what is love, if not being seen?

one day i'll watch the shows i keep reblogging gifs from, alas today is not that day; half of the posts are queued;

[sunsbleeding]

[myhotrodisaflyingsaucer]

“i-is this wuh luh wuh 🥺🥺” no bitch this is DYKE posting. this is a L-L-L-LESBIAN POST *air horn noises*

[docholligay]

Possibly my spiciest take is that it's actually good to have people you respect and like that have some dogshit takes.

I think part of what is making young people lonelier, in discussing why they're increasingly isolated, is that they're so afraid of meeting someone who doesn't hold their same beliefs, and instead of being just core beliefs it is kinda ancillary shit.

It's actually okay to disagree even on social topics! Even on some political ones! But I mean, online you can start with "i love this mutual but they have a really bad/uninformed opinion about x media"

I know this is IMMEDIATELY going to be taken in bad faith, and yes babygirl, you are so right, I DO want you to go make best friends with both the KKK grand wizard AND your nearest nazi leader.

But seriously, as someone who has spent two decades doing community organization: finding ways to connect with different people is so so so important. There are people i follow here who ate 80% smart and their brain falls out of their head 20% of the time and that is GOOD FOR MY MENTAL ECOSYSTEM AND GOOD FOR LEARNING HOW TO BE A PERSON

LET'S ALL GO PISS ON THE POOR

[mikkeneko]

[dezdemonomania]

There is no human on earth that lines up with your idealogy 100%. They don't exist. I've known my husband for almost 3 decades, he is my best friend, and we don't mesh that well because we're separate people. It would be insufferable to have someone who always agrees with you.

I think at least part of the problem is we've decided everything is a moral fucking crisis. Everything is a make-or-break issue, and it's impossible to meet those metrics. If everything is the most dire judgement on your character, then nothing fucking matters. If nobody is allowed to grow or change their mind, then nobody can meet that standard.

[thecoloredcanvas]

The main thing about this that no one likes to acknowledge is that everyone, yes even op, has at least a 20% intellectual fail rate.

In this era of ai and anti-intellectualism, the desire for and, especially, the expectation of, being right without trying is at an all-time high. On the political left in particular, there is no match for the social capital of being Correct.

But being right about shit, even being intelligent, is not how people form healthy relationships and communities. Those things are built off of common goals and a steady dedication of care, time, and labor.

Additionally, when you do build true friendships, relationships, communities, you will find that everyone's 20% fail rate is a vital teaching moment for everyone else.

Everyone needs their bullshit takes questioned, and this confrontation is most palatable coming from your bonkers friend Ariana who you once had to stop from putting the electric kettle on the stovetop. She's fucking dumb sometimes and so. are. you.

Diversity is a necessity of health; a diversity of thought is no different.

[partywithponies]

One of the most annoying genres of people on the internet are people who act like they believe science is one single monolithic thing. Like, you'll see an article saying something like "scientists studying the movement of tectonic plates", and then in the comments there'll be several smug people saying "smh why are scientists doing this instead of finding a cure for cancer", like. Why would a geologist be doing that.

[thegenderal]

[turtles-allthewaydown]

Did you know? That the back is made up of terrible and evil muscles that are only waiting for their chance to betray you

[monamoni]

[redscharlach]

Head stays still but the body GROOVES

[ckret2]

sometimes bird mating dances just look bizarre but if i saw a guy doing this at the club i'd know EXACTLY what he's after

[spelldealer]

cousins and coworkers are addicted to getting pregnant

[birdblues]

instagram.com/thejungalow/

[batbetbitbotbut]

r/knitting post of the day by u/Optimus_FineAsHell:

I was unknowingly working on a 35 foot long blanket for years

I started a blanket 10 years ago and put it down shortly after starting. It was on 30” circulars and I just kept casting on until I couldn’t fit anymore stitches. I was new to the hobby so I figured it would just be “blanket sized.”

I picked it back up about 6 months ago determined to finally finish this thing. I transferred it to 60” circulars to give myself more working space, and during that transfer I counted 450ish stitches, but that would just be a big king sized blanket right? So I kept going. But after about 9 balls of yarn and only 2 feet in length finished, I gave up and decided I would just crochet the blanket instead.

Halfway through my crocheted version, I ran out of yarn and made the sad decision to frog the knitted project for salvage yarn. After removing the circular needles, I thought it’d be interesting to see how wide the blanket actually was.

After straightening it all out I stared at my work, utterly dumbfounded, that I had been working on a 35 foot wide blanket this whole time. I am SO GLAD I did not finish this project as I would’ve cried at the monster I had brought into the world.

tl;dr - You should really pay attention to the size reference chart on your yarn and count the stitches when free-handing as a newbie.

And finally, the blanket:

[djbodyhorror]

your mom jokes don't work when you know someone too well. I would never be in bed with such a wicked woman. That's not even what I had your mom saying last night. I wouldn't speak to her.

[halque]

btw the "women aren't written in a compelling way" argument quickly falls flat when the people who say these things also happen to be fans of MEN who aren't written well. you can argue that its the system which is misogynistic all you want, but drooling over a gimmick-y trope-y male character a second after tells me all i need to know

[mossy-cobble]

crazy how i find myself thinking i've got a handle on it all finally and then i see the ways that other people tangle their lives together so easily and live so easily together with their friends and i feel like that girl at the top of the stairs painting by norman rockwell

[mossy-cobble]

i'll always be here

[entrailer]

sometimes you invent mind prisons for yourself for no good reason and youre like "i really like being in the mind prison" even though you dont actually like being in the mind prison

[poetrylesbian]

obviously dietary requirements aren't a joke but my grandma sometimes runs errands for her church and i asked her what she's up to today and she said extremely seriously "ive got to track down the body of the gluten free christ, julia"

[automatonwithautonomy]

giles killing ben is one of the best moments in the show because. he's never been able to protect buffy before. he wants to. ineffectually, helplessly, he tries to. but he can't. he watches her march to her death, she protects him from it. he can't ever save her he can't help her he can't protect her he can barely fucking love her. every night giles sends her to a potential end and every night she come back is more fucking blood on her hands but this! the death of an innocent person, he can take from her. one thing buffy summers doesn't have to hold on her shoulders. it's not as if he hasn't done it before. and he does it so well, brutal and swift, and yet. it still. doesn't. matter. buffy summers falls to her grave.

[sandmandaddy69]

[harzilla]

Reblog to cast healing for your homies.