I Wanna Get Better

[kosmogrl]

no love is ever wasted

[vonlipwig]

my life really did improve when i decided to just constantly, casually compliment my friends and family. i cannot recommend it more. it makes everything better. you look incredible in that shirt, you're one of the funniest people i know, you're wearing the hell out of that dress, you're so sexy wtf, you're so talented, i love talking to you, you're so fun to be around, you're so kind, that haircut is amazing, i love you, i love you, i love you

[vergess]

This sounds like bullshit when you're deep in throes of depression and burnout and all that. But it is a real technique and it really works.

By teaching yourself to always find a compliment first when you look at others, it becomes easier to loom for the 'good' or the 'potential' in everything else.

Including yourself, if self loathing is something you struggle with.

Practicing kindness to others makes kindness to yourself easier.

[not-cuidarnos-deactivated202312]

[girlandgeese]

Note to self

Stop thinking: “I’m not talented enough to execute this concept.” Start thinking: “I’m going to be a stronger artist when I’ve finished this piece.”

[404youbroketheinternet]

This is a fixed mindset vs. a growth mindset.

Your abilities are not static, and any challenges you have, anything that turns out different from how you imagined, is not evidence of failure, just a struggle towards improvement.

[sophie531896273240810891]

weird how nothing about u is like, too small or too dumb to know bc it all comes together to become YOU. sending your friend a picture of your favorite snack is saying something important whether u realize it or not. wheres that palahniuk quote

[sophie531896273240810891]

zoo wee mama…

[violentwavesofemotion-deactivat]

Ivan Bunin, tr. by Richard Hare, from Dark Avenues & Other Stories; “Musa,”

[cerleansky]

The legacies people leave behind in you.

My handwriting is the same style as the teacher’s who I had when I was nine. I’m now twenty one and he’s been dead eight years but my i’s still curve the same way as his.

I watched the last season of a TV show recently but I started it with my friend in high school. We haven’t spoken in four years.

I make lentil soup through the recipe my gran gave me.

I curl my hair the way my best friend showed me.

I learned to love books because my father loved them first.

How terrifying, how excruciatingly painful to acknowledge this. That I am a jigsaw puzzle of everyone I have briefly known and loved. I carry them on with me even if I don’t know it. How beautiful.

[speaklavenderthoughts-deactivat]

absolutely obsessed with these tags

[king-jsmoove-deactivated2022110]

Hear me out…. How about we just date, fall in love, communicate effectively, respect each other, support each other, and then boom. We get married 

[oldwinesoul]

“Love is a sacrament that should be taken kneeling”

—Oscar Wilde

[deadithurts]

andrew garfield saying, “i hope this grief stays with me because it’s all the unexpressed love that i didn’t get to tell her” about his mothers passing is so gut wrenchingly beautiful because we rarely talk about the love we want to express but can’t, not because you’re not brave enough to say it out loud but because they’re not here to listen to it anymore. calling grief the love you never had the chance to share makes it less of a burden and more of something you want to keep and not something terrible you want to move on from. i love love how everything about grief always comes down to “what is grief if not love persevering?”

[jb-blunk]

if you are lucky you will love someone and their hair will thin and their breasts will sag and you will kiss them everywhere over and over again

[jb-blunk]

I was having a conversation with someone who was lamenting over how to maintain attraction to our partners as their bodies change and age and feeling self conscious herself about that process and I was like. we should be so lucky as to see them through these many years as we are seen ourselves. Hope that helps u understand

[ryebreadgf]

THE GARDEN

[beardedmrbean]

[pleasechokemedaddy2]

I thoroughly believe men should be loved the way women are expected to be loved. Shampoo his hair for him in the shower and rinse it out for him. Pull him to your chest and play with his hair when he’s feeling sad or sleepy. Take him out to dinner and pay for his meal. Bring him little surprise gifts. Kiss his forehead and temple when you see him. Let him be the little spoon and hold onto him like he’s everything to you. Be obsessed with him, treat him with all the love you expect to be treated with.

[switch-boy-drew-deactivated2022]

Crying in the club rn

[anxi-ous]

I want to make you happy and kiss you a lot.

[plain-flavoured-english]

Your purpose in life is not to love yourself but to love being yourself.

If you goal is to love yourself, then your focus is directed inward toward yourself, and you end up constantly watching yourself from the outside, disconnected, trying to summon the “correct” feelings towards yourself or fashion yourself into something you can approve of.

If your goal is to love being yourself, then your focus is directed outward towards life, on living and making decisions based on what brings you pleasure and fulfillment.

Be the subject, not the object. It doesn’t matter what you think of yourself. You are experiencing life. Life is not experiencing you.

[saxifraga-x-urbium]

Thank you this is the first post about self love that hasn’t made me want to throw things

[angelbabyspice]

This is EXACTLY what it’s like.

[orange-marzipan]

[ID: A screenshot of a Tiktok with text overlaid on a picture of two people in a kitchen together. The text reads: “when i was younger i don’t think i realized how much marriage was going to just feel like hanging out with your best buddy all the time. i didn’t realize how much of it would be so platonic. when you’re together 24/7 only maybe 30% of your words and interactions are romantic, sexia;. etc. most of your time is spent in the mundane.

make sure you wait until you find the person that even just going to the grocery store or cooking dinner is a highlight. and where arguments feel like healthy stepping stones and not exhausting. where you light up differently when you with them 💘.” The Tiktok is by @vora.quinn and is captioned “this was meant to be funny bc it doesn’t match the music but then i wrote this out…(cut off).” End ID]