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[findomproblems]

Hey, I'm a beginning male dom on the findom scene and I could really use some tips. Got any?

What sorts of tips were you looking for? I’ve only ever had one female sub (unless you were planning on having male subs?), but I suppose I could offer some general words of wisdom:

Figure out what you want before you jump into it. I know the idea is so exciting at first that you want to jump into it right away, but it really is better to stop and think about it for a couple of days before you jump into it. Maybe even write out a contract and profile beforehand so that you don’t have to do it in a rush. If you want to see an example of a contract, click here to see one written by me.

If you’re not already intimately familiar with BDSM terms, then familiarize yourself with them. Figure out all the terms, the different names for certain kinks, and decide what you are and are not willing to do.

If you’re going to charge, make an e-mail, Skype, Yahoo, Amazon, and Tumblr account that’s completely different from the ones that you use for your real life. I’ve never had a sub stalk me before, but I think this is essential just for your own safety. (You don’t have to make a new PayPal account; just remove the invoice so that subs who donate to you can’t see your name.)

Don’t be afraid to ask other Doms/Dommes for their advice. I find some Dommes tend to be rude and bitchy towards newcomers on the scene, but there are so many of them that are incredibly helpful and forthcoming with information. 

Make accounts on several different websites. My personal favorites are CollarMe (which is currently shut down, but it might come back one day; who knows), Fetlife, alt.com, and adultwork.com.

And finally: don’t take yourself so seriously. The most essential part of BDSM is the Dom/sub relationship; and it’s hard to bond with somebody who’s acting like a dick to you even outside of the parameters of your relationship (unless they specifically want that). 

[findomproblems]

In your findom tips blog you said on #3 to just remove the invoice on PayPal. How do you do that exactly?

Here you go! There are step-by-step instructions on here:https://www.paypal-community.com/t5/Adding-and-updating-info/HOW-DO-I-STOP-BUYERS-SEEING-MY-PERSONAL-NAME-WHEN-I-SEND-THEM-AN/td-p/216360?profile.language=en-gb

If you can’t figure it out for whatever reason, you could also have your subs send you money through GiftRocket.com. It still ends up on your PayPal, but they pay you through a third party, so neither of you can see each others’ names; it just shows up as “GiftRocket”. This is also great for subs who don’t want you to see their name, either.

[lvlust]

I used the be the girl that begged someone to stay, now im just opening the door for whoever wants to leave my life

a year changes you a lot  (via

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[diamond-heiress-deactivated2018]

HOW TO LIVE A LUXURIOUS LIFE WITHOUT SPENDING A LOT

I became a student of luxury, reading quality literature, watching classic films and reading Town and Country and Vogue.

I stopped listening to my thoughts that said things like, “Girl, you grew up in a trailer. Who do you think you are?” It’s just needless chatter. You get to write your story from here on out.

I started fully engaging with my world and the people in it, asking questions, seeking answers and constantly putting myself out there. Scary? Yes! Thrilling?Absolument!

I placed fresh flowers in my home. Flowers are nature’s Chanel.

I visited my parents more. They always make me feel like a princess.

I sought out quality conversations that discussed the fascinating stuff of life, like death, love, politics, religion, travel, fashion and food and wine. Well, at least those things are interesting to me. Your list may look completely different.

I attended luxurious events, such as an orientation for women at Duke’s School of Business. Keep in mind, I was working as a full-time nurse and had never been in business. These events also didn’t cost me a dime other than the gas to get there. This is how you begin to call things to you, darling.

I started walking through Saks as if I belonged there, not like some freak whose eyes were going to pop out of my sockets when I saw the price of a Louisbag. Nope, just a shoulder shrug like it wasn’t the bag for me.

I became a major food snob and committed to moving my body daily. I would save up and go to the nicest restaurants.  A glass of Sauterne to wash it down? Of course! I also made moving my body a daily priority. Some days, it was a saunter; other days a full out sweat session. Just move.

I believed I deserved a luxurious life. The most giving people I know live the good life, which is how they are able to help so many others. You’ve got to clean up this thought that you don’t deserve it in order to allow luxury into your life.

I hung out in the lobbies of fine hotels and just experienced the world of luxury. They don’t charge you for lobby space, and they usually have free wi-fi. Great office space, by the way.

