love is stronger than pride

val. 30. bi. capricorn. 💕🩵✨radfems & terfs DNI. No minors please

[kingfucko]

i dont care if monday sucks... tuesday cost me sixty bucks... wednesday thursday give no fucks. it's friday im a duck

[taohun]

blond people are either laura palmer or jake paul

[mousedetective]

Things Are Slowly Getting Better But Help Is Still Something We Need!

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Updated May 22nd 2026 | Previous Post

So just in case you don't want to scroll through the previous post: we have a car and our landlord fixed both of refrigerator and our freezer, but unfortunately we're still kind of short of food, we managed to get one of the car repairs done and another seems to have sorted itself out, but we have a pressing need to get $3000 in more immediate repairs done and get one of our side doors fixed at around $750, and I had a potential breast cancer scare/my daughter has had issues getting her root canal scheduled and the other dentists won't do their work without that being done.

So first off, the potential breast cancer situation: whatever it was with the first mammogram that concerned the imaging specialist is benign according to the second mammogram! I need to have a mammogram every year now, but yes. Very good news! So please take this as a friendly reminder to check your breasts monthly for lumps and get your mammograms whenever your doctor says you need them (and the self-exams should be done by everyone regardless of sex, because breast cancer affects men and women). Also good health news: my daughter finally saw her GP after nearly a year and she's got her HRT sorted out a bit more plus she's on a new arthritis medication (same one I'm on) and we're hoping the med changes will help her be in less pain, root canal withstanding.

Also mostly good news: our car is running well enough, but we would like to get the two repairs that are $1500 each done as soon as we can, just because (IIRC) one issue is the timing belt and the other is the struts, and repairs are vastly less expensive than replacements. We can manage without getting the side door fixed for now, but anything we can put towards those two repairs and gas would be a huge help.

And last update: I talked to someone from Legal Aid Tuesday about the habitability issues (if our fridge goes out again and they refuse to fix/replace it I now know what legal recourse I have, and I may be able to get them to replace it after we get our recertification they send last week sorted because my mother is insulin dependent and her disability accommodation includes having a working fridge). They're going to have a separate attorney call about our recertification paperwork, but I am pretty sure they are no longer trying to kick us out, though it does look like we're on a month-to-month lease at the moment.

Here is the bad news:

I am currently $300 overdrawn and have a $300 loan due on the 3rd of June, though I'm going to try and see if I can get the loan payment broken down into payments (this was because of food issues since we had to throw away most of our food in the fridge before it got fixed/laptop repair costs). I would like to cover some of the overdraft if possible.

I also have a lot of smaller bills and such that I wasn't able to pay because of the overdraft (though a friend helped with my phone bill already). This includes my electric bill, of which I owe $124 currently (I can carry some of my bill over but at some point soon I need to make a big payment)

We still do not have a ton of perishable food since most of our food stamps had gone to restocking the non-perishable food we had to use up when the fridge wasn't working. We kind of need milk soon, but a huge help would be food from our Amazon wish list of just snacks and stuff we can eat in between meals as well as the boxed meal kits I can make by adding ground beef.

I still do not have possession of my laptop, which I was quoted would have been finished almost a week ago. So I'm kind of stuck not being able to do huge updates or update often because I have both psoriatic arthritis and carpal tunnel and it's been getting harder and harder using my phone or my laptop while I am in bed (fortunately we found a small side table a neighbor was discarding that I can use for my laptop once it's repaired so I can sit up and use a wrist rest and all that).

So yeah. If anyone can help immediately with the overdraft and the smaller bills (I think grand total $600 would cover everything) now and I can work towards the repairs as well as clearing out my remaining storage unit, that would take such a weight off my shoulders.

[hotgirlmeg]

[worst-roommates-ever]

[uncleromeo]

if you don't do anything else today,

Please have a moment of silence for the people who were killed instead of freed when news of emancipation finally reached the furthest corners of the american south.

have another moment for the ledgers, catalogs, and records that were burned and the homes that were destroyed to hide the presence of very much alive and still enslaved people on dozens of plantations and homesteads across the south for decades after emancipation.

and have a third moment for those who were hunted and killed while fleeing the south to find safety across the border, overseas, in the north and to the west.

black people. light a candle, write a note to those who have passed telling them what you have achieved in spite of the racist and intolerant conditions of this world, feel the warmth of the flame under your hand, say a prayer of rememberance if you are religious, place the note under the candle, and then blow it out.

if you have children, sit them down and tell them anything you know about the life of oldest black person you've ever met. it doesn't have to be your own family. tell them what you know about what life was like for us in the days, years, decades after emancipation. if you don't know much, look it up and learn about it together.

This is Juneteenth.

white people CAN interact with this post. share it, spread it.

[anglaised]

i love hairy women

[anglaised]

im bisexual as well and i was talking about women actually

[ryadsstuff]

I never thought I would write something like this, but my sister is going through a serious health condition and urgently needs treatment that we cannot afford on our own. Every day feels heavier than the one before, but we are still trying to hold on to hope and do everything we can for her.

