised here though.

[markantonys]

nowhere did this kindly anon actually say “please make a video of this” and yet

[biteythevillain]

@mori-sketchbook

[mori-sketchbook]

ffs you are a terrible person Piet

[thebigmoonarethebest]

The Big Moon for Interview Magazine (x)

Photos by Lauren Maccabee

[strayhopes]

The number of messages I’ve failed to answer across all my devices and media platforms will be weighed against my soul on judgment day, and I will be cast into hell

[thesunjustfallsfromthesky]

[Photo Credit: Steve Gullick] (x)

[gif87a-com]

[12h51mn]

Retro phone booths transformed into goldfish aquariums by Kingyobu Osaka, Japan 2011

[goodluckracing]

[arterialtrees]

from beginning: Caroline Knapp, Beyonce’s Lemonade, Survey athttp://rolereboot.org/…/det…/2016-05-daughter-know-ok-angry/, Janine Antoni, interview from Chain with Dodie Bellamy and Andrea Juno, Kiki Smith, Carrie Lorig’s “The Book of Repulsive Women”, “Hunger Makes Me” by Jess Zimmerman, Alice Notley, Carrie Lorig again

[nubbsgalore]

“penguin was just a small, wobbly headed magpie chick when my son, noah, found her lying injured on the grass after being blown out of her nest. she was very lucky to survive such a horrendous fall but without immediate care would have died within a day.   

“we built her a simple nest and kept her warm with a tiny blanket. noah immediately named her penguin, due to her black and white plumage.  it is not easy to look after any injured wild creature [so] we undertook a great deal of research about magpies and were extremely grateful for all the specialist veterinary advice we received, especially in regard to penguin’s diet.  

“while getting penguin to eat was a real victory, her recovery remained touch and go. but over time she grew in both stature and confidence. 

“as penguin’s strength grew so did her curiosity. we never locked her inside any kind of cage so she was always free to venture outside the house. it didn’t take long before she started to forage for her own food in the backyard and it was clear she was becoming increasingly independent.  

“despite being free to leave she still chose to sleep inside the house for at least six months. fortunately there is a large frangipani tree in our yard that penguin always felt comfortable in, so that became her home. however if we ever leave a window open she’ll fly inside the house at sunrise and scamper down the hallway to one of the bedrooms and jump into bed.  

“australian magpies are known for their beautiful songs and penguin began singing short songs during the day from a very early age and would eventually sing for hours and hours at a time. whenever we’d pull up in the driveway she’d let out a loud and melodic warble to welcome us home then flap her wings with excitement and run straight to the front door to be let inside.  

“while she will always be a part of our family penguin does not belong to us. the world is hers to explore and she regularly travels elsewhere, sometimes for days at a time. we won’t see her for a while and then, without warning, she confidently walks in the door as if nothing has changed.” (source, edited for length)

[elodieunderglass]

OH

[thewriteronthestorm-deactivated]

[hakobore]

“The Last Advice” Acrylic on cardboard and picture frame

[hakobore]

Inside a grand adventure game, an advisor NPC is introduced, programmed to wait for you at key locations, giving you hints along the way. Although helpful and charming, their responses are inevitably limited. Nevertheless you gradually grow fond of them as the game progresses. You start to interact with them more often than necessary, knowing at times they will repeat the same dialogue.

They continue to guide you through until your adventure draws near to a close. Arriving at your final save point, you spot them already waiting for you. Yearning for the satisfaction of completing the game, you’re also reluctant to leave this world and your friend behind. But the end is just a reach away, and so with great delay, you lean in to listen, just one last time.

[iguanamouth]

my friend made a monster generator and it seems very up your alley. funwalker. itch. io/rmg

ayy this is really good ! gotta say my heart still belongs to THIS generator but this ones definitely more useful for making things thatre Really Out There in terms of creature design lemme just