Read more at : http://destinationluxury.com/live-luxurious-life-without-spending-much-money/

[lucy-memphis]

Gout and weight loss

I have gout. A friend suggested a table spoon of apple cider vinegar in hot tea with melon twice a day to help break down the build up of uric acid. It's helping. The only problem is I'm also losing weight at a rapid pace. My BMi is high so you would think I'd be please with this however... I see my fat as being a shield to keep men away and I fear being a target for another rape if I become too skinny and desirable. Crazy sounding I know bc I doubt it's true yet I can't stop being scared to death ever time I see the numbers on the scale decline.

[lucy-memphis]

I meet guys who are interested in me but after a few minutes of talking, they say I'm not what they thought I'd be (prim and proper. Put together and stuck up). Idk if this is a good thing or not. I seemed to instantly pushing ppl away as a defense mechanism.

[witchesgrass-deactivated2018022]

💧✨ "Cleanse and Protect" Spray Potion ✨💧

This potion is meant to be sprayed in each of the four corners of your rooms to have a two-in-one benefit of cleansing your space and protecting it as well!

Items needed:

- A Spray Bottle - “Cleanse and Protect” Sigil - Jasmine Oil - Peridot (chips or the stone) - Filtered Water - Amethyst - A candle

Steps:

Put a couple drops of Jasmine Oil into the spray bottle. Add the Peridot and then the filtered water. Draw or tape the sigil onto the bottle and then set it near or on top of the Amethyst. Light the candle near by to allow it to charge and soak up the energies of the Peridot, Amethyst, Jasmine Oil, and the candle light.

When you are finished, spray in all corners of your room or house and breathe in the scent of Jasmine to soothe and cleanse your soul and aura. It would be good to meditate on these good feelings to fill your space with positive energy. 💕

[izzystein]

whatever shit you get yourself into, no matter how fucked up everything is, if you’re failing that class (or several), or your girlfriend is screaming at you from the staircase, and your brother has stopped answering your texts, or the answering machine on the other end of the line is just a reminder that you’ll never hear her voice again, or you’re staring at razor blades or a canister of blow, or you’re staring at your hands and you don’t remember the last three years, or you’re sitting alone on a saturday night while your roommate gets dressed to go out with some friends and she asks you if she can borrow your boots, no matter how over it all is, something starts tomorrow. it’s the second law of thermodynamics, entropy. some systems need the chaos, the disorder, to increase over time, for there to be a future. it is the reversibility of natural processes and the account for the asymmetry of the past and the future. something has to end, because something starts tomorrow.

last call by i.stein (via izzystein)

[tobeagenius]

When it comes to human nature, it’s true to say actions speak louder than words.

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Meghan Comeau

[9vengrove]

Another gorgeous set!!

[thesugaringescort]

You need to be very careful when you are “feeding” into his imagination and desires, with things that you are not actually interested in, or are ever going to try or enjoy.

This can and will lead you down a very angry, resentful, mistrusted and unsafe path.

If you know that you do not want a threesome, simply tell him that it is not something that you’re interested in. If you lead him on and on about a threesome, and are not prepared to back it up when the opportunity arises, don’t be surprised if you find yourself sitting at the curb while another SB enjoys your role. Set yourself up for success the best way that you can…be honest, deliver on your promises, just like how you want him to deliver on his right?

In no way, am I trying to state that you need to only do whatever he wants sexually in order to keep him. If he’s an ass, disrespects you and makes you feel uncomfortable…then by all means, kick him to the curb! But what I am saying, is that if you lie to him, then that’s a choice that one day you’ll have to answer to, when he comes looking for the truth.

I would never want you to put yourself in an uncomfortable situation with someone, simply because your feeding his sexual ego with empty promises. It’s not worth it.

If you happen to decide that you want to have a sexual relationship with your SD, why not make the most of it? Why not enjoy it, take the time to teach each other things, to engage in things that you both want and will enjoy together? Why not make it fun?

As for age, it doesn’t matter. There are men who are 20 years young and they will already have more experience than a man who’s 60 years and older. Sometimes life’s just like that, and sometimes the 60 year old man has more moves than you never even knew existed.

I have found that most of my previous SD’s and Clients, weren’t all that kinky, because they had been married and faithful for long periods of time. (Which worked to my advantage, because they cane to really enjoy their time with me lol). And what’s now common place for women to express that they desire (rimming, anal, spankings, choking, bondage etc), was taboo and shameful for a woman to even think of 40 years ago. So there were a lot of older men, who knew about the different kinds of kink (who fantasized about Bettie Page) and who wanted to try them out…but they’d never dare ask their wives for fear of rejection and stigmas.