[ryadsstuff]

She is not just a patient to me—she is my sister, my support, and a huge part of my life. Seeing her in this condition is something I struggle to put into words. We are trying everything we can, but the medical expenses are far beyond our ability right now.

[ryadsstuff]

I am not asking for miracles, just for this message to reach kind people who might be able to help or share it further. Even a simple reblog could connect us with someone who can make a difference.

[ryadsstuff]

If every person who sees this post donated just $1, it could genuinely change everything for my sister and bring us much closer to saving her life. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to read this and care.

[enki2]

[thebdelliumlady]

For anyone wondering, the PhD student's name is Myra Cheng.

Here's a link to an article about the study from the Stanford Report: link.

[chapscher]

Across three preregistered studies, participants interacting with sycophantic AI became more convinced of their own rightness and less willing to repair relationships. Yet at the same time, participants rated sycophantic AI models as higher quality, more trustworthy, and more desirable for future use, which may explain why this behavior has persisted despite its harmful impacts.

Myra Cheng et al. "Sycophantic AI decreases prosocial intentions and promotes dependence." Science 391, eaec8352 (2026).

[coldshrugs]

happy juneteenth!!

tell your black friends you love them. donate to mutual aid causes that will have direct impact for black folks. show black peers in fandom some love for their creative works. 💗

[noble-kale]

It's Juneteenth, I'm a Black Texan, descendant of enslaved Black Texans. Texas is the only state that fought two different wars to protect slavery and chattel slavery ended the last for it. Juneteenth to me is to celebrate that part of overt white supremacy coming to an end, but it was not the end of white supremacy. It did not stop, with the lynching, the police violence, the redlining, the environmental racism, the segregation. Juneteenth represents a good win aganist the fight against white supremacy, but it's not over.

And for this Juneteenth, I ask for help for my friends that are the victims of this same US white supremacy. Not just today, but everyday Gazans deserve any type of help that you can give them. The technology that is used to segregate and attack and police and destroy Palestinians is the same technology that is sold to Texas to be used for the border patrol and to harass and control immigrants and border communities. This is one, connected fight aganist white supremacy and US control and destruction of Black and Brown bodies. So I ask today if you could donate this, or share, to help provide for a mother and her 2 now fatherless children in Gaza, or anyone else in Gaza who needs help. Like this family with a sick baby. Just do something, especially if you got the day off.

[save-the-child-qais]

STOP SCROLLING. MY BABY QAIS BLEEDS.

I am sitting beside him, watching the bandages turn red again, feeling helpless as I try to comfort him while he cries from pain.

[save-the-child-qais]

Today we ran out of clean bandages and medicine, and I had no money left to replace them. I never imagined I would beg strangers to help me care for my child.

[save-the-child-qais]

I am begging you as a persecuted mother in Gaza, watching my baby bleed in front of me, unable to stop it. Please donate now and help me save his life before it’s too late.

Please donate now Gofundme

[save-the-child-qais]

Every day without treatment makes his condition worse, and I am terrified that I am slowly watching him slip away from me. Please donate now—your kindness could help Qais receive the treatment he desperately needs.

[chingaderita]

Happy Pride Month!!

We've got no money for our son's trans care!!!

[chingaderita]

Our last post

Hola, i'm Calli, a nonbinary mexican parent. Both my partner and I are chronically ill, we're the main providers for our family of 9, that includes his mom, dad and sister because they lost everything in a fire back in November 2023. TW for the house after the fire.

We are poor and unemployed, all adults have some chronic condition, chronic pain and we live constantly exposed to mold, rust and other issues the house has. The landlord does jackshit but sure comes to collect rent every now and then.

To top it off i have been getting harrassed by racist unkind people here, making me suicidal.

My blog's archive proving i have been here since 2013, the first post i ever reblogged.

https://chingaderita.tumblr.com/archive/2013/5

I sometimes share recipes too!

I have been offering spanish conversation classes online for $12 usd/hr. Right now im earning $12 a week, do you think I can support a family of 9 with that?

**I tracked down comments in notes ive made through the years, as far as 2016, I did all that even before this new tumblr update showing our comments so I did all that hard work for nothing lol, you can ask for links in my dm's this is already long enough as is.**

Our goal is to get our eldest's a couple of binders, his testosterone and medication he needs for a condition he needs a surgery for but we can't afford.

$0/$500

PAYPAL KOFI THRONE

*We made a throne to show some needs we have but usually don't get because we focus on food and bills, we're behind on rent and bills and need groceries so money would help us even more.

EDIT June 13th!!!

We have not made any of our above goals because my partner's dad tried to force a haircut on our trans daughter, I had to take our kids to safety and every donation got used on hotel rooms and meals.

We came back to a house without water supply, we can't flush, we can't wash, shower or clean.

And we haven't found any family who can take my father in law.

Right now we urgently need to get water, a haircut for our daughter, our eldest's testosterone and everything we hoped to achieve above in the original post.

