Loves Me, Loves Me Not

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[class-war-hooligan-deactivated2]

Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.

Margaret Atwood  (via saintofsass)

[vampmissedith]

When I was a freshman, my sister was in eighth grade. There was a boy in two of her periods who would ask her out every single day. (Third and seventh period, if I remember correctly.) All day during third and seventh she would repeatedly tell him no. She didn’t beat around...

[yayfeminism]

We don’t know if Elliot Rodger was mentally ill. We don’t know if he was a “madman.” We do know that he was desperately lonely and unhappy, and that the Men’s Rights Movement convinced him that his loneliness and unhappiness was intentionally caused by women. Because this is what the Men’s Rights Movement does: it spreads misogyny, it spreads violence, and most of all it spreads a sense of entitlement towards women’s bodies. Pretending that this is the a rare act perpetrated by a “crazy” person is disingenuous and also does nothing to address the threat of violence that women face every day. We can’t just write this one off – we need to talk about all of the fucked up parts of our culture, especially the movements that teach men that they have the right to dominate and intimidate and violate women, that lead to this, and we need to change things. Because if we don’t, I guarantee that this will happen again. And again. And again.

Elliot Rodger And Men Who Hate Women (via fucknosexistcostumes)

[two4fit]

TABLOID HEADLINES WITHOUT THE SEXISM

[womenactionmedia]

"It’s mildly breezy outside."

[inothernews]

[scruples]

more here ☾

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[evrogina]

[beetlesandgalaxies]

[aauw]

We expect the Senate to vote today, so the time to take action is NOW! 

[thepeoplesrecord]

Each and every one of us has the capacity to be an oppressor. I want to encourage each and every one of us to interrogate how we might be an oppressor, and how we might be able to become liberators for ourselves and each other.

Laverne Cox, at the GLAAD Media Awards (via thepeoplesrecord)

[lovesmenot-lovesme]

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[disabledgirlism-bye]

it’s pretty common for people discussing rape culture within feminist discourse to conveniently leave out disabled girls, but this is just a casual reminder that disabled women are far more likely to be sexually assaulted, abused or raped than able-bodied women. on top of that, 50% of deaf girls and 54% of deaf boys have been sexually abused or assaulted. so please stop leaving us out of your discussion about rape culture.

[safercampus-blog]

April is Sexual Assault ACTIVISM Month! Tell us your campus’ #SAAM plans by tweeting #SAAM @safercampus ! 

[streetartsf]

I am not your Property.

Tatyana Fazlalizadeh.

Photography by Graff Hunter.

Martin Luther King Blvd in Oakland, Ca

[blondeyed]

Toxic masculinity hurts men, but there’s a big difference between women dealing with the constant threat of being raped, beaten, and killed by the men in their lives, and men not being able to cry.

Robert Jensen (via quoilecanard)

literally what I say whenever news shows get into their “save the boys” feels

(via masteradept)

[melkorisacrybaby]

It’s not about men or women.

Nobody should ever hit anyone.

Nobody should ever rape anyone.

Nobody should ever murder anyone.

Nobody should ever beat anyone.

Nobody should ever threaten anyone.

Nobody should ever insult anyone.

Nobody should ever make anyone uncomfortable.

Nobody should ever touch anyone without their consent.

Nobody should ever steal from anyone.

Nobody should ever humiliate anyone.

[newsweekscience]

For years, social scientists have tried to explain why living together before marriage seemed to increase the likelihood of a couple divorcing. Now, new research released by the nonpartisan Council on Contemporary Families gives an answer: It doesn’t. And it probably never has.

This is despite two decades of warnings from academics and social commentators who pointed to studies that claimed a correlation between “shacking up” and splitting up—warnings that increased as the number of couples living together before marriage skyrocketed.

As it turns out, those studies that linked premarital cohabitation and divorce were measuring the wrong variable, says Arielle Kuperburg, a professor at the University of North Carolina, Greensboro, who produced much of the research released Monday.

The biggest predictor of divorce, she says, is actually the age at which a couple begins living together, whether before the wedding vows or after.

Best predictor of divorce? Age when couples cohabit, study says

[themarysue]

I want [female characters] to be allowed to be weak and strong and happy and sad – human, basically. The fallacy in Hollywood is that if you’re making a ‘feminist’ story, the woman kicks ass and wins. That’s not feminist, that’s macho. A movie about a weak, vulnerable woman can be feminist if it shows a real person that we can empathize with.

Natalie Portman, laying down a truth bomb about female characters  (via the-lyrics-speak-for-me)