Maybe this is why your SD is seeking out your services as an SB. He may not be lacking in basic companionship so to speak, but he may be lacking in sexual excitement and experience. He’s most likely asking you to suggest the kinks that you want to try and that you enjoy, in the hopes that you can teach him? Or in the hopes that you’ll try them together, teach each other as safe non-judging partners.

There’s always the possibility, that he may already have tons of sexual experience, and is being a respectful and responsible gentleman by asking you what your desires are, so that he can attempt to fulfill them, and not cross any boundaries that may make you feel uncomfortable. If this is the case, you should be very happy about this!

When it comes to things like kinks, fetishes, desires etc, this is actually a great position to be in. It gives you the opportunity to research things that may interest you, and to figure out some things that at this point in your sexuality, you may want to try with him. BEFORE your in the heat of the moment. We all start somewhere…

By doing your research, it helps you to better be prepared for suggestions and possible scenarios that you may run into, with him and with others. If he suggests something that you havent heard of, you may find yourself saying “yes” to something that you don’t fully understand, and wishing that you had said “no” instead.

I think it’s great that you are communicating about your sexual expectations and desires, BEFORE engaging in any real situations, so that in the heat of the moment, neither if you will find yourselves unprepared or in shock!

You’ll see, that when you research certain kinks/fetishes, some of them will require certain equipment, toys, manipulatives, clothing, personal grooming etc. To make the most out of these opportunities, you’ll want to be prepared if something very specific is needed, such as anal beads or a certain size gag ball etc. So, whatever you decide to try TOGETHER, you’ll need to be a little prepared. Yes, I say together as its a partnership: 2 people decide, 2 people feel safe, secure, protected and respected, and 2 people engage.

But don’t get so caught up on the toys and excitement, that you forget to think of things like:

* Safe words

* Personal limits

* Any trust issues that you may have

* After care options, mentally and physically etc, for your equipment/toys and for yourselves.

* Etc, etc. I can’t possibly sun it all up in one answer…

Once you do a little research, at first there may be things that make you feel uneasy, and that make you feel anything but sexual, but don’t be too quick to judge.

5 years ago, if a man tied me up and wrapped his hands around my throat, I probably would have peed my pants from fear! Fast forward to today, and I crave it. I can close my eyes and “feel” it happening to me…anyway where was I? Lol.

One last thing before I gotta go is:

When you say “For now, I just need too feed his imagination, until its a must”, nothing is ever a must. If someone forces you to participate in something that you do not want to do, or that you don’t feel comfortable with…you need to leave.

This is exactly why it’s important not to carry on false pretences of things that you’ll participate in and that you’ll enjoy, and lead him on with “hope”, when in reality you won’t. You are setting yourself up for some possible scary situations, by not being honest with him.

If you’re only suggesting a threesome because you think it’s going to make you look hot, cool, sexy etc…you’re wrong. Being honest with your desires, is hot. Teaching him how to please you sexually, is hot. Participating in sexual things that you enjoy, is hot. Pleasing him sexually while being respectful to your body, mind and choices, is hot. Being sexy is knowing yourself, your body and your interests. Sexy is not lying, just to get their money.

Be honest, determine your boundaries and interests, share them with him, and have fun together!

Safe Words:

http://m.voices.yahoo.com/establishing-safe-word-sexual-experimentation-32667.html

Light bondage:

http://www.tootimid.com/Beginners-Guide-To-Bondage_b_130.html

Sexual limits quiz:

http://www.helloquizzy.com/tests/test-your-sexual-limits-bdsm-amp-more

404 Common types of kinks and fetishes:

http://fetishfuel.wikia.com/wiki/Examples_of_Common_Kinks,_Tropes,_Clichés,_and_Fetishes

What does kink, fetish and paraphilia actually mean?

FYI: shopping is not a fetish ;)

http://www.thefrisky.com/2013-01-18/fetishes-101-all-the-basics-about-having-a-sexual-fetish-or-paraphilia/

Good luck!

[thesugaringescort]

Maya Angelou

I’ve always loved Maya Angelou and the calmness, grace and gratitude that she brought whenever she spoke.

Around my house, I have random quotes placed in picture frames, on the fridge as magnets or written on little notepads here and there.

Here are 10 of her quotes, (plus the one above) that remind me not only of how to live life in general, but especially when it comes to Sugaring or Escorting:

1) “Surviving is important, thriving is elegant.”

2) “I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”

3) “You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead pursue the things you love doing, and do them so well that people can’t take their eyes off you.”

4) “We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated.”

5) “I am a Woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal Woman, that’s me.”