Please, check the reblogs and I hope I made sense even with my 24hrs without sleep.

ANYTHING HELPS!!!!!

[chingaderita]

EDIT JUNE 18TH

I know this has a lot of notes but we're barely getting water daily or none at all.

We haven't made the gender affirming goals for our son, or our daughter's haircut to fix the damage her grandpa did to her.

We need to replace our insulin, get my meds and get food. A side from other bunch of pressing needs but those are the top ones.

Please, anything helps!!!!

[chingaderita]

We spent every last cent on water yesterday, we need help affording water in the morning, the insulin, food and our son has missed his second T shot in a row.

Please HELP!!!!!

$0/$250

[fairycosmos]

im so so good at making simple tasks complicated and unbearable

[wolf-aid]

Western journalists feel that there are no consequences for them, so they have started publishing provocative or inhumane statements in this way.

[wolf-aid]

Look, it's clear that when you're suffering, you're not allowed anything pleasant, peaceful, or even a little bit of luxury—because people immediately decide that "the situation isn't that bad" and tell you to relax. As if trying to experience simple, normal moments erases the pain and suffering. It's truly infuriating logic.

[wolf-aid]

Guys, no one has looked upon us with compassion since October 7th. Gaza has been relentlessly bombed. Hospitals have been targeted and besieged. Water has been cut off, electricity cut off, food prevented, and people have lived with hunger, thirst, and fear every day. Millions have been forced to flee from place to place, carrying what little life they have left in their hands. And even amidst all this, the world is still debating whether the suffering in Gaza is "real enough." My family and I are suffering greatly and need help. Please donate and share this post.

[wolf-aid]

Guys, please, we need your help, we don't have the money to buy food and medicine, please guys help us and donate to me my last donation a day ago. We're really suffering.

[wolf-aid]

Guys, just €350 to reach 9,500 from your silver, help me and donate, my family is waiting for your help, donate if possible, and don't ignore me, please. You're the only hope.

[nesmamomen]

FUCKKK FUCK FUCK I can't believe this. My father is having terrible seizures. You can't imagine the pain he's going through right now.

Seven members of my family have died, and I can't bear the thought of my father dying too. Please, he just needs heart surgery!!!!!

[nesmamomen]

My tears won't stop. I feel helpless. I don't know what to do. My father is dying in front of me, and you are my only hope.

[nesmamomen]

I am not a beggar; I trust that you feel my pain as I watch my father slowly die before my eyes.

We need everyone's support to raise the funds for my father's surgery. Please donate any amount.or by paypal ....Verification

[nesmamomen]

We need your help too. We are living in famine and my father is suffering.

$300 LEFT LEFT LEFT LEFT

[nesmamomen]

If you see this and want to help but don't have the money, please just share this post so it becomes visible to everyone

Donate to Help Nesma & Family Survive Winter in Gaza, organized by Mena K

Nesma Ahmed is raising funds to help her family survive the Winter in Gaza and evacu… Mena K needs your support for Help Nesma & Family Surv

Pay Mohammed Rz Abujayyab using PayPal.Me

Go to paypal.me/mohajayyab and type in the amount. Since it’s PayPal, it's easy and secure. Don’t have a PayPal account? No worries.

[nesmamomen]

$99 LEEEFFFFFTTTTTT LEFT LEFT

[awesomeart-83]

I’m so sorry that your father is dying. I can’t donate but I can reblog.

[interyuurei]

I’m on my last two weeks of my medication, unless they decide to treat me like a damn human being, I’ll have to request to appeal to my state’s DHS to get more of it filled. Assuming they even accept the appeal request, then I’m screwed until or unless I can move ASAP to a blue state, and my medical records aren’t enough anymore. In fact, they mean absolutely nothing. They want me to hunt down medical journals that prove medicine I’ve had to be on damn near all my life “actually does anything” for my already minimally documented intersex variations. I have to prove with other people’s words and experiences, that may not even exist in writing present or available mind you, if I “actually need it.”

They’re trying to fight me on other medications, too, nothing or minimally to do with being intersex. Ones I still need to live. I have a bad feeling even if I do get more of it, since they’re allowed to now if my existence “goes against their religion,” my doctor will drop me. She already tried once after Trump was elected, but couldn’t legally yet so had to keep seeing me… I’m a little shocked she hasn’t already yet, honestly. That she didn’t the moment the civil rights removal act went through. It fills me with pure dread.

Support ᥫ᭡.

Not to sound overly dramatic or anything, genuinely, but my situation is pretty dire. Please help, if you can? Otherwise please share.

My pinned post explains how else my situation is horrific, urgent, in my k•fi itself I am vague as possible for my safety to lessen the chance of my abusers I desperately need to escape from (again see my pinned post) finding it since if it’s shared outside Tumblr I have less ability to make sure it doesn’t reach them. I decided just to make a new post since that one is so long. It has to be, my situation is so complex, still I’m sorry. Please help me if you can, otherwise reblog and share.