6) “I’ve learned that making a living is not the same thing as making a life.”

7) “We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.”

8) “Nothing will work unless you do.”

9) “It is the worst thing you can do, women, is whine…I mean the worst. Don’t complain, protest.”

Last but not least….

10) “We all should know that diversity makes for a rich tapestry and we must understand that all the threads of the tapestry are equal in value no matter what their colour.”

[thesugaringescort]

Hey sugar , I wanted to ask you what do you use for email payments? PayPal? I'm looking to find something that's most secure and private. Thanks in advance. Love your blog xoxo

I’m not that familiar with Pay-Pal, so I can’t really give any pointers in how to use it the most effective and safe way. Besides cash, I tend to favour email transfers.

I have simply found that they can be one of the quickest and safest ways to collect/obtain money from someone, whether they are a stranger or not. All you need to do, is give the person who is trying to send/wire money to you, the email address that you have attached with your online banking.

This is important though:

When you set up an email address to use with your banking, DO NOT use your personal email address that you use for work, friends, family etc. Create a completely new one, for this specific purpose.

Basically, it works like this:

1) Go to Gmail and create an address that is no way connected to anything you do, whether its your nickname, your tumblr user name or your Sugaring and Escorting name. Just think of something random like “sunshineandrainbows@….”

2) Call your bank (or visit a teller) and explain to them that you would like to set up your account to receive email money transfers. If you already have an email being used for your banking, just state that you would like to update it to your new email address. They will either be able to help you over the phone, or can guide you as to how to do it online, depending on your banks websites and features. It really shouldn’t take more than 5-10 minutes in total.

3) You can confirm that it is set up by either sending yourself an email transfer from another account or bank that you use, or have a trusted friend send you a small amount, to test it out so that you can get a feel for how it works.

4) You can now give your Pot, Client or SD, the same email address that you used with the bank.

5) He will be asked to provide a security question in order for you to process/collect the transfer on your end. It’s a normal safety precaution. Once he has sent you the transfer, he will then need to either text, tell, or email you what the “answer” is for the question, as sometimes spelling such as the use of capital letters matters.

6) You will either get an email notification or a text notification (I get both with my bank - they use your phone number that’s on file with your account and no, he will not see this information), that “so-and-so” has sent you an email transfer. Once you click on the link on either method, all you have to do is follow the basic prompts: pick your banking institution from a menu, provide the answer to the security question that he set up, click which account you’d like the money to be deposited in (chequings or savings etc) and then click log out. Actually, after I click which account I want it to be deposited in, I always take a peak at that account…why not? Lol

* He does not need to know which bank you use.

* He does not need to know which city you live in.

* He does not need to know your real name.

* He does not need to know your address.

* He does not need to know your date of birth, age, ethnicity, hair colour, or even your favourite colour.

ALL HE NEEDS TO KNOW IS YOUR BANKING EMAIL ADDRESS.

I really like email transfers because they are quick, can be completed in less than 5-10 minutes, you are guaranteed the funds - as in order for him to send them…he had to already have them in his account, and it allows you to keep your personal information private.

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interac_e-Transfer

http://youtu.be/5fYtVpkuHJA

Good luck!

[thesugaringescort]

To date, I have received email transfers from just about every bank within Canada, and so far, my bank and the banks that my senders have been using to send me their money, will only give the sender my real name for the following two reasons:

1) I’ve given them my real name.

2) They have somehow figured it out on their own, without me telling them.

Since you’ve sent this question, I’ve asked both R and C, what happens after I open their email transfer and I accept it into my bank account. I asked them if it shows them my name, my address, what bank I used to receive the email transfer and if it shows even to what account I chose to deposit it into? etc.

Both have said that the only information that appears in their confirmation emails, is the name that they have “given” me. Meaning, the name that they have used to identify me when they fill out their email transfer form. All they need is my banking email address, and even if my name is “Bettie Page”, they could put the “receiver’s name” as Marilyn Monroe, and it wouldn’t change a thing. I would still be able to collect/accept my money from them.

The only thing that they will see in the confirmation email that gets sent to them after I deposit their money into my account, is something along the lines of “The email transfer that you sent to Marilyn Monroe was accepted and is now complete”, depending on the wording that each bank choses to use.

If they chose to put your name as “blood sucking whore”, “Amy” or she’s bleeding me dry”, you would still get your money. Your real name and information is protected by yours and your banks privacy laws, and is not needed for when he decides on how he is going to address you for filling out his little form. All his confirmation email would say is “Your transfer to blood sucking whore has been accepted” etc. So do not fall for someone saying that they need your real full name for an email transfer.

It is important to remember that an email transfer is NOT a wire transfer, where more personal information would be required.

For a wire transfer, the sender would need to have your real full name, your home address as on file with your bank, complete 7-10 digit bank account number that you’re going to deposit the money into, your banks complete address, and the list goes on and on…its quite scary actually!

As a side note, I guess sometimes my answers aren’t long enough as I don’t put every tiny thing that I can into them lol. I should have added that for me, and my privacy, about 2 years ago I contacted my bank and asked them that my mail and contact information with them be saved and addressed as only having my first and middle initials along with my last name. I didn’t do this in relation to the email transfers, but simply because I’m one of those people who shreds things…because you just never know!

Here is a screen shot of C’s confirmation email he was sent after I opened up his latest email transfer (and yes, I asked him for it to put on here to help lol):

* The orange bars are hiding his banking institution and email.

* The yellow stars are hiding the name he uses for me.

* The Merry Christmas is hiding his real full name, or the name he has chosen to use, or has connected to his bank etc.

* The bow tie is hiding the amount that he gave me.

I hope that helps? If not, please contact your bank, as I can only speak on this from my personal experiences, and your bank may handle things differently. Better to be safe than sorry!

Good luck!

[thesugaringescort]

Why not?

In the past, I have received a several messages, that have mentioned the different ways in which I should be “making money while blogging”, but while reading them, I could never decipher the lingo, which always made it to confusing for me!

I can’t predict what will happen in the future, but what I do know is that I don’t use any of these methods, have no plans to, and definitely in no way do I make any money off of this little blog of mine, but I figured why not share this information with others who may want to try?

After all, who doesn’t want/love money?

http://just-between-friends.com/2013/04/make-money-blogging.html

http://amylynnandrews.com/how-to-make-money-blogging/

http://www.iheartnaptime.net/how-to-monetize-your-blog/

http://christianpf.com/how-to-make-money-with-a-blog/

Good Luck!

[thesugaringescort]

100 "Non-Allowance" Questions to ask your Pot or SD:

A few examples, and in no particular order:

1. What has influenced your decision to want an SB?

2. How long have you been searching for one, and which sites did you use?

3. Have you had any negative experiences with Sugaring? Either in your search for one, or in your previous arrangement?

4. Are there people that you don’t like? What characteristics was it about them, that you didn’t like/enjoy?

5. Where do you consider to be good places for an SD/SB to be romantic?

6. What are some ways that you get embarrassed in public?

7. Are you ever bored? What type of people bore you?

8. What are good leisure activities that you would like for us to try together?

9. Are you okay with me dating others while we are in an arrangement?

10. What is your definition of emotional intimacy?

11. Where and when did you meet your wife/girlfriend? What drew you to her?

12. What sort of future financial plans and goals do you have?

13. What is your biggest goal in starting an arrangement?

14. Have you thought about the ramifications of your actions on your family, co-workers and friends?

15. Tell me what precautions you are going to take to ensure that our arrangement is kept private?

16. What you would do if we ran into someone either of us knew, while out together?

17. What would you want me to do?

18. What are the most important things in life? What do you value?

19. What questions would you like me to answer?

20. What are your bad/good habits?

21. What is your opinion of me being a different nationality or following different religious briefs than yours?

22. What would you do to leave a positive impression on our first date? And future dates?

23. What would your perfect arrangement consist of?

24. What is your opinion of us abstaining from sexual intimacy within our arrangement, even though I am not a virgin?

25. Can you explain to me how a Sugaring arrangement is different than a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship?

26. Do you believe that its possible to have emotional intimacy without physical intimacy?

27. Do you still have feelings for an ex, wife, girlfriend or previous SB?

28. How long did your previous arrangement/relationship last?

29. Do you regret any of those intimate experiences with that person?

30. What are your expectations of intimacy and sexual relations with me? How do they differ from your previous SB etc.

31. Should I be fearful, jealous or envious of any of your previous arrangements, and the different opportunities that you have shared with them?

32. Do you usually follow your heart or your head?

33. What is your opinion about me hanging out with other Sugar Babies and their SD’s, or in places that SD’s frequent?

34. Do you think that someone’s past matters in a current arrangement?

35. How would you react if I told you that I can not meet your daily needs for communication?

36. Do you believe in privacy, even while being open with each other in an arrangement?

37. Do you have any opinions about me working a part time job? What if it takes my time away from you?

38. Do you have any hobbies that you’d like for us to share?

39. Have you ever experimented with legal/illegal drugs? Do you currently?

40. Do you have children? What do you think the impact would be on them if our arrangement was made public?

41. What communication methods do you prefer? What are the most private and effect modes?

42. What is something weird about you, or that you’re afraid to tell me?

43. Tell me something about your work, that isn’t common knowledge.

44. If your friends or co-workers don’t like me for some reason, is that a deal breaker?

45. Have you ever had a one night stand? If you did, do you regret it? Would you do it again if you knew you wouldn’t get caught?

46. How long would your ideal arrangement last?

47. Do you have a criminal record, or any contraction of diseases?

48. I don’t, but would it change your opinion of me if I had one?

49. Are you willing to lose time from your family and friends, in order to see me?

50. How did you discover Sugaring?

51. Do any of your friends have Sugar Babies?

52. What do you think about continuing the search for an Sd/SB, after you’ve recently started an arrangement with one?

53. Do you think love within an arrangement is possible?

54. If your job (or wife) started to have a negative impact on our arrangement, what would you do?

55. How do you handle feelings of jealousy or resentment?

56. Do you have any regrets in life or in past arrangements?

57. What is your ideal vacation/weekend get away?

58. Will we be taking any together?

59. What are your expectations of my free time and our time spent together?

60. If you are allowed to do just one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?

61. What are some things that you take pride in?

62. What is the most difficult component for you, in an arrangement?

63. What happens if we exchange pictures, and down the road decide not to continue our arrangement? How will they be used, shared, kept or destroyed?

64. Would you be ok with me making plans with my friends, on a night that you are free to see me?

65. Will you be OK with me hanging out with you and your friends?

66. If you could change something about females in general, what would it be?

67. What is your opinion on the arts? Do you want to visit museums and galleries together?

68. Do you read the newspaper? How do you stay up on current events?

69. What are you looking for in the long term and short term?

70. If you had three Sugaring rules, what would they be?

71. Which aspect to Sugaring scares you or makes you the most nervous?

72. Are you typically late to events and dates, or end up rescheduling at the last minute?

73. Who has been the most influential person for you so far in life?

74. What are some places that we will definitely need to avoid being seen together?

75. What are some places that we would be safe to visit/experience together?

76. What is the best advice you ever received?

77. What advice would you give to me, regarding Sugaring and life in general?

78. If you had a previous arrangement, why did it end?

79. Are you still friends with that person?

80. Without getting too personal, what were some good moments in that relationship?

81. What were some of the craziest things that you’ve done with her? And some of the sweetest?

82. What will you have accomplished at work one year from now and within our arrangement?

83. If you/we could go on a road trip where would you chose to go? Would I have a say or just be expected to come along on a whim?

84. Are you prepared to respect, and are you comfortable with accepting my school and study schedule?

85. Have you thought about using code names, or certain apps that will keep our communication/contact private?

86. Can you tell me 3 good points about me?

87. What are your expectations of me in our arrangement?

88. What happens if I can not agree or live up to all of them?

89. Have you ever wanted something really bad and then later, not so much? Do you get discouraged easily?

90. Is there anything I could do to make you think that I am an ungrateful or selfish person?

91. What would you do if our communication and dates were limited to set days and periods of times during the day/week/month?

92. Do you like to go window shopping, or are you the type who needs to buy an item?

93. After I had asked you for our first date, was there any part of you that wanted to say no? Why?

94. What are some activities or places, that you would like to do/go on for dates that you haven’t been before?

95. What are your views on open arrangements? Do you know what an open relationship is?

96. What are your future/5 year plans with your wife or girlfriend? Maybe more kids, more travelling etc. How can I help you to achieve this?

97. Is money more important to you or are the relationships you share with people more important?

98. What are some things that you are either passionate about, or anger you?

99. Do you believe that long distance arrangements can work? What about those that are not long in distance but long in the duration between dates?

100. What are your thoughts relating to Sugar Babies as Sex Workers?

This isn’t an end-all-be-all list, as it would go on and on forever…but rather just an idea to get the ball rolling.

Please add on if you want!

[thesugaringescort]

Sitting at a riverside cafe...

* Jealous Friend leans in towards me: “You know you weren’t his first SB and you won’t be his last.” Big smirk on her face.

* I lean back and almost laugh but I hold it in: “I don’t want to be his last SB, but I’ll be his best.” Sips on peach piña-colada.

​Don’t let ugly personalities block your view of the beautiful scenery.

[lucy-memphis]

That last line. Now aint that the